7 subtle signs of self-sabotage in a relationship

— Including dozens of real-life examples to help you spot them By Ashley Laderer   One sign of self-sabotaging is obsessing over your partner’s location when they’re not around. Conversely, you may be distant with your partner and not put any effort into the relationship. It may also be a sign of self-sabotage if you …

6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship

A therapist explains how to know if ethical nonmonogamy is right for you. By Marie Southard Ospina Many of us grow up alongside narratives of a “happily ever after” one-soulmate-kind-of love, but this cultural ideal is far from a universal reality—or even a universal desire. Just like someone might have several friends who meet various …

Top 5 NSFW sites to learn what porn didn’t teach you

From literal “eduporn” to scientifically-backed demonstrations. By Mashable SEA In the United States, sex education is pretty poor; some states don’t require it at all. Because of this, porn often replaces proper sex education — which is a disservice to everyone. Porn is a filmed performance. Everyone is positioned so all is on display, so …

What is BDSM?

Your Queer Guide to Kink, Domination, Bondage, and More Queer sex experts answer your most commonly asked questions about BDSM. By Evelyn Bauer Okay, first things first: BDSM is hot, and I’m not the only one who thinks so. Just look at the latex, leather, and chain outfits featured in Fashion Week collections earlier this …

Everything you need to know about subspace and subdrop in BDSM

By Ella Glover Kinky sex is becoming more mainstream by the year, with BDSM – which stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission and sadism and masochism – is one of the more popular options.  Generally, BDSM involves two major roles: the dominant and the submissive, the latter of which is the topic of …