Sex Advice With An Edge
By Jera Brown This guide isn’t going to be exhaustive, or it would be book-length. And, in fact, there are some great books about how to get started in BDSM. For starters, I recommend checking out The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Playing Well With Others: …
Grindr has both defined itself by and come to define the language of queer men. One of the most recent trends to be seen across people’s profiles is the rise of the hunt for ‘gym buddies’. By Louis Staples Downloading Grindr – then deleting it, before re-downloading it, only to delete it again – has …
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By Hafsa Lodi ‘Orgasm’ and ‘Islam‘ are two words you don’t typically see together. I never thought I’d use them in the same sentence and certainly never imagined I’d have the guts to write publicly about sex. It just isn’t something you talk about as a Muslim, especially if you’re female. And so I can’t …
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– but why? By Catriona Harvey-Jenner When a Body Shop advert for self-love hit screens this week, the response said a lot about the way society views women. “Go and grab the most phallic object you can find!” yelled the Maid of Honour on my laptop screen. It was the first lockdown, I was on …
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By Erica Sloan Having an orgasm is inherently physical in nature, but the mind also plays a profound role in the event. In fact, there’s an entire facet of the experience that happens within a region of the brain called the genital sensory cortex (aka brain crotch), which you can activate with focused mindfulness. Way …
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By Ally Head Knowing how to talk about your fetish can feel tricky at the best of times. When’s the right moment to bring it up? How much detail do you go into? And how do you navigate if your partner isn’t into the same kinks as you? If you’re on the fence about bringing …
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By Sarah Sloane In our culture, many of us have this fantasy — let’s call it “magical knowing” — that if our partner is really into us, they will magically be able to automatically know what we need, and what feels good for us, without us having to say it. It permeates our culture; think …
Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships are gaining popularity. But what exactly are they and how do you practice them? by Sian Ferguson Ethical non-monogamy, also known as consensual non-monogamy, is a relationship style that’s been in the spotlight lately. There are many ways to practice ethical nonmonogamy. For some, that might look like polyamory, …
American culture still treats disinterest in sex as something that needs to be fixed. What if any amount of desire—including none—was okay? By Angela Chen For more than half a century, the modern industry of sex therapists, educators, and experts has been eager to tell us whether we’re having enough sex, or the right kind …
The best lesbian sex positions will spice up your sex life By Emilie Lavinia Trying out the best lesbian sex positions could take your sex life to a whole new level. Expect pleasure, intimacy, and mind-blowing orgasms with our expert-approved positions. When it comes to lesbian sex, there’s a lot more to it than both …
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Turns out, “34+35” is just one of the hottest oral sex positions out there. By Maressa Brown Hot vax summer is here — so what better time to get more creative as we get back to getting it on? Sure, the same old vanilla sex positions are a great fall-back, but we’d argue this sultry …
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by Jessa Zimmerman, M.A. One of the top issues that present in couples and sex therapy is a difference in levels of sexual desire. A discrepancy in desire is normal, but sometimes couples will struggle with conflict or avoidance around sex if they don’t manage that difference together. Sexless marriage, generally defined as having sex …
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Why Some People Love Them + How To Try by Morgan Mandriota Some folks dream of being able to someday have an orgasm, while others get off from having their partner spoil their big O. Yep, you read that right—ruined orgasms are totally a thing that some people enjoy. If you’re curious, here’s what you …
& How To Fix One by Kelly Gonsalves If you’ve found yourself in a sexless relationship, you likely have a lot of questions on your mind: What causes a relationship to become sexless? Is a sexless relationship healthy? And maybe the scariest question to ask yourself, especially if you’ve been in this relationship a long …
by Steve Lenius Let me begin this column with what some might consider a five-letter word that’s taboo: A-G-I-N-G. I’ve been thinking a fair amount about aging lately, especially as it relates to the leather/BDSM/fetish community. I have written in this column about leather and aging before (in 2001, 2002, and 2007). But two things …
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