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By Mary Grace Garis Even as BDSM comes to popular light via media portrayals and increased openness about intimate habits and preferences, much about the sexual practice remains misunderstood and incorrectly presumed to be negative and abusive—especially in those media portrayals. This is perhaps most recently depicted in that degrading scene in Hulu’s Normal People, …
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By Lisa Bonos Can’t stop fighting with your partner about whose turn it is to do the dishes? Looking at China’s uptick in divorces that followed their coronavirus-related lockdown and wondering if a similar trend in the United States might follow? Well, here’s encouraging news for America’s sweethearts. A recent Monmouth University poll found that …
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Than Watching My Partner Sleep With Another Man The taboo of bearing the humiliation that comes with being a “cuck” can actually be very pleasurable. Confessions is a series of essays on personal experiences, many of which have been kept secret for a long time. By sharing these previously confidential accounts, we explore our own …
Growing into my identity By Tatum Lindquist As an empathic perfectionist, conflicts stung me. I used to perceive any conflict as a reflection of my flawed character. It took years of inner wrestling to understand that conflicts were opportunities to grow, not threatening, but nurturing in their tumult. All too often, humans keep to their …
Testosterone is often prescribed to boost a low sex drive, but the research on its long-term effects remains questionable. by Sarah Ellis The hormone testosterone (called “T” for short in medical circles) has long been associated with the male physique, athleticism, and a heightened sex drive. But now, there’s an idea making the internet search …
by Malic White Many romantic partners are quarantined in separate homes, and online think pieces are falling all over themselves to teach us how to sext and how to plan the perfect long-distance date. While some couples can keep their relationships afloat by flinging the occasional nude into the cloud, those who crave consensual power …
Go ahead and reinstall Tinder in self-isolation. Or, if that doesn’t work, join a virtual sext bunker. By Allison P. Davis Some things about the human spirit persist, even in crisis: namely, our hunger for one another. Lauren, an editor in Austin, started seeing someone a month ago, and by date three, they’d declared their …
Far from being a recent or 21st-century phenomenon, people have chosen, courageously, to trans gender throughout history By Jen Manion One summer night in 1836, police found George Wilson drunk on the street in the Lower East Side in New York City. An officer took Wilson to the station. The officer believed that Wilson was …
For couples physically separated by coronavirus, here are a few strategies to make your newly long-distance relationship feel a little bit closer. By Vanessa Marin The coronavirus lockdown has separated many of us from our loved ones — in some instances, even our partners and spouses. As a relationship and sex therapist, I’ve been working …
Couples Who Regularly Show Physical Affection Have Happier Relationships by John Anderer Cuddling, hugging, and touching that doesn’t lead to sex can help build a stronger and happier relationship and marriage, according to a new study conducted at Binghamton University. The research team examined the effect of non-sexual physical intimacy on relationship satisfaction across a …
Young men are keen to talk about consent. So say sex educators, who are helping them move the conversation beyond ‘no means no’ by Franki Cookney In a small classroom tucked away up a few flights of stone steps, two dozen young men are reflecting on their chat-up lines. “Sometimes I’ve gone in and …
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Cancer can change how you feel about you, your body and your sexuality. By Good Housekeeping Cancer changes everything. The diagnosis, the treatment and the aftermath can affect your work, your finances, your relationships and, even more fundamentally, how you think and feel about you, your body, your sexuality. The impact of treatment for breast …
By Melody Thomas Humans don’t deal all that well with uncertainty – not knowing what’s about to happen causes us more stress than knowing for certain something bad is. In the face of a global pandemic, where the outcomes are largely unknown, many romantic relationships will experience an increase in tension and conflict. Uncertainty breeds …
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It’s still a bad idea to sleep with someone new, even if both of you have been social distancing. By Alex Abad-Santos In 2012, the immortal chanteuse Britney Spears sang about the erotic thrill of the apocalypse. “I can’t take it, take it, take no more. Never felt like, felt like this before,” she sang, …
Grab your collar and leash, pup. By Ana Valens Puppies, kitties, and ponies: What do these things all have in common? If you’re a kinkster, then you probably know the answer. That’s right, they’re all part of pet play. In the BDSM world, pet play is incredibly popular across sexualities, genders, and kink preferences. Many …
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