Sex Advice With An Edge
By Gigi Engle We are all experiencing pandemic fatigue. Whether you’re coping well or poorly, you’re still coping. And because the world is drenched in stress, developing effective coping mechanisms has never been more important. Enter BDSM. While I hate to bring up the most obvious examples, Fifty Shades of Grey and Netflix’s 365 Days …
by Jillian Goltzman Online resources and telehealth has made couples therapy more accessible than ever. If you’re looking to engage in self-improvement and enhance your relationship, there’s a multitude of techniques and exercises at your fingertips. Couples therapy techniques Reflective listening “Reflective listening is a highly beneficial exercise where the couple take turns being active …
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We’ve coupled love to marriage and marriage to gems, and all three thrive on the assumption of rarity. What would it mean for love to be common? By Jaya Saxena In South Africa there are mines full of more diamonds than humanity could ever want or need. You won’t get the chance to see most …
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Because the words we use matter. By Ali Pantony Terminology and naming are essential to marginalised communities, and many have their own language to communicate who they are and the societal struggles they face. For LGBTQ+ allies, committing these terms to memory is a crucial part of furthering our allyship and learning about the community. …
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— Now What About Dating? Don’t let body image concerns and emotional changes stop you from seeking love by Susan Moeller Six years ago, Deanna Savage had breast cancer, followed by a double mastectomy and reconstruction. After more than a year of surgeries and treatment, she returned to online dating. But her body felt different …
Because they *are* still hooking up By Michal Stein January is not a particularly sexy month. The sparkle of the December holiday season has faded. It’s cold and dark and, even in the best of times, going out may not be particularly inviting. But in a school setting, there was always something alluring about a …
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It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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The hacker demanded to be paid in Bitcoin, because of course they did. By Andrew Paul Sex toy tech is a burgeoning industry often eliciting cheap jokes from people, but it truly presents some serious implications for consumers’ digital privacy and security rights. But hey, no one says these two reactions are mutually exclusive. Don’t …
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– whether on your own or with a partner How to have a better orgasm is easier than you think, all you need to do is follow our simple, expert rules… By Faye M Smith Want to know how to have a better orgasm? Course you do. There’s nothing worse than having an orgasm that …
A First-Timer’s Guide to Getting Hard By Adrienne Santos-Longhurst Got questions about erections? Like why do they happen, and usually at the most random times? Or what the heck is dribbling out of it? And what’s up with raging semis? Keep reading, because we’re answering all of your burning questions here. (Not that your boner …
For starters, know that if your partner won’t go down on you or perform oral sex on you, it has to do with *them,* not you. By AnnaMarie Houlis Oral sex is like the cream cheese icing on a red velvet cake. For many, licking it off before indulging in the rest is irresistible. For …
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Here’s How to Talk About It. I teach sex ed. In light of a recent report on exploitation of children on the site Pornhub, I have some talking points for parents. By Shafia Zaloom The New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof’s recent report on videos of child sexual abuse on the website Pornhub may have …
Cardi B’s song WAP and the Netflix show Sex Education place female orgasms on centre stage in popular culture. By Jane Chalmers But female orgasms are also the subject of serious academic research. Here’s a snapshot of what research tells us about female orgasms, what we don’t know, and what researchers want to find out. …
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“Kink Helped My Mental Health.” By Yasmin Lajoie Two years ago, 38-year-old Alice* suddenly went profoundly deaf. She lost her job, her boyfriend dumped her and the relentless tinnitus she experienced led her to have suicidal thoughts. “Before I went deaf, I was stable,” she tells me. “I had trauma but I could live with …
By Marcos Benhamu When Oliver* and his wife opened their 20-year marriage in 2017, a few things had changed since he was last on the dating scene. “I am older, I am a bit tubby around the edges. I can look back at my old pictures and think, ‘Oh my God! I used to be …
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