Sex Advice With An Edge
By Lindsey Ellefson If you were raised to see sex and sexuality as a source of shame and embarrassment, you might notice that such feelings tend to linger, no matter how educated, open-minded, and open-legged you consider yourself today. If you come from a religious background, it’s probably even worse. Fortunately, many religious leaders and …
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— and What to Do by Crystal Raypole Ask anyone if love is complicated, and there’s a good chance they’ll probably say, “yes,” or “sometimes” at the very least. Part of love’s complications stems from the fact that it can be challenging when the person you love doesn’t feel the same way — or when …
By Ashley Laderer To introduce sex toys into your relationship gently, be sure to avoid complaining or critiquing your partner’s sexual performance. You should also be direct with your desires, but willing to compromise based on what your partner wants. Looking for a toy together can also help you to come to a decision with …
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— An age-by-age guide to sex education for parents By Rebecca Strong It’s never too early to discuss gender identity or consent. Non-judgmental, inclusive, body-positive language is key. Teens say their parents have the greatest influence over their decisions about sex. Talking about sex with your kids may feel overwhelming, but it’s important to keep …
Opening things up is more complicated than hot sex with lots of partners. It’s also going to involve some intense conversations, and having the right words can be a big help. By Sophie Saint Thomas Open relationships are becoming incredibly mainstream—more and more people are recognizing that monogamy only works for some people, and there’s …
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The 3 Different Forms & How To Explore by Kelly Gonsalves If you’re a woman who likes being in control or a man who likes playing a more subordinate role, you might be interested—or already finding yourself involved in—female-led relationships. What is a female-led relationship, or FLR? A female-led relationship, or FLR, is traditionally a …
“Experimenting with your identity is not a negative, but the toxic tropes around doing so can be.” By Gina Tonic Sexuality exists on a spectrum and if one end holds people who consider themselves to be 100 per cent gay or lesbian, towards the opposite end you’ll find a space for those who identify as …
— Here Are 6 Questions I Get Asked About Sex In Long-Term Relationships By Dania Schiftan, Ph.D. As part of the 10-step program for increased sexual responsiveness that I lead women through in my new book Coming Soon, I also share dozens of questions I commonly receive from people about the sex they’re having (or …
By Gigi Engle We are all experiencing pandemic fatigue. Whether you’re coping well or poorly, you’re still coping. And because the world is drenched in stress, developing effective coping mechanisms has never been more important. Enter BDSM. While I hate to bring up the most obvious examples, Fifty Shades of Grey and Netflix’s 365 Days …
By Mark Hay Bringing sex toys into partnered sex can open up entirely new realms of pleasure for everyone involved. Toys do things our bodies just cannot, like pulse and vibrate. These novel sensations can help many people have more consistent and frequent — or complex and intense — orgasmic experiences. And the sheer variety …
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by Jillian Goltzman Online resources and telehealth has made couples therapy more accessible than ever. If you’re looking to engage in self-improvement and enhance your relationship, there’s a multitude of techniques and exercises at your fingertips. Couples therapy techniques Reflective listening “Reflective listening is a highly beneficial exercise where the couple take turns being active …
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By Katy Waldman “I’ve been kneeling here about ten minutes in the sheer black blouse, the crotchless panties. I don’t dare get up long enough to check my makeup. My back is straight, and my palms and cunt are trembly. The motion-sensor light outside the house blinks on, and then the door swings open.” So …
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The brave new world of virtual reality porn has a lot of legitimate draws — but how will it affect sex and relationships with people IRL? Here, experts discuss. By Jillian Dara It was only a matter of time before tech entered the bedroom. We’re not talking about the latest sex toys or sex-improving apps …
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by Davey Davis While they might look the same to the untrained eye, BDSM is the opposite of Fight Club: The first rule of BDSM is that you talk about BDSM. A lot. One of the many things that annoys me about mainstream depictions of kink is how infrequently you see negotiation—the actual conversation—between kinksters …
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It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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