Sex Advice With An Edge
— Here Are The Signs To Look For + What To Do By Stephanie Barnes If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1. For anonymous and confidential help, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 or TTY1- 800-787-3224) and speak with a trained advocate for free as many times as you need. They’re …
— Across the life span — from infancy to the teen years, midlife and old age — boys and men are more likely to die than girls and women By Tara Parker-Pope and Caitlin Gilbert A silent crisis in men’s health is shortening the life spans of fathers, husbands, brothers and sons. For years, the …
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By Row Light Myths surrounding sexuality are nothing new, and they have long played a role in how we treat the sexes differently across cultures. Though (most of us) now believe in the female orgasm and that consent is not only preferable but necessary for any sexual act, there is still plenty of misinformation making …
— What it’s like having sex again after sexual trauma BY Nina Miyashita It took me four years to realise that what I’d been through was sexual trauma. It was just under a year into my current relationship when I had the revelation. I knew that my sexual past prior to our relationship was littered …
by Kimberly Wolf, M.Ed. Love is one of the highest-impact subjects you can teach. Fortunately, it’s also one of the easiest to broach. If you’re tempted to open up a discussion of romantic relationships with “no dating until you’re 30!” you wouldn’t be alone or entirely misguided. Throughout history, conventional wisdom held that fathers should …
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Scrolling next to each other counts. By Nikki Campo During the first year-ish of the pandemic, I counted down the minutes until I could crash into bed. But every night, as depleted as I felt, I stayed awake to indulge in a guilty pleasure best enjoyed alone: an hour of TV and my phone. So …
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Defining the terms and risks that come with unconventional relationships By Michelle Talsma Everson Chris Deaton and Elisha Thompson have been together over a dozen years and share a home lined with photos of family and friends in the college town of Tempe, Ariz., where they both work at Arizona State University. Both are graduate …
— The woman who found BDSM in her 50s “Sexuality-wise I mostly find people who are not into BDSM boring; they aren’t sexy or open enough for me.” Anjya is 58, and is always submissive in her BDSM relationships. But she won’t be won’t be submissive to just anyone… Ever wondered what kind of sex …
by Steve Lenius Let me begin this column with what some might consider a five-letter word that’s taboo: A-G-I-N-G. I’ve been thinking a fair amount about aging lately, especially as it relates to the leather/BDSM/fetish community. I have written in this column about leather and aging before (in 2001, 2002, and 2007). But two things …
By Erin Magner While the history of women and pleasure is fraught with stigma, it appears we’re in the midst of a pleasure revolution. Now, female-identifying founders are creating pornography, sex toys, sex-education platforms, and erotica, all of which normalizes and celebrates a woman’s right to get off. Not only are consumers turned on by …
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Everything you need to know about the high-risk kink Professionals explain consent and more. By Ana Valens Chances are you’ve heard the term “edge play” before, either while browsing a BDSM guide or chatting with a friend about Domination and submission. Like many kink terms, it has taboo energy to it. You aren’t supposed to …
Forty-five-year-old women need a version of “the talk,” because our bodies are changing in ways that are both really weird and really uncomfortable. By Lisa Selin Davis If only, on your 45th birthday, a doctor would sit you down, look you squarely in the eyes and say, “Here’s what’s going to happen: Eventually, your pubic …
By Simone Paget When I was younger, attraction, desire, love and sex were all tangled together in one big elastic band ball of feelings. I equated physical attraction with romantic love and found the two nearly indistinguishable. If I was attracted to someone, I’d immediately make it my goal to date them, often sacrificing my …
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By Kasandra Brabaw In 1990, a group of women gathered at Antioch College to talk about the growing problem of rape on their campus, drafting the very first version of the school’s Sexual Offense Prevention Policy (SOPP). In doing so, they created what we now know as affirmative consent, decades before anyone else began using …
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Rediscovering Buddhism’s LGBT history of gay monks, homoerotic samurai, and gender-nonconforming practitioners and gods By Dr. Jay Michaelson It’s no secret that many LGBTQ people have found refuge in the dharma, and it’s easy to see why. It helps us work with the wounds of homophobia, recognizing internalized self-hatred for the delusion and dukkha [suffering] …
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