Sex Advice With An Edge
— Go slow and use lots of lube. By Anna Iovine So, you’ve heard about “pegging” and want to try it for yourself. Pegging is usually referred to a cis woman penetrating a cis man with a strap-on dildo. You’ve come to the right place; here’s how to have strap-on sex as a straight couple. …
— And Why It’s So Important To By Jeannine Cintron I will never forget the time I found my eight-year-old watching porn. I was in shock at first and had no idea how to handle it, but I swallowed my inhibitions and used the opportunity to open the lines of communication around sex, which went …
—Because No One Should Be Made To Feel Bad About Enjoying Non-Kinky Sex By Sara Youngblood Gregory Cultural narratives around sex and sexual preferences have long been weaponized to make people feel embarrassed or ashamed of what they like. Indeed, the history of sex-negativity in this country is so rich—propped up by egregiously lacking sex …
By Gabrielle Kassel The phrase “don’t ask, don’t tell” may bring to mind the discriminatory policy from the ’90s that kept LGBTQ+ folks in the U.S. military from sharing information about their sexuality or non-cis gender. But the phrase has another meaning in polyamorous circles: a non-monogamous relationship structure that allows some kinds of physical, …
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— How These Latinas Broke Free From Purity Culture By Jessica Hoppe The story of how I lost my virginity — a tale I long held onto — was a lie. A fiction as false as the construct itself, I fabricated the narrative to please my boyfriend. Before we got together, he expressed that my …
— Time to get creative! BY Veronica Lopez Contrary to what you might have seen on TV or in movies, role-playing doesn’t always have to include sexy costumes or feel super kinky, if that’s not your vibe. Like with most things when it comes to sex, you’re able to customize it to your specific needs …
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— Giving up control can be really, really fun By Gigi Engle In order to get down and play with submission, you have to relinquish the societal norms of “masculinity.” Being submissive means relishing in surrendering, relaxing and being turned on by not being the one in charge during sex. It’s a chance to let …
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By Tom Rasmussen I’m lying there in the dark, and it’s just not that good. I’ve had mind-blowing sex before, and I am going to have it again. But tonight I’m tired from work; the dog has diarrhea; it’s really cold; I’m kind of worried about money. And the sex just isn’t that good. As …
— And why it’s totally normal to have a kink By Gabrielle Kassel There’s nothing unusual about having a kink — some evidence suggests half the population has one. A few examples of kinks include bondage, impact play aka spanking, discipline, and role play. Before exploring kinks with your partners, start with consent, communication, and …
— I stop people on the bus, ask my cashier at CVS, or even beg my next-door neighbors. By Alyssa Shelasky My boyfriend held a cigarette in one hand and a Diet Coke in the other and said, “Are you fucking serious, Lys?” A few moments earlier, while lounging around a wicker table in his …
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By Alexandra Jones “This language was supposed to be about trust, honesty, communication, and commitment— defining commitment in a different kind of way.” Across a staticky Zoom call, Emily Witt and I are comparing notes on non-monogamy. “It was supposed to prevent lying and concealment,” continues the journalist and author of the seminal 2017 book …
It’s Not You, It’s the “Sex Recession” Why desire and hookups are trending downward and what we can do about it By Sarah Laing There’s a recession afoot. Not the looming financial one that rising inflation and a bear market seem to grimly foretell, but another one that’s even more obvious to anyone who’s in …
— Here’s How I’m Unlearning Shame By Jacqueline Delgadillo “If she’s slept with more than one man, she’s a puta,” my tía told my mom during her visit to our home in Riverside, California. I was 22 years old, and I felt heat rising to my face. I prayed no one could read the guilt …
By Sarah Vanbuskirk Depending on the context, casual sex may be celebrated, relished, derided, envied, or stigmatized. Some people consider the activity in a serious way, evaluating all the possible ramifications (emotionally and physically) along with the potential benefits and drawbacks when thinking about having casual sex. Others take the idea of casual sex, well, …
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by CARLEIGH FERRANTE As someone who writes and talks about sex regularly and openly, I still find it to be one of the most difficult topics to bring up in a relationship. Why is it so hard to ask for what we want sexually? Learning how to talk about sex with a partner isn’t something …
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