February 2009 – Dr Dick's Sex Advice

February 25, 2009June 25, 2018

Sex EDGE-U-cation with Scott Daddy – Podcast #103 – 02/25/09

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Hey sex fans,

Today I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming a friend and colleague, Scott Mallinger, a.k.a.

Scott Daddy, to those who know and love him. (So that’s why I call him Sir.) Just kidding!

Scott is a BDSM journalist, lecturer, leather titleholder and Dom all rolled into that most charming package. And he has the most wonderful sense of humor, as you will soon discover. Scott is my second guest in this new series of podcast interviews called Sex EDGE-U-cation.

Through this series we’ll take a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles. We’ll touch on topics both familiar and exotic. And I will be chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the

world.

This new series will continue to appear on Wednesdays. My regular weekly podcast, which often contains The Erotic Mind interviews, will continue on Mondays.

Scott and I discuss:

The meaning of Power Play.
Kink — behavior outside the social norm. But how decides the norm?
Cathartic and recreational aspects of BDSM.
Working definitions for: Negotiation, Safeword, Scene and Aftercare.

Be sure to visit Scott Daddy at his website: scottdaddy.com

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Today’s podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Stockroom.

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February 23, 2009June 25, 2018

The Erotic Mind of James Lear — Podcast #102 — 02/23/09

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Hey sex fans,

I have an exceptional show in store for you. Today, we return to my series of interviews with noted erotic artists called The Erotic Mind, As you know, we’ve been chatting with these ingenious people in hopes of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

Sex fans, I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming the reigning king of gay erotic fiction. No wait, I need to correct that. My guest is actually the reigning king of all erotica, the amazing James Lear.

James is a prolific author and novelist. His work is recognized all over the world as topnotch. In fact, he was named “Best Writer” at the 2008 Erotic Awards. No mean feat that, I can tell ya.

And as a special treat, James will share with us a juicy morsel of the delectable fruit of his Erotic Mind. You don’t want to miss this, people!

James and I discuss:

His nom de plume?
His very successful career and how it began.
His diverse audience of both women and men, gay and straight.
Who is writing gay erotic fiction these days.
The Slash Fiction phenomenon.
Breaking down traditional writing niches.
Avoiding clichés when creating sex scenes.

And like I said, James serves up a juicy bit of his own erotica.

Be sure to visit James at his MySpace page HERE!

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: The Right Position Erotic Boutique.

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February 20, 2009January 8, 2013

Swingtime!

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Product Review!

REVIEW #32

Hey sex fans!

I have two more outstanding DVD reviews for you. My Three Way
and Amazing Sex For Women.

On several occasions I’ve called my audience’s attention to the fantastic video work my friend and colleague, Dr Michael Perry, is been doing over at AIM (Access Instructional Media). And for good reason too, because Michael is a master of the sexual enrichment genre. (See REVIEW #7 below.)

As an aside, Michael was my guest for a couple of podcasts chats — #61 and #62. During our conversation, Michael discusses his work and the astounding success he is having with his video line. Be sure to check out these podcasts.

Just for the record, Michael’s DVDs knock me out. In terms of sex education and sexual enrichment the AIM titles are unparalleled.

Let’s take a look at each of these DVDs each in turn.

We start with My Three Way — Approx 120 minutes $19.95

The promotional copy on the DVD box reads: “How is it possible for couples to bring a third person into their intimate relationship? Many have thought about it. Lots of people fantasize about it. Some couples are actually practitioners in Open Relationship lifestyles.
• Find out why couples do it.
• See what they dare to do…to supercharge their relationship!
• Be tempted to arrange your own three way…at least in your fantasies!

The DVD begins with a quick overview of the entire Intimacy Guide Series.

First off, we meet couple #1 in a cocktail lounge gettin all lovey-dovey. Another woman, an acquaintance of the male partner winds up getting involved. (Surprise!) Before things get all hot and heavy though there is a brief spliced-in interview with the couple about why and how they do what they do. Curiously enough, this is not a distraction from the action, but it actually adds to the story telling. What follows is a beautiful 2-gal and 1-guy 3-way. The sexual interaction in this piece is nicely shared between all the players, including gal-on-gal play.

There’s another interview snippet followed by a sweet gal-on-gal segment.

This is followed by yet another brief interview segment and a very sexy 2-guy and 1-gal 3-way. All the sexual interaction in this piece is focused on the woman; the men do not interact sexually. This may appeal to some, but it will be disappointing to others.

There is a bonus featurette on this DVD called My Birthday Surprise, which is another fine example of a 2-gal and 1-guy 3-way.

There is ample and diverse sexual expression in all the scenes. And there is some nice use of sex toys too, which really adds to the production.

This is a wonderful primer on the ins and outs (no pun intended) of initiating and successfully executing a 3-way. Like the promotional copy on the box suggests, if you are actually looking to open your relationship to include a 3rd or just think the 3-way idea is hot fantasy material, this is the DVD for you.

Here’s a tip: for those of you who can’t, for whatever reason, buy this DVD you can rent it HERE for viewing online in Dr Dick’s How To Video Library.

Remember, this is not porn. While the content is sexually explicit, the material is presented in a tasteful and romantic manner. Kudos to Michael Perry for producing this delightful and informative female oriented video.

Next we have — Amazing Sex For Women — 90 minutes $19.95

The promotional copy on the DVD box reads: “The Bonk’er Spring is a truly revolutionary sex toy invented with the women’s pleasure in mind. This video shows you sex techniques not possible with any other sex gear. See our fun loving couples bounce weightlessly towards powerful orgasm after orgasm!”

What we have here is basically an infomercial for a rather amazing sex innovation from Bonkum, a

company that develops sex furniture. It’s part spring, part swing and part sling. Try to say that three times fast!

With the help of a few adventuresome couples (and a 2-gal, one guy threesome) this video shows how easy and enjoyable it is to have a very athletic and versatile sex life. The Bonkum swing is really interesting and amazingly adaptable. Makes creative sex play not only enjoyable, but also effortless.

This video is full of wonderful eye candy of the heterosexual variety. Too bad there’s not any man on man action to please the rest of us. (Perhaps that will happen in another video.) But there is a very nice light BDSM scene that will get your motor racing.

For those of you who can’t buy this DVD, for whatever reason, you can rent it HERE for viewing online in Dr Dick’s How To Video Library.

Again, I want to emphasize something about all the AIM titles. Each is very sexy and sensual; most are sexually explicit; but none of them can rightly be called porn. This is an important distinction, because the tone and focus of the AIM titles is completely different from the tone and focus of porn. And even people who are put off by the notion of porn will have no objection to these videos.

ENJOY!

…all my reviews here

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February 18, 2009June 25, 2018

Dart Returns – Podcast #101 – 02/18/09

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Hey sex fans,

I am delighted to welcome back my distinguished guest, Dart, for Part 2 of our chat about Power Exchange, BDSM and role playing . He is the Toronto based yet internationally known and respected bondage artist, educator, leather titleholder and Dom.

This is my new series of podcast interviews called Sex EDGE-U-cation. It’s all about the fascinating world of fetish sex and kink and alternative lifestyles. We’ll touch on topics both familiar and exotic. We’ll chat with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this amazing interview, look for Podcast #99 on Dr Dick’s Podcasts page. Look for the tab at the top of the page.

Dart and I discuss:

Working definitions for Scene, Negotiation, Safe Word.
Learning to embrace one’s kinks and fetishes.
How he got his start as a Dom.
Puppy play and other role-play.
What he’s into as a Dom.
Tips for the novice on approaching the BDSM scene.
His sexual heroes.

Click the banner below to visit Dart’s website.

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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February 16, 2009June 25, 2018

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #100 — 02/16/09

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Hey sex fans,

HOLY COW, it’s another milestone! Last week Wednesday’s show marked my second anniversary of podcasting. Today’s show is my 100th Podcast! Isn’t that fuckin amazing?

100th

Those of you who are paying attention know that I’ve added a second podcast per week, on Wednesdays. And for those of you who haven’t been paying attention; listen up! I needed to add another podcast per week because I’m doing a new series of interviews called Sex EDGE-U-cation.

This series will take a look at the fascinating world of fetish sex and kink. We’ll touch on topics both familiar and exotic. I guarantee that our investigation will be interesting, stimulating and very informative. And I can say that with such confidence because I will be chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.

This new series, which premiered last Wednesday, February 11th, will continue to appear on Wednesdays. This, my original weekly podcast, will continue on Mondays. How sweet is that?

Today we take a break from The Erotic Mind interviews and return to our traditional question and answer format. I have a hot load of oh so stimulating questions.

Todd, the budding kinkster, returns with more questions.
JOE D want to get it up the ass, but he don’t know how.
Zoey’s husband thinks she’s just OK in the sack. WHAT?
Mike is takin the submissive thing a bit far, in my estimation.
Tom, the American, and Matt, the Brit, both have the same problem.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: ROPEX.

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February 11, 2009June 25, 2018

Sex EDGE-U-cation with Dart – Podcast #99 – 02/11/09

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Hey sex fans,

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT, SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT! Today’s podcast marks my 2nd anniversary of bringing you these audio editions of my sex advice column. 6a00e54fb949ec8834010536ad8b6e970b-800wi

To celebrate this milestone I’ve decided to launch a new series of podcast interviews called Sex EDGE-U-cation.

In this series we will take a look at the fascinating world of kink and fetish sex. We’ll touch on topics both familiar and exotic. I guarantee that our investigation will be thought-provoking, stimulating and very informative. And I can say that with such confidence because we will be chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.

This new series, which premieres today, will continue to appear on Wednesdays. However, my regular weekly podcast will continue on Mondays.

I am exceptionally pleased to welcome my first guest in this series; the Toronto based yet internationally known and respected bondage artist, educator, leather titleholder and Dom. My inaugural guest is none other than the man they call Dart. You know you’re good when you only have to use one name.

Dart and I discuss:

Working definitions for Power Play, BDSM, Fetish and Kink.
Why would “normal” people get involved in this stuff.
The role of endorphins and adrenaline in power play.
Being both Dom and Sub.
The pain/pleasure edge.
Cathartic and recreational aspects of Power Exchange.

Click the banner below to visit Dart’s website.

Today’s Special Anniversary Podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Stockroom.

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February 10, 2009May 17, 2011

Erotica Give Away Winners Announced!

And the winners are:

Best Sex Writing 2009

Danielle from Minneapolis, MN
Nicole from San Antonio, TX
Pamela from Mission Viejo, CA
Alyssa from Rochester, NY
Tom from Chicago, IL

Best Sex Writing 2009

Jordan from Boulder, CO
Molly from Washington, DC
Lisa from Norwalk, CT
Robert from Oakland, CA
Brent from Fort Lauderdale, FL

Congratulations WINNERS!

And thanks to everyone who participated. Watch for other give always in coming months.

February 9, 2009June 25, 2018

Jolene Hui Returns – Podcast #98 – 02/09/09

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Hey sex fans,

Today I bring you more fun with Dick and Jane, I mean Jolene. That would be the erotic author,

poetess, and burlesque queen, Jolene Hui. She joins us again this week to finish the conversation we began last week. This is, of course, part of my series of interviews called The Erotic Mind.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this delightful and provocative discussion look for last week’s podcast, #97 on the DR DICK’S PODCASTS page at the top of this page.

And be sure to visit Jolene’s site HERE!

Today Jolene and I discuss:

What distinguishes erotica from porn.
How reading or writing erotica can enrich a person’s life.
What she looks for in the work of other erotic artists.
Advice for aspiring authors.
What the future hold for her and her work

Jolene also serves up two luscious morsels of her own girl-on-girl erotica.

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Listen, sex fans, there’s some BIG news to tell you about. I am about to launch another series of podcast interviews called — Sex EDGE-U-cation.

We will be taking a look at the fetish and kink world. My guests for this series will be prominent practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles. We will discuss topics like BDSM and power play. I am confident that this new series, which premieres this Wednesday, February 11th, will be interesting, stimulating and very informative. Don’t miss it!

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: The Right Position Erotic Boutique.

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February 6, 2009January 8, 2013

Tickle Me Ophoria – Bliss No. 5

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REVIEW #31

Hey sex fans,

Today we have a swell, 100% pure silicone vibrator from the good people at Ophoria Toys.

Joy and Dixie do the honors.

Joy & Dixie — Reviews #6, 12, 16, 17, 18, 23, 27, 28

Ophoria Bliss #5 —— $60.00

Joy: “Here we have a very nice high-end vibe. It’s your standard issue bullet shape — straight and smooth. There are no ruffles or ridges, so to speak.”
Dixie: “There are no twists or turns, either. And I’m partial to at least some texture to my insertables. Give me some bumps or ribs for goddess sake.”
Joy: “I’m with Dixie on that. But we both know that some gals prefer their pleasure wands to be a more conventional shape and texture. And if you are one such gal, then you’ll love Ophoria Bliss #5 a lot.”
Dixie: “It’s just short of 8” in length and just over an inch and a half at its thickest.”
Joy: “The velvety smooth skin is 100% pure Japanese silicone, which is like totally top of the line. When you buy quality like this you can be assured that it will be phthalate-free and hypoallergenic too. So you can’t go wrong there.”
Dixie: “The very best thing about Ophoria Bliss #5 is it has five vibration modes and it is super quiet. And that too signifies quality to me.
Joy: “So here I was all ready to take a bath with my new friend. I mean who among us doesn’t love a little thrill in the tub, right? Well, good thing I read the fine print. Ophoria Bliss #5 is splash proof, not waterproof. Oh ok! That was close.”
Dixie: “I guess that means there isn’t a watertight seal on the battery compartment. See how it pays to read the instructions before ya take your new toys for a ride.”
Joy: “Speaking of taking your first ride; be warned, the first set of batteries are not included in the package. As you all know, this is a pet peeve for all the Dr Dick Review Crew. Would it kill the manufacturers to supply the first set of batteries? We all think that would show you really care about your customers.”
Dixie: “That’s for damn sure! And while we’re on this subject of batteries; a word to the Ophoria Toy people. Folks, you don’t say what size battery is needed for your product on its box. That’s a bit of a marketing faux pas, wouldn’t you say? I mean, if I had to stock up on batteries for this baby when I was making the purchase; how would I know what size to buy?
Joy: “Not including batteries is one thing, but making your customers guess the battery size needed is another thing all together. As it turns out, the Ophoria Bliss #5 takes two double-A batteries.
Dixie: “I did like the simple one button operation, which toggles through the 5 pulse patterns. And pleasurable patterns they are too! Oh and you should know that instead of having to rotate through all the patterns to get to the “off” position, like most multi-speed vibes; on the Ophoria Bliss #5 all you have to do is hold the button down to turn it off. I like that.”

…full review here

ENJOY!

February 4, 2009May 17, 2011

Valentine’s Day Give Away!

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To enter this drawing, all you have to do is send an email to: dr_dick@drdicksexadvice.com.

Put the name of volume you wish to receive in the Subject line. And include your mailing address in the email.

The first 5 people to get an email to me for each volume will WIN! It’s that simple. One winner per household.

Winners will be discreetly announced in this space next Wednesday, 02/11/09. And you will receive a confirmation email from me.

Thanks to Cleis Press for their generous contributions.

February 2, 2009June 25, 2018

The Erotic Mind of Jolene Hui – Podcast #97 – 02/02/09

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Hey sex fans,

Today’s show begins with Miss Dolly Parton singin’ her little heart out. I know what you’re thinking; why that particular song, Dr Dick? Well I’ll tell ya! I’m setting the mood for my very special guest. Today I have the distinct pleasure of introducing you to one of the bad girls of erotic fiction. I am honored to have with me — the ever beautiful and oh so talented Jolene Hui.

As you know, we’ve been chatting with noted erotic artists from all over the globe in this series of interviews I’m calling: The Erotic Mind. We’re looking to uncover something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

Jolene is a journalist, a playwright and a prolific author of literary and erotic fiction and just about anything else her fingers feel like typing. She’s as sizzlin’ hot as her fiction and has a wicked sense of humor, as you will soon discover. But wait there’s more! Jolene treats us to a very explicit and oh so appetizing morsel from one of her short stories. Believe me sex fans; this is not to be missed!

You can visit Jolene online HERE!

Jolene and I discuss:

Why she writes under her real name.
Her successful career and how it began.
Where she finds her inspiration.
Building the sexual tension in erotic fiction.
Writing for different audiences.

And as promised, Jolene serves up a juicy selection of her own erotica.

(click on the thumbnails to get more information about these volumes)

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: ROPEX.

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