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February 24, 2010June 24, 2018

Sex Wisdom with Mark Zedler – Podcast #187 – 02/24/10

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Hey sex fans,

I have some absolutely fascinating SEX WISDOM in store for you today. This is just the second installment in this new podcast series. We’re all about connecting with some of the movers and shakers in the field of human sexuality. We’re talking with researchers, educators, clinicians, pundits and philosophers who are making news and reshaping how we look at our sexual selves.

My guest today is Mark Zedler. He’s a sex historian, don’t cha know. And he’s here to help us demythologize some of our culture’s sexual taboos. He believes, as do I, that once we have a historical perspective, we are less likely to be manipulated by those who want to keep us from the truth. This is very interesting stuff, sex fans! Please stay tuned.

Mark and I discuss:

Being a sex historian.
Exploring the origins of sexual taboos and myths.
The history of the Bacchanalia — its zenith, persecution and downfall.
What this story tells us about what happens.
The resurgence of sacred sexuality.
The Sin of Sodom.
Comparing ancient Hebrew and early Christian interpretations.

Mark invites you to visit him on his site HERE! Explore themes like alternative lifestyles, erotica, adult humor, taboos and the history of sex.

Mark put together a little slide show for you

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February 15, 2010June 24, 2018

3rd Anniversary Show — Podcast #185 — 02/15/10

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Hey sex fans,

Holy cow, it’s another milestone, sex fans! This week’s show marks my third anniversary of podcasting. I know! Isn’t that fuckin great? I mean who would have guessed that we’d have such a long run. And what a year it has been too. I launched two podcast series last year — the Sex EDGE-U-cation series and the SEX WISDOM series, both of which appear on Wednesdays. The Erotic Mind podcast series, which is nearly two years old, continues to shares Mondays with my traditional Q&A podcasts like today’s show. As usual, I have a very hot load of oh so stimulating questions to start year #4 off with a bang. And I have a feeling that a few close friends will drop by to say howdy too.

Jesse wants to know if he can test dirty from swallowing a meth-head’s nut.
Terri has yet to cum.
Mariah is a cock in a frock, but he wants to quit.
Miguel can’t keep it up.
Andrew is keeping all his hot monkey love to himself.
Some chick from Boston wants to know about boners and butt sex.

BE THERE, OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail. Got a question? Perhaps you have a comment. Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you just wanna talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give dr dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll fine me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

I wanna take a moment to remind you to check out another great website in the Dr Dick family of sites. It’s my new PRODUCT REVIEW site — drdicksextoyreviews.com

That’s right, sex fans, now it’s so easy to see what hot and what’s not in the world of adult products. I review of all kinds of adult related goodies — sex toys for sure, but also condoms, lubes, herbal products, fetish gear as well as educational and enrichment videos. DON’T MISS A SINGLE ONE!

Look for the drdicksextoyreviews.com. You’ll be so glad you did.

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February 5, 2010January 8, 2013

ELBOW GREASE, Part 1

Hey sex fans,

It’s product review Friday!

Not only do we welcome a new manufacturer today, ELBOW GREASE, we have a new Dr Dick Review Crew member to introduce.

Please join me in welcoming Jack Cascade. Read about his personal journey as a single man living a year without sex HERE! He hastens to add that masturbation is allowed and encouraged.

ELBOW GREASE Light —— $4.75

[editors note: I want to say a word about the ELBOW GREASE company’s background. It was founded back in 1979, long before the onset of the AIDS crisis and thus the pressing need for condoms. So these folks were one of the pioneers of the personal lube phenomenon. Back then, gay men were more likely to use Crisco as a lubricant for their intense fuck sessions. This became a huge problem, because Crisco, if not stored properly, would go rancid in time. And when it did, you, your partner(s), your sheets and your bedroom would stink like week old french-fries. Trust me, it wasn’t pleasant. Happily, Elbow Grease Original Cream put an end to that annoying sexual faux pas when it exploded onto the market. Finally, we had an alternative to a vat of smelly vegetable shortening rotting under the bed. ELBOW GREASE is greaseless and odorless, but still thick and creamy. It revolutionized the way we had partnered sex as well as simply jerkin off. Without further ado here’s Jack.]

Jack Cascade*
For review purposes, the Elbow Grease people sent us a 1 oz container of their ELBOW GREASE Light.

I must admit that I’m not a big fan of mineral-based cream lubricants. If it’s thick and creamy, I just feel like it belongs on my face. Before you get any brilliant visual images, I’m talking about Noxzema. My mother uses it religiously on her own face. Though she swears by it, I never adopted the habit. Needless to say, the association of mom when I pop open a canister of creamy lube is dis-engorging to say the least. Furthermore, why lather on a thick cream, unless there’s a fun way to get it off. Now forget about mom and visualize that facial you were thinking about before.

I may have to start a new devotion to ELBOW GREASE Light formula. One liberal application to your cock and I bet you won’t last as long as the lubricant. Silly me, I tried this creamy stuff on a latex condom suited toy without much luck. They just don’t seem to be made for each other. And guess what? Actually they’re not. Who reads labels before taking the plunge? Not me!
Full Review HERE
ELBOW GREASE Hot —— $4.75

Jack Cascade*
The promotional claim reads: ELBOW GREASE Hot Cream is of the same thick consistency as the Original formula but, it heats up! The Hot formula is a mineral oil-based, warming, thick cream lubricant. It stands beside its Original brother as the oldest warming cream formula on the market today. The warming agent in our formula is menthol.

For review purposes, the long-established Elbow Grease people sent us a 1 oz container of their ELBOW GREASE Hot.

I want to know who the hell thought it’d be a good idea to promote the sensation of burning to a throbbing cock. Some sadist, perhaps? For most men out there, the thought of heat and burning anywhere near our precious penis is enough to shut down the erector set and make us want to put the toys away. The fact that the active ingredient to create the “warming” sensation in ELBOW GREASE Hot is menthol seems to be quite the misnomer.

Whatever brilliant mind came up with this marketing mistake needs to be shot at dawn. Whatever happened to menthol being associated with sensations of fresh and, I don’t know, cool? The real benefit of ELBOW GREASE Hot has yet to be marketed. However, I’m pretty proud that I was able to find some enjoyable uses for this stuff. First off, forget about using it to jack off or to fuck with.

The real titillation comes when you apply a liberal amount, rub in, wait a couple of minutes while the menthol works its magic. Ok, ok so it does work on your dick. But the second time I used ELBOW GREASE Hot lubricant, I slathered it on my balls and perineum, then waited a bit. Within minutes, an intense tingling, COOLING sensation (some may consider this a warming sensation) had my cock harder than before. However, I kept it off my shaft. Here’s the key to using this product: don’t be afraid to experiment.
Full Review HERE

ENJOY!

February 3, 2010January 8, 2013

IN THE MOOD

Hey Sex Fans!

We came dangerously close to having a fantastic Sex EDGE-U-cation podcast for ya today. Unfortunately, my scheduled guest had technical difficulties and we had to put off the interview till next week. Such is life!

In lieu of a podcast, we have some swell Q&A.

Name: Brian
Gender:
Age: 40
Location: Canada
After a guy ejaculates can he have another ejaculation? Like after I cum if I put on a cock ring will it stay hard enough to continue with intercourse and achieve another orgasm? I basically want to cum twice in a row.

Yep, that’s doable. All depends on your particular refractory period and how turned on you are. Let’s take a quick look at the male sexual response cycle again, just so we understand what we’re talkin’ about. Ok?

The sexual response cycle refers to the sequence of physiological changes that occur as we become sexually aroused and move through to afterglow. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Both women and men experience these phases of course, although the timing usually is very different for each gender. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase will vary from person to person and from situation to situation. That’s why I say cuming twice in a row is doable. But is it gonna happen for you? I guess we’ll just have to wait and see, huh?

Ok, Phase 1: Excitement (or the boner stage)

Muscle tension increases.
Heart rate quickens and breathing accelerates.
Our skin may become flushed particularly on our chest and back).
Our nipples may become erect.
Blood flow to the genitals increases, thus the boner.
Our balls swell, our sack tightens, and we may drip precum. Mmmm, precum!

Phase 2: Plateau (or the strokin’ or pumpin’ stage)

Everything in phase 1 intensifies.
Our balls may pull up into body cavity.
Our breathing, heart rate and blood pressure increase.
Our toes curl, face contorts and hands clench.

Phase 3: Orgasm (or the “yabba dabba doo” stage)

Involuntary muscle contractions begin.
Blood pressure, heart rate and breathing excelerate.
There’s a rapid intake of oxygen.
Muscles in the feet spasm.
There is a sudden, forceful release of sexual tension.
Rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of our cock result in the ejaculation of spunk.
A “sex flush” may appear all over our body.

Phase 4: Resolution (or the “I need a nappy” stage)

During this phase, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and the parts of your body that swelled and engorged return to their previous size and color.
This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy and, often, fatigue.
Most women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms.

Men, on the other hand need recovery time after orgasm, this period is called the refractory period. This doesn’t have to be the end of sex. Like you suggest, a cockring may prevent your dick from going soft. But don’t count on an immediate second ejaculation, even if your dick stays hard. Don’t forget, the duration of the refractory period varies and is situational. It will also increase as we age.

Name: Ivan
Gender: Male
Age: 33
Location: Spain
I am considering the social usage of Viagra or Cialis to improve sexual performance. Which of the two would you recommend for recreational usage?

I don’t recommend recreational use of prescription drugs, particularly these vascular dilators. And certainly not when used in conjunction with other non-prescription drugs. Maybe you ought consider a low-tech solution like a cockring instead.

I hasten to add that I’m not averse to using some drugs recreationally. But I think that we’d do well to stick to those that are more natural. The less processing involved and fewer added chemicals the better, in my humble opinion.

Did you know that health officials in the UK and here in the US are investigating reports of blindness among men using Viagra and Cialis? Why risk that if ya don’t have to.

I’m really concerned with the alarming rise in recreational use of these drugs by younger men, men in their 20’s and 30’s. And like I said, this is even more troubling when they combine these drugs with ecstasy, cocaine, or crystal meth. If your young body is having difficulty producing an erection at this tender age, then you need medical attention ASAP.

Besides the risk of blindness, there are several other reasons why you ought not abuse Viagra or a similar drug just so you can have wood that lasts for hours. Your body will habituate itself to the substance and, in time, you won’t be able to get it up at all without ever increasing doses of these drugs. This will surely fuck up your cardiovascular system big time. In fact, you may very well be inducing the very sexual dysfunction the drug is supposed to help.

Consider the person who overuses eye drops or lip balm or any other otherwise innocuous over the counter health and beauty products. Their bodies stop making the natural substances that these products are intended to assist. It’s counterproductive and it’s ill advised. And if this is a problem with relatively harmless over the counter products, you know you are playing with fire when you abuse powerful prescription meds.

Name: Yuri
Gender: male
Age: 20
Location: Russia
I want to make love kisses on my girlfriend’s vagina. But I never did this. What can I do?

Love kisses on her vagina, huh? You Russians are so romantique!

I think you are talkin about some good old fashioned cunnilingus, right? Or as we say here in the US or A — eatin’ out at the Y, munchin’ carpet, muff divin’, pussy lappin’ and what have you.

If your girlfriend is as unfamiliar with gettin’ love kisses on her vagina as you are at givin’ them, you might want to give her a head’s up on what you plan to do. Ya see some of our women folk are none too keen on the idea. They have it in their head that their pussy is icky and not for oral consumption. This is very unfortunate, but it is what it is. If you think you’re gonna get a lot of resistance from your lady friend, you might start kissing her on the face and neck, then to the tops of her tits, her nipples, and her belly. This will give her an idea where you’re headin’. If you’re doin’ this right, hopefully she’ll be so busy enjoying herself she’ll not protest your trip south.

Proceed slowly. Make sure you’re you’re both comfortable. If you’re lying down, you best be on your stomach between her legs so that your string of kisses is as effortless as possible. Have a pillow ready to shove under her hips to raise her a bit if she’s willing to proceed. If, by the time you get to her pussy, she doesn’t try to stop you, you’re home free. Basically she is giving you tacit permission to proceed. Of course you could check in with her and ask if you can continue. But sometimes, in delicate situations like this, you may be better off keeping the conversation to a minimum. She might be fine with it if she doesn’t actually have to agree to it. Women are like that sometimes.

Try scooting her butt to the side of the bed while you kneel on the floor between her legs. This will give you all the access you’ll need. And hey, don’t go divin’ right in there, for heaven’s sakes. Take a moment to two to admire the beautiful spectacle before you. Lordy, lordy ain’t that a sight for sore eyes.

Gently nuzzle, kiss, and lick her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. With a little luck your gal-pal will be so aroused she’ll begin to guide your head into her snatch. Lick her outer lips. Run your tongue up and down them. Nibble them gently with your lips. Next, work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress her smaller, thinner inner lips. Circle her vaginal opening and perhaps dart your tongue inside her cunt.

I hope you know your way around a woman’s genitals, because If you don’t you’ll be bumbling around down there to no great effect. And, while you may get an “A” for effort, you might very well wreck the moment by being too aggressive on her more sensitive parts. Her clit is her magic button. If you don’t know a clit from a hole in your head, do some research before you head south.

Approach her clit very slowly and gently. Some women enjoy a tongue lashing directly on her clit. Others find direct contact too intense, even uncomfortable. Now is a good time to check in with her. Ask for direction on how she wants you to proceed. She may prefer you to circle her clit with your tongue, avoiding direct contact.

If your gal is unfamiliar with this kind of pleasure, she may not kow to direct you. If that’s the case, you’re gonna have to ask direct questions like: Do you want it lighter? Or would you like more pressure? More of this? Not so much of that? Soon you will be able to tell on your own by observing her pelvic movements and listening to her moan if you’re doing a good job. Sometimes the best communication is non-verbal.

While you’re down there, why not employ a couple fingers to spread things apart? Add a little massage. Use the tip of your tongue, then the flat of your tongue, then your lips as you move around her vulva. All three feel a little different and each provide subtly different sensations. Some chicks love pussy raspberries, you know…

Come up for air from time to time. Look into here eyes, caress and massage her boobs. Try slipping a finger or two into her mouth so she can suck them while you’re licking her. Or move into a 69 position and enjoy a little blowjob with you’re eating her out.

You may want to incorporate some ass play too. Insert a lubed finger into her butt hole. Just make sure that whatever goes in her ass doesn’t then come in contact with her cunt. You definitely don’t want to introduce bacteria that can cause a urinary infection.

Good luck ya’ll

January 27, 2010January 8, 2013

We are what we consume!

Name: Norm
Gender: Male
Age: 27
Location: St. Louis
How dangerous is Ecstasy? Are the herbal substitutes any safer?

Good question. Unfortunately, it’s so hard to categorically say how dangerous any particular drug is; there are so many variables. For example, aspirin can be deadly to some people. If pharmaceuticals are risky, you can be sure that street drugs are way more so, because you never know how adulterated they are due to careless processing.

Simply put, everything we ingest comes with some risk. The spinach salad you’ll have for lunch could kill you. Inevitably, it comes down to the individual. Is the alleged thrill worth the risk? Sometimes that’s an easier call than at other times. My rule of thumb is the more organic the substance and the fewer chemicals involved the better. But there’s always the possibility that a person will have an adverse reaction to even the purest most organic active ingredient. So beware.

Ecstasy is an amphetamine that has been chemically altered to give it its hallucinogenic property. Researchers believe it is potentially toxic to the brain and persistent use can cause serious liver damage. At the same time, ecstasy is being used to help ease dying cancer patients deal with the end of life.

So-called herbal substitutes consist of a variety of compounds. Some of which have been associated with liver inflammation. All of these substitutes have some sort of compound that causes what is known as sympathetic stimulation, because it stimulates the sympathetic nervous system. This results in a state of heightened excitability. Specifically, they increase heart rate, body temperature, and blood pressure, and have an effect on muscle tone. This is the same phenomenon that causes a sense of hyper-alertness or the fight or flight response. Of course one can say the same about caffeine. Regardless of what the compound is, when you alter your normal physiology and cause excessive stimulation, there will be a price pay.

Drugs, like sex, allow us to transcend ourselves. At their best, they distract us form the ordinary day-to-day stuff so that we can focus on what’s happening right in the moment. Both drugs and sex can give us a peak experiences, but they can also devastate. Our ego boundaries go down, but that can leave us vulnerable at best and paranoid at worst. We can have a heightened sense of connectedness, or a keen sense of isolation.

If it’s a good sex or drug trip, we want to chase the experience longer than we should. We go to great lengths to postpone the return to the humdrum of daily live. This relentless pursuit, more often than not, leads us out of bliss and into despair. Just ask the addict that is looking for just one more hit.

Some people report that ecstasy increases their self-confidence and their ability to connect with others. It can make sex seem otherworldly. But ecstasy, while increasing our desire for sex, also diminishes our ability to perform. There’s nothing more frustrating than wanting to fuck, but being unable to because of a limp dick.

That’s why lots of party boys mix drugs like Viagra, or another erection educing pharmaceuticals with their Ex. However, this can be a fatal combination. Also, men under the influence are much more likely to think with their dicks, which is a prescription for risky sex. Sex under the influence can also get a whole lot rougher than one anticipates, because we’re unable to process physical sensations like normal.

Finally, there’s the basic law of physics. What goes up must come down. Remember, the higher the high, the lower the low. Count on it!

Name: Trisha
Gender: female
Age: 22
Location: Galveston
I want to surprise my BF with a special anniversary dinner. We’ve been dating for two whole years and just moved in together. I want to make something special and sexy. Got any ideas?

Ahhh yes, as we all know, the fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach…or is it his zipper? Well, whatever! I’m assuming that you want this little repast to be a prelude to some hot monkey sex, right? I love the sound of that! In ever culture I know of, sex and food have always been intimately linked.

There are a variety of foods that arouse feelings of love and that do wonders for one’s romantic life, at least according to one or another culture. Everything from black beans to cabbage, from bananas and strawberries to oysters; all have been reported to stir amorous feeling in the consumer. Are they true aphrodisiacs? Who knows? Maybe it’s the combination of the loving preparation, the mutual enjoyment and feelings of being full and satisfied that is the big turn on.

People first sought aphrodisiacs as a remedy for various sexual difficulties, especially performance anxiety. Aphrodisiacs are also thought to boost both male and female potency. In ancient times nutrition was always an issue. Food hasn’t always been as available as it is today. And of course, nothing pulls the plug on the libido like malnutrition. And hunger radically reduces fertility rates.

Our forbearers believed that anything in nature that looked like or represented the male seed, such as bulbs, eggs, snails were considered to have sexual powers. Other types of foods were considered stimulating because they physically resembled genitalia.

Here are a few things to consider as you plan your menu. Greeks and Romans believed aniseed had special powers. Sucking on the seeds is said to increases your desire. Or maybe it just freshened the breath enough to get close enough to fuck.

Asparagus has a phallic shape. It’s also fun to feed your lover. Steamed spears in a pungent lemon dipping sauce will make for a sensuous experience.

Almonds have been a symbol of fertility throughout the ages. The aroma is thought to induce passion in a female. Arugula or “rocket” has been considered an aphrodisiac since the first century A.D. This ingredient was added to grated orchid bulbs and parsnips and also combined with pine nuts and pistachios for a full-on erotic feast. Try an Arugula salad or use it in a pasta sauce with basil another herb said to stimulate the sex drive and boost fertility.

The Aztecs called the avocado tree the “testicle tree” for obvious reasons. The fruit hanging in pairs, as it does, resembles a man’s balls. Serve this fruit with its sensuous texture in slices with a small amount of Balsamic vinegar and freshly ground pepper.

Bananas have a marvelous phallic shape. But from a more practical standpoint bananas are rich in potassium and B vitamins, necessities for sex hormone production.

The Aztecs referred to chocolate as the “nourishment of the Gods”. Chocolate contains chemicals thought to effect neurotransmitters in the. It also contains more antioxidants than does red wine. Here’s a tip, combine the two. Have a glass of Cabernet with a bit of dark chocolate for dessert.

Carrots are believed to be a stimulant to the male. The phallic shape has long been associated with stimulation since ancient times. Early Middle Eastern royalty used carrots as an aid to their seductions.

The book of The Arabian nights tells a tale of a merchant who had been childless for 40 years and but was cured by a concoction that included coriander. Cilantro is also known as an “appetite” stimulant.

Fennel, like anise, was found to be a source of natural plant estrogens. Use of fennel as an aphrodisiac dates back to the ancient Egyptians.

An open fig looks like a vagina. And traditionally it is thought of as sexual stimulant. A man breaking open a fig and eating it in front of his lover is a powerful erotic act. Serve fresh ripe figs in a bowl of cool of water as they do in Italy. Be sure to eat with your fingers!

The ‘heat’ in garlic is said to stir sexual desires. Garlic has been used for centuries to cure everything from the common cold to heart ailments.

Ginger root raw, cooked, pickled or crystallized is a powerful stimulant to the circulatory system. And what is good sex if it isn’t all about healthy blood flow?

The Egyptian believed that honey was a cure for sterility and impotence. Medieval seducers plied their partners with Mead, a fermented drink made from honey. Lovers on their “Honeymoon” drank mead and it was thought to “sweeten” the marriage.

Chewing on bits of licorice root is said to enhance love and lust. It is particularly stimulating to women. Mustard, maybe because of its bite, is believed to stimulate the sex glands and increase desire. Chinese women prize nutmeg as an aphrodisiac. In quantity nutmeg can also produce a hallucinogenic effect.

Oysters are legendary aphrodisiacs. They of course resemble a pussy, but they are also very nutritious and high in protein.

Zinc is a key mineral necessary to maintaining male potency. Zinc is also reported to heighten sexual performance in both women and men. An essential good mood nutrient, it triggers the feel-good brain chemical serotonin. Pine nuts are rich in zinc. They have been used to stimulate the libido as far back as medieval times.

Pineapple is rich in vitamin C and is used in the homeopathic treatment for impotence. Raspberries and strawberries are perfect finger foods for hand feeding your lover. Both of these luscious fruits are described in erotic literature as fruit nipples.

Tomatoes, known as the “love apple” are considered love food, because they have great nutritional value and their acidity is considered a sex stimulant.

The scent and flavor of vanilla is believed to increase lust. Fill tall Champagne glasses to the rim and add a vanilla bean for a heady, bubbly treat.

Eating is so much more than just chewing and swallowing. So don’t forget about the presentation. Food that is colorful and attractive to the eye gets one in a good mood. The smell of the food cooking exhilarates the senses and sets in motion feelings of arousal.

Good luck ya’ll

January 22, 2010May 17, 2011

no glove? no love!

January 20, 2010June 24, 2018

More of Shai Rotem – Podcast #181 – 01/20/10

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Hey sex fans,

We’re back with my guest Shai Rotem, and Part 2 of our conversation about surrogate partner therapy; or as it is otherwise known as, sex surrogacy. And this, my pretties, is the brand-spankin’ new SEX WISDOM podcast series, where we chat with renowned researchers, educators, clinicians, pundits and philosophers; who are making news and reshaping how we look at our sexual selves.

Did you happen to miss the inaugural program in this series? Not to worry! Part 1 of my conversation with Shai is archived right here on my site. Use the search function to your right, type in podcast #179 and PRESTO! Be sure to use the #sign when you search.

Shai and I discuss:

How one becomes a certified surrogate partner.
IPSA training and supervision.
His work history; beginning in Israel.
How his clients find him.
Common myths of surrogate partner therapy.
His role as mentor and advisor to and trainer of other surrogates.
What the future holds for him and his work.

Shai invites you to learn more about surrogate partner therapy by visiting the International Professional Surrogates Association’s website HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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January 15, 2010January 8, 2013

Some assembly required!

Hi Dr Dick,
Happy (belated) New Year! I have two questions for you:
1. I am taking a long time to cum when I’m given a blowjob or hand job and eventually I need to stroke off on my own (for a pretty long time as well). However, I cum pretty quickly when I masturbate while watching porn. Am I masturbating to porn too much? I have also masturbated to porn for years before I started having sex recently (I’m not sure whether this could be a reason as well).
2. You mention that we shouldn’t use soup while cleaning our anus. Why is that so? I just read about douching but I have been cleaning my anus with warm water, soap, and finger. Is that ok?
Thanks in advance! — Ken

Can’t hardly say if you are masturbating to porn too much. I mean, what is too much anyway? And since you don’t go into detail; I’ll let that issue rest.

What I can tell you is that partnered sex, regardless of the activity (blowjobs, hand jobs or full-on fucking) is a whole lot different than solo sex (with or without porn). I can also assure you that your body has become sensitized to your particular grip and stroke over the years of you pullin your own pud. Another person’s grip and stroke (pussy or asshole) will rarely satisfy in the same efficient manner. This is not a bad thing, necessarily, but you do have to keep that in mind. And perhaps your sexual response will change with time as you enjoy more and varied partnered sex.

In terms of you taking too long (whatever that means) to cum when you are with a partner, maybe you need to quit trying so hard to get off and lay back and enjoy the sensations you’re getting from your partner. And here’s a tip; use your biggest sex organ, your brain, to replay some of that hot porn action in your head while you are gettin head. That will surely hasten things along, if ya know what I mean.

In terms of your next question about keeping your hole clean; you may have misunderstood previous comments I’ve made about anal douching. Soap and water is the preferred method of keeping the outside of your ass clean. And while you’re scrubbin’ your crack, you could use your fingertip to clean out your rosebud. But don’t force soap beyond your sphincter. You have delicate membranes in your rectum that will be irritated by the soap, even a mild soap.

If you need to douche, I suggest a solution of a few drops of lemon juice in warm water. Some men prefer the convenience of a shower bidet.

Name: Mike P
Gender: Male
Age: 25
Location: Los Angeles
My girlfriend needs to watch lesbian porn to get off and sometimes kicks me out of the bedroom to masturbate by herself. Initially I was turned on by her desire to watch porn — but now — it’s become a blockage. She always needs porn. I am frustrated and to make things worse — she has started abusing me through financial manipulation. I have to pay her rent — pay for her food, pay everything — and she never gives me nookie.
Should I leave this woman?

Time to wake up, fella! Your “girlfriend” — and I use that term very loosely — is decidedly not YOUR girlfriend, and possibly not any man’s girlfriend. I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and say; I think your “girlfriend” is a certifiable, died-in-the wool, muff-divin’, coochie-lovin’ lesbiterian. All that remains for her to do, to make the picture perfectly clear…even for you, is to show up one day in a mullet and a flannel shirt. Holy cow, Mike, how is it that you are missing the obvious?

Listen, bub, you’re excess baggage. Your “friend” keeps you around for comic relief…oh and to foot the bill.

Should you leave this woman; you ask. Honey, she’s beaten you to the punch on that one. She’s long gone and done left you way behind, at least emotionally and sexually. All you need to do is find the door, say good-bye to this sorry situation and make a hasty exit.

Name: Michelle
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Location: Canada
Tips to help when the man you’re sleeping with has a small penis.

Tips? No pun intended, I hope.

Ok, here goes — Tip #1, grin and bear it. Tip #2, find a guy with more pork. Tip #3, get a dildo. Tip #4, find a sexual position, like doggie style, that will make the most of every little bit of pecker the poor guy’s got. Tip #5, remember it ain’t always da meat, but it is always da motion.

Ok, seriously I do have a couple of suggestions beyond the flippant ones I just mentioned. For example, Tip #3 still stands. Find yourself a dildo, one that your partner can wield when he’s around. If you introduce the concept in a positive way, you may find that Mr. Mini-meat will go for it big time. You see, most guys with small endowments already know they may have a problem satisfying some women (or men for that matter). But most guys, regardless of cock size, are always interested in pleasuring their partner, even when it’s not with their own magic wand.

May I suggest that you check out the swell array of dildos available at Dr Dick’s Stockroom? You’ll find a link to this treasure trove on the top of this page. Hey, you may even want to shop online together. You may be surprised at the one your guy picks out for you.

While you lovebirds are checking out the dildo section at Dr Dick’s Stockroom, take a moment to search for a Cyberskin Penis Extension.

You’re gonna love this. The new Cyberskin line of products represents a significant advance in pecker extensions that feel like the real thing. The rubber on the surface of this extension feels hauntingly like human skin. But the inside part of the (1.5″ or 3″) extension is much firmer. It is soft and supple on the surface, but hard and rigid inside. Mmmm, hard and rigid!

Visually, the shape, texture, and coloration of these extensions are designed to create a realistic effect as well. They look realistic and they feel realistic.

There’s a trick to putting on one of these puppies, don’t ‘cha know. You roll up the sleeve until it’s all the way up around the extension. Then place it against the head of your guy’s stiff dick. Roll the bugger down snugly around his unit, sealing his peanut inside the sleeve. A partial seal will form, helping keep the extension on during the fuck-fest.

Wearing this extension will add both length and thickness to his precious willie. It will of course reduce the sensation in his cock, but that’s not always bad thing. Guys with a short fuse may find the decrease in stimulation an aid to controlling his ejaculation, while he’s giving more and longer pleasure to his partner. And a lot of guys love the feeling of having their cock sealed inside the rubbery sleeve. Mmmm, sealed inside rubbery sleeve!

Name: Jack
Gender: Male
Age: 42
Location: Milwaukee
I’ve been dating this guy for over a year. He is the love of my life. I love him so much, but he treats me like shit. I met him on vacation in Florida. He’s 26 a stunning, 6’3” 200lbs, blond surfer Adonis. And excuse me for being so graphic; he has the biggest dick I’d ever seen. The first time we had sex I saw stars. He filled me up like no other person has.
When I got home we exchanged emails nearly every day and even had some hot phone sex a couple of times. He was down on his luck, because he lost his barista job for coming to work stoned too many times. I know I shouldn’t have, but I invited him to come live with me. I flew him up, but I told him that this wouldn’t be a free ride, he’d have to stop smoking so much dope and get a job and he agreed.
The sex was fantastic for the first couple of months, but once he established himself as a star at the gym he found his own friends and now I don’t see too much of him. He eats my food and drinks my liquor and drives my car. I pay for his cloths and gym membership. He has yet to find a job.
I know I should just end it, but I love him and I would really miss the sex. My friends ridicule me for thinking he loves me as much as I love him. They tell me they know he sees other guys. I’m so turned around I don’t know what to do.

Like my momma always used to say: if it’s got wheels or a dick, you know you’re gonna have problems with it. And I would add, if it’s got big wheels or a big dick you know you’re gonna have BIG problems with it.

Before we turn our attention to your no good boyfriend, let me make a few quick observations about you. You’re a freakin’ mess, girlfriend! I mean really, you’ve broken all the cardinal rules about dating a hustler. I know, I can hear you now…oh no Dr Dick, he’s not a hustler; he’s a good kid who’s just down on his luck and I’m just trying to help. Bullshit!

Ya see, that’s the first cardinal rule of dating a hustler is never lose sight of the fact that he’s a hustler and you’re his john. Don’t get me wrong; I have the deepest admiration for hustlers and their johns. It’s just that this arrangement only works if everyone is clear about the ground rules. And here are the ground rules — rich older gentleman connects with needy younger hunky stud for mutual benefit. Rich older gentleman keeps needy younger hunky stud in room and board, booze, cloths, car, gym membership and the like; and needy younger hunky stud buggers rich older gentleman senseless with his big blond surfer-boy dick. Get it? Got it? Good!

Second cardinal rule — what happens on vacation should stay on vacation. Vacation sex, as wonderful and delicious as it may be, does not transplant very well to your non-vacation life. You’re more likely to have success transplanting a delicate tropical orchid to your Milwaukee backyard than transplanting a vacation hustler fuck to your work-a-day world back home.

Third cardinal rule —don’t try to gloss a perfectly fine, fully functional and even an affectionate hustler/john relationship with talk of love. It’s unnecessary, unseemly and untrue. It’s lust, it’s limerence, it’s love sickness, whatever…it’s just not love. Because LOVE don’t ever make you feel as bad as you’re feelin’. Probably your friends would have less difficulty with your mooning over this guy if you were more honest about the nature of this relationship. They wouldn’t be rubbing your face in the evidence that surfer-boy is pluggin’ other dudes.

Fourth cardinal rule — a size queen, like you Jack, should admit that you are enamored with the guy hose and how it fills you up plain and simple. To pretend that you would string yourself out like this for a guy with tiny meat is just that — pretense. Listen, there’s nothin’ wrong with bein’ a size queen, it’s the dishonesty I object to.

How is this young fella ever supposed to respect you when you don’t respect for yourself? He probably had you pegged (no pun intended) back on the beach in the sunshine state. He knows you will tolerate his misbehavior, which of course gives him permission to do whatever he feels like doing whenever he feel like doing it. And now he don’t even have to give up the occasional mercy fuck any more, even though that was surely part of the deal at the get go, right?

So the waif has yet to find a job after a year, huh? Why is that not surprising? But even a hustler needs his mad money, besides what is doled out to him by his long-suffering john. I’d be willing to guess Mr. surfer dude is turning tricks to keep himself in weed and other essentials.

Thing is, this fellow probably would have treated you better if you would have just stuck to the hustler/john script. Ya see, kids like this need structure. He may have looked to you for this at one time, but when he realized that he had you cock-whipped, the teachable moment evaporated. This lad is probably like most other boys with big dicks. They learn early on that their cock gives them enormous power, because it is the object of desire for so many. He soon discovered that you were no different than all the other men (and some women) in his life — only interested in owning a piece of his sizeable endowment. And so he turned the tables on you. You can hardly fault the guy. You try to manipulate him with your money. He outwits you and manipulates you with his johnson.

If you’re really serious about reining in the little monkey, you’d better come up with a clear, unambiguous message about what you will and will not tolerate. And it better be something more than “I expect you to bone my scrawny middle-aged ass on occasion.” Because, until you do, he will roam wherever and whenever he wants.

There are many root causes for his behavior, just like there are many root causes for your behavior. But since I’m talking to you, not him, I suggest that you get to the bottom of all of this by investing a good deal of time and energy with a competent sex-positive therapist. There’s one thing I can say for certain, if the status quo continues your resentment will boil over one day and there will be violence, the kind of violence that you may not think yourself capable of now. But violence there will be; you can bank on it!

Is there enough goodwill between the two of you to resolve this unfortunate situation amicably? Who knows! If I had to guess, I’d say there was a slim to no chance for that. If that’s the case, I advise you pack him up and put him on the next plane south. And no more relationships for you, particularly with unemployed young men with massive schlongs, till you get your head screwed on tighter.

Good Luck ya’ll

December 11, 2009January 8, 2013

Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen

Hey sex fans,

It’s Product Review Friday; it’s Week 5 of our Holiday Gift Giving Guide; and we’re doin a special Toys for Boys thing today. Next Friday, our last installment of in this series, will feature some swell Toys for Gals.

This week we will hear from Review Crew members: Carlos, Ken and your truly, Dr Dick.

All guys jerk off; even (or especially) guys who say they don’t jerk off, jerk off. Now that we’ve put that behind us we can get on with today toy selection, because it has a theme — masturbation sleeves.

First up is another product from the good folks at Vibratex and Carlos has the lowdown.

Sidekick Tease Me Sleeve —— $14.43

Carlos
I love to masturbate; I’ve been doing it since I was 11. I love to masturbate with my wife; I like to masturbate with other men. It’s about as safe a sex as you can have short of having no sex at all.

I’m pretty much a manual masturbator. I never saw the need to improve on my hands for pleasuring myself. But the thing about being a Review Crew member, we get exposed to all kinds of products we wouldn’t otherwise know about. Take for instance the Sidekick Tease Me Sleeve. I would have never guessed that I could enjoy masturbating even more than I used to by using a masturbation aid, like a sleeve.

The Sidekick Tease Me Sleeve is a simple enough product. It’s made of 100% Elastomer, which allows me to use any type of lube you want to. I’m partial to silicone lube, because it doesn’t break down like water-based lubes do during a long masturbation sessions. And since I don’t have to worry about using a condom when I’m having sex with myself, silicone-based lube works best for me.

When you see the Sidekick in its package you’re actually seeing the inside of the thing. It’s turned inside out in the package so you can see the dozens of nubs that will be massaging your penis when you use it. Obviously the Sidekick is easy to turn inside out, which is all-important when you want it’s time to clean up, but more about that in a minute.

The hole you insert you penis in is a decent size, so you don’t have to struggle inserting it. And since you’ll be adjusting the pressure around your penis with your hand, it’s pretty perfect. So I lubed up and slipped the Sidekick over the head of my penis. I’m uncut, so slipping it on also retracted my foreskin. Honestly, I was really surprised by the feel of the nubs on my penis, particularly the head. It was so strange to have that kind of sensation on my cock. But once I got used to the sensation, I was thinking; man, this is great.

The other end of the Sidekick is closed. That means as you stroke this up and down your penis you actually create a bit of a vacuum, which is also very nice. Besides the up and down movement you can also rotate the Sidekick around your penis. This creates a completely unique sensation, which almost tickles. I loved it!

There are two minor drawbacks, if you can call them that. Once the Sidekick is turned right-side out (the nubs are now on the inside where they belong) the outside has no texture at all. This creates a bit of a problem with lubed up hands. I found that it was sometimes difficult to get a good grip on the thing. The other issue is the size. It’s only 5.5” long. Now that will fit most of us, but if your bigger than that, this might be a bit of a problem.

You can cum right in the Sidekick, because it so easy to clean. Turn it inside out again, wash in warm soapy water and let it dry. I found that once it dried; it felt a little sticky. So I just dusted it with little bit of cornstarch.
FULL REVIEW HERE

Next we have a much more elaborate sleeve from The Adult Toy Shoppe folks.

Cyberskin Pocket Pussy —— $39.99

Ken
Here’s the way I look at it; if god wanted us to jack off he would have given us arms long enough to reach our meat. Oh wait, he did! What luck for us!

I generally jerk off a couple of times a day. This amazes my partner, Denise. She thinks I’m some kind of sex freak, but I don’t know. I beat off much less now than I did when I was a kid. Back then, in my teens, I could and would squeeze one off five or six times a day.

Until this assignment as part of the Review Crew, I had never used a masturbation sleeve. Sure, I’ve seen them around, but I thought to myself; why bother? Ok, I’ll admit to being more than a little curious, so I jumped at the opportunity to review the Cyberskin Pocket Pussy by Topco.

This is my first Cyberskin toy of any kind. This stuff rocks! It’s amazingly soft and warm; there’s a silkiness to it too. They claim that it feels like real human flesh, I wouldn’t go that far, but it is truly remarkable.

The Cyberskin Pocket Pussy is designed to look like a real pussy and it’s very realistic looking, let me tell you. This may be a turn-off to some, especially gay dudes. But other guys are gonna groove on this big time.

When I took it out of the package it had a greasy feel to it that kinda surprised me. I guess whatever they put on it, some kind of preservative or something, keeps it from drying out while on the store shelf. Anyhow, the Pocket Pussy once outside of its packaging is a floppy thing. And that was a bit of a problem trying to get started with it. The whole thing is a little over 8” long; the sleeve is 6” long; the pussy measures 2.5” thick by 3.5“ wide.

I generally use silicone lube when I jerk off, but I couldn’t use that with Cyberskin. Luckily, I had some water-based lube available.

The Pocket Pussy has a very tight “vag” opening, it’s pretty stretchy, but gettin my dick in there was a problem and the floppy sleeve didn’t help. However, once I got the hang of it, it was less of a bother. I confess; this feels fantastic on my cock. I can apply more pressure using my hand on the sleeve, but I didn’t really need to do that. It is a mighty tight hole, and I’m not all that big.

So there I was stroking away watching some porn on the computer and thinking this is totally awesome. Although, I kept thinking the thing needs something to steady the sleeve or tunnel area while fuckin it.

Once I popped a nut in the sleeve I pulled my dick out all satisfied. But while I was admiring my new friend; I noticed that my spooge and lube was dripping out the other end on to my chair. I had forgotten that the Pocket Pussy has an opening on the end that is supposed to make cleaning it easy.

So I quick grab the open end of the sleeve and squeeze it shut so that the rest of my joy juice doesn’t come out. I take it to the bathroom and start the clean up. This turned out to be a much bigger chore than I planned. Ya gotta work soap and water into the sleeve and then rinse it all out. Unfortunately, you can’t really turn the sleeve inside out, which would make cleaning easier.

Now that it’s clean, or as clean as I can get it; it needs to dry. I tried drying it off with a towel as the package recommends, but I got little bits of lint all over the thing. DAMN! After that, I decided to just let it air dry.

Once it was completely dry the Cyberskin felt really tacky. I looked at the instructions on the package again and it says: “Generously apply Renew to properly maintain your Cyberskin product.” But what the fuck is “Renew”?
FULL REVIEW HERE

Just to round off today’s theme I offer my review of another masturbation sleeve.

FleshJack Ice —— $69.95

Dr Dick
So sex fans, I suppose ya’ll all know that the Fleshlight has been around for several years now, right? Good, I figured you would’ve noticed. I mean a person can hardly visit a sex related site these days without seeing one of their fetching ads. I realize that I’m a Johnny-cum-lately with my review, but like my momma always used to say — “all good thing come to those who wait”.

Like you, I’ve seen the Fleshlight around for years. And because of that I convinced myself I knew everything there was to know about the device. After all, I visited their websites loads of times. I watched their beautifully produced and very sexy mini-movies (more times than I care to say). And I even interviewed a bunch of satisfied customers. I confess, even though I never actually held a Fleshlight in my hand, I imagined I knew everything there was to know about a Fleshlight. I mean hey, it’s not like I never used a masturbator before. How different could this one be?

Well, so much for baseless assumptions.

Imagine my surprise when my very own personal FleshJack Ice showed up on my doorstep. I discovered that just about everything I thought I knew about this marvel didn’t even come close to the real thing. Until I had one of my own to fondle and probe…if ya catch my drift, I was clueless. It’s true what they say; this is the granddaddy of male stimulators. But you really shouldn’t take my word for it.

My initial piece of advice to everyone in my audience is; don’t be a smug jerk like me. That’s right! If you’ve never had your grubby paws on, or your hot little boner in, an actual Fleshlight, you pretty much don’t know nuthin’ about a Fleshlight. Period!

The first thing that struck me about the Fleshlight is it’s way bigger and heavier than I imagined. I figured it would be the size of a regular flashlight. I was wrong. The plastic shell is a serious 10” in length. And by it’s self it’s fairly light. It’s the totally amazing Superskin™ insert that racks up the weigh. My Fleshlight weighs in at a hefty 1 pound, eight and a half ounces. And that, sex fans, is a handful, or two, for damn sure. More about this in a minute.

The Superskin™ insert is totally amazing. It begs to be touched and caressed. It is unlike any other texture I’ve experienced in a sex toy. And like I said, I’ve had an opportunity to test drive a bunch of masturbators and stimulation sleeves in my time. The Superskin™ is kinda like a jelly, but it’s so much more substantial. I know this is gonna sound trite, but it does feel flesh-like. And if you add some hot water to your Fleshlight, as I did, before you sink in your chub, well it’s pretty much the most amazing feeling you can have from something that simulates a human orifice.

And ya wanna talk marketing genius? All Fleshlight customers are invited to customize their unit before they buy. And that is where the fun begins. Since most guys are pretty particular about where they stick their joystick, Fleshlight has cleverly come up with several “orifice” options: pussy, mouth, asshole or “neutral” (apparently for those who can’t commit). The plastic case comes in silver, black or clear. There are optional insert colors too: pink, mocha or ice. And get this, you can even choose from among six different internal contours for the insert itself: Original, Super Tight, Ultra Tight, Speed Bump, Super Ribbed and Wonder Wave. If, with all these options, you can’t design the perfect Fleshlight for you, you’re just too damned fussy.

I want to draw your attention to one last feature before we take this puppy on a test drive. The plastic case, the thing that looks like a flashlight, has removable caps at both ends. The top cap covers the bulbous head of the insert and helps keeps it clean when it’s not in use. The end cap can be removed for easy cleaning. (The jizz-fanatics among us will appreciate this, because when a wank session is over, you can simply dribble out your spunk for some delicious DNA play.)

Like I suggested above you can also add hot water through the end cap for a warm, squishy jack. If you do add water, don’t over-fill the blasted thing. No more than three-quarter full is my suggestion. And this is best done in the shower or bath. Because, depending on the vigor of your stroke, things will get might wet, which just so happens to add to the fun. Just so you know, this was my favorite way to Fleshlight!
FULL REVIEW HERE

ENJOY

December 7, 2009June 24, 2018

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #173 — 12/07/09

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Hey sex fans,

It’s all Q&A today. We’re trying to clear the decks, as it were, before our well deserved holiday chair11 break, which is coming soon. The Erotic Mind series will resume in the New Year with a slew of new and interesting erotic artists and authors who will share their work with us and discuss their creative process.

Among today’s correspondents we hear from:

Phil asks Tony Buff for watersports info.
Alyssa’s BF says dirty and insulting things to her when they fuck.
Baux is having a burning sensation in his hole.
Gary wants pills to grow his dick bigger.
We also have a bunch of sex guilt questions; sex toy for men questions; and pheromones questions.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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December 4, 2009January 8, 2013

Oh what fun it is to ride…

Hey sex fans,

It’s Product Review Friday and this is Week 4 of this year’s Holiday Gift Giving Guide.

This week we will hear from Review Crew members: Glenn & Hank, Dixie and Brad.

First up we have yet another exquisite erotic art insertable from the artisans at XHale Glass. This is the third product we’ve reviewed from this outstanding company. See the other HERE!

Mister Twister —— $129.95

Glenn & Hank
Glenn: “WE’RE BACK! Did you miss us? We missed you. Well actually, we missed the sex toys. Being a Review Crew member has its perks.”
Hank: “He’s in such a good mood because we got to review another toy that he can shove up his ass. Glenn has the hungriest hole around.”
Glenn: “I like to think of it as talented, not hungry.”
Hank: “A rosebud by any other name…”
Glenn: “Speaking of talented; a literary allusion and an asshole allusion all in one sentence. You’re on a roll, my man!”
Hank: “Ok, let’s get on with it. What we have here is an art glass butt plug. Mister Twister is just one of the beautiful creations to be had when you visit XHale online. Glenn and I are new to glass, but after this little encounter; there will surely be more glass toys to come.”
Glenn: “This petite beauty is only 3 3/8” tall. It has a very modest girth of not much more than an inch. This is your starter butt plug model. I’m like totally used to way bigger toys in my ass, but there is something about this stunning little number that makes it one of my favorites. I feel all dressed up with this puppy pluggin my hole. Maybe that’s because it’s art, baby. All XHale art is individually handmade, which makes my insertable even more precious to me. No one else in the world has exactly the same one as I.”
Hank: “It sure is! It also has this amazing blue and white swirl in the solid glass. That’s why when Mister Twister joined our dildo and plug collection it was like a snowy dove trooping with crows.”
Glenn: “There you go again! Apparently you’ve got Romeo and Juliet on the brain. But you’re right; Mister Twister is a jewel, that’s for sure.”
Hank: “Because this is the highest quality glass, it will last a lifetime; ya just gotta treat it with care.”
Glenn: “XHale helps you do that by providing a very sturdy black padded drawstring pouch to keep your insertable art safe from getting nicked or chipped. But we think Mister Twister is so beautiful; when it’s not adorning my hole it is proudly placed on our mantle.”
Hank: “And if you think that is gross, you don’t know squat about glass insertables. You can clean this baby with simple soap and water; wipe it down with a lint-free towel moistened with peroxide, rubbing alcohol or a 10% bleach solution; or sterilize in boiling water or the dishwasher.”
Glenn: “You can use any sort of lube you want to with a glass object like this. And a little goes a very long way. For someone unfamiliar with a butt plug, this will take some getting use to. It’s hard as a rock. But once you get the hang of it, it will be your material of choice from there on out. I can wear Mister Twister for hours on end. There’s no chafing; nothing like that.”
Hank: “And you can warm or chill glass for an added sensation.”
FULL REVIEW HERE

Next another vibe from our friends at Vibratex.

Neo Cockring by Vibratex —— $24.99

Brad
So I was like totally hot for the Neo Cockring when I saw it in its stylish plexiglas storage case. At 33 I’m just discovering the joys of wearing a cockring. I was telling some of my gay clients at the gym about getting my first cockring about a month ago. They looked at me like I had just landed from outer space. OK, so I’m a late bloomer; sue me!

The Neo Cockring is a clear jelly sorta deal. Although it’s not a jelly, it’s made of a phthalate-free elastomer. This may not make a difference to you, but it sure does to me. I don’t do anything that may contain phthalates. I mean, why would I endanger my health if I don’t have to?

The thing that rocks, or is supposed to, is this cockring has a built-in vibe, and it has this tickler side to it. And even though the vibe is a tiny thing; it has two activation choices. The first is a side button that remains “on” until depressed, and the second is a pressure sensitive pad behind the ticklers. So my GF is like waiting for me to warp this thing around my johnson and show her what it’ll do to her clit. I position the ring around my dick and balls with the vibe on the top of my cock with the tickle head pointing outward. Are you following this?

I activate the vibe and…well I feel it, but it ain’t rockin my world; as I had hoped. But ok, maybe the vibe is not for me but my GF. Ahhh, not so fast! She says she can feel it too, and she likes the way it turns itself on as it comes in contact with her clit, but there ain’t enough bang for her buck either.
FULL REVIEW HERE

Finely, something very unique from Doc Johnson.

Wish-Bone Vibrator —— $25.50

Dixie
I’m doing a solo review today. My partner, Joy, is working on another review for later in this series.

I have something no nonsense to show you this time around. It’s about as simple and straightforward as you can get. It’s the Wish-Bone Vibrator.

I’ve used a lot of vibes in my day. I think I own nearly two-dozen of them. Some I’ve used a couple of times and that’s it; I never touch them again. Others are favorites that I put to very good use frequently. However, none of them look like the Wish-Bone. So this little wonder gets high marks for it’s clever design.

Here’s how it works; you put your index finger (I prefer to use my middle finger) through the notch at the top of the vibe. You finger tip lands on the single button that switches on the vibe and rotates it through its three speeds before coming to off. That’s it; no bells, no whistles, just solid thoughtful design and construction.

It’s a perfect design. I love to finger myself when I jill-off. This extends my finger for effortless fingering. It’s made of a hard plastic (phthalate-free) that excellently conducts the vibration. It’s fabulous on my clit. And if that isn’t enough, the thing is waterproof. It’s so ideal; I now have the Wish-Bone permanently placed on the ledge of my tub.
FULL REVIEW HERE

ENJOY

November 30, 2009June 24, 2018

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #171 — 11/30/09

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Hey sex fans,

We’ll be winding up the year with our traditional Q&A format. For the few weeks that remain hairy_butt before our well-deserved annual holiday break I’ll be addressing the concerns of the sexually worrisome that come to me as email and voicemail. And if we have the time, we’ll be discussing everyone’s favorite topic; sex toys. The Erotic Mind series will resume in the New Year with a slew of new and interesting erotic artists and authors who will share their work with us and discuss their creative process.

Among today’s correspondents are:

Jake wants to invite his straight male friends to a circle jerk.
Dennis can’t get his GF to blow him, or even jerk him off.
Tyler wants to know how to do a DP.
Uncircumcised Guy wants to get cut now that he’s an adult.
Anonymous wants to know what drips out his ass after gettin pegged.
We have a handjob question as well as some ass play and prostate questions.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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November 27, 2009January 8, 2013

Santa Baby!

Hey sex fans,

It’s Black Friday; the day the holiday shopping madness starts in earnest. I know some of you live for this time of the year, so The Dr Dick Review Crew will do our part. This is Week 3 of this our Holiday Gift Giving Guide.

This week we will hear from Review Crew members: Denise, Jack & Karen and Gina & Kevin.

First up, our friends and neighbors (BC, Canada), the extraordinary women at Eros & Isis send a work of art.

Sweet Pea —— $68.00

Denise
I have the pleasure of introducing you to a luscious little playmate, Sweet Pea, from a fantastic new company in British Columbia, Canada, Eros & Isis. It’s such a rare find to discover a boutique adult products company. I am so over the cookie-cutter, mass-produced stuff made of dubious materials that floods the marketplace. How refreshing to discover a manufacturer with an environmental consciousness. Long live Eros & Isis!

Sweet Pea is a petite, 3.5” x 2.5”, bulbous headed vibe made of 100% platinum silicone. It’s completely safe and non-toxic, which includes the natural mineral pigment embedded into the silicone to achieve the antique look of their toys. It is meticulously sculpted, molded and cast by hand to appear as a turn of the century collectible. It really is unique. I haven’t seen its like anywhere else.

Sweet Pea features a removable one-speed bullet vibrator that can be replaced or upgraded to any bullet-style unit. The bullet come packed with batteries, I’m happy to report. So your first ride is on the house. You can use Sweet Pea externally, but I prefer it as a pussy plug. The sculpted base delivers delicious stimulation to my lips and clit. And it is so soft and comfortable I can wear for an extended time. Very nice!

There’s a bit of a secret to removing bullet vibe from the base for cleanup or when you need to change the batteries. Simply add a few drops of water-based lube between the vibe and the hole it’s in. Remember only water-based lube on a beautiful silicone toy like this. Work the lube around a little; apply pressure to the base of the toy above the vibe and PRESTO! The vibe pops out.

Sweet Pea is just one of the gorgeous Eros & Isis toys and each is available in Gold, Silver, and Jade. The silicone makes the toys easy to clean with soap and water. But it also can be sterilized in boiling water or in the dishwasher; sans the vibe, of course.
FULL REVIEW HERE

Next, we have another Good Vibrations Ambassador Review.

Smartballs Teneo UNO & DUO —— $34.00 & $44.00

Gina & Kevin
Kevin: “Smartballs Teneo are Fun Factory’s take on a very old idea, Ben Wa Balls. You know what those are, right? They are insertable balls that were invented hundreds of years ago, to enhance sexual stimulation and to exercise a woman’s PC muscles (pubococcygeus muscle). But since men have PC muscles too, I wanted to join in the fun. In other words, you do your Kegel exercises with these babies while they are inserted vaginally or, in my case, anally.” 13BG01-1
Gina: “Smartballs are discreet. And as Kevin suggests, they are both pleasurable and therapeutic.”
Kevin: “Remember, the more Kegels you do, the more intense your orgasms are. And this is true for both women and men.”
Gina: “You simply insert the Smartballs Teneo UNO into your vagina.
Kevin: “Or the Smartballs Teneo DUO into your ass. Or the other way around.”
Gina: “Each Smartball unit has a finger groove for easy insertion and a tether that makes for easy removal. You’ll want to use some lube when inserting. And since these products are made of silicone, you can only use a water-based lube with them.”
Kevin: “Here’s the special part. Each Smartball has an inner ball that creates the a sweetest vibration sensation.”
Gina: “They aren’t as heavy a ball as I am used to, but they are comfortable to wear. And you can wear these for hours, if you’d like. Take them dancing, to the grocery or for a walk in the park. Every movement gives you pleasure while strengthening your PC muscles.”
Kevin: “They are extremely durable and easy to clean. You can sterilize them in boiling water or pop ‘em in the dishwasher, which makes the Smartballs Teneo shareable. You can also wipe them down with a lint-free towel moistened with peroxide, rubbing alcohol or a 10% bleach solution. Or just use soap and warm water for a quick cleanup.”
Gina: “I like to masturbate with the Smartballs. My orgasms are more intense, because my vaginal muscles contract around the vibrating balls. Regular use can also help prevent stress incontinence.”
Kevin: “And I like to squeeze one off with a ball or two in my ass. They provide very pleasant prostate stimulation. And ya never have to change batteries or wait for a recharge.”
FULL REVIEW HERE

Finally, the last in our series of Tristan Taormino’s educational and enrichment videos.

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men —— $29.95

Jack & Karen
Jack: “We’re back with another butt sex video. If you remember, last time we reviewed: The Expert Guide to Anal Sex. I was all bummed out because that video didn’t include men as the receiving partners in anal sex. How was I supposed to know that there was an entire video in this series that was all about pegging your guy?”
Karen: “Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men is just what we’ve been looking for.” DVDVIVID66
Jack: “The disc starts out with a tutorial on the subject of male anal stimulation and goes from the anatomy itself through the actual processes involved. And our favorite ass-mistress, Tristan Taormino, is the host of this portion of the film.”
Karen: “Then there are three sex scenes. The first involves Penny Flame and Devin. Tristan is there in an advisory role for the opening portion of the scene. Penny uses her fingers, a butt-plug, and a couple of strap-ons on Devin. This is the part that interested me the most.”
Jack: “Annie Cruz and Nomad are up next. She finger fucks her guy with up to four of them at once. DAMN! She also uses a bead-like butt-plug, an even large butt-plug, and a strap-on on him. Nomad fingers and fucks Annie’s ass with a glass dildo while she jills-off with vibrator. Very Hot!”
Karen: “I like the give and take between these two performers.”
Jack: “The third scene features Jandi Lin and Christian. Christian takes Jandi’s fingers, a metal butt-plug, a glass-like butt-plug and a, curved black prostate stimulator in his ass. Jandi rims him a bit, although not convincingly. Unfortunately there is no strap-on use here.”
Karen: “There was a bunch of stuff in this scene that I didn’t like. They had to do with exchanging bodily fluids, if you know what I mean. I agree with Jack, the connection between the two performers seemed a little contrived.”
Jack: “There are also tutorials in the bonus section. They include; Safer Sex, How to Choose & Wear A Strap-On, Solo Prostate Stimulation—involving the guys from the movie, and Anal Hygiene and Enemas—featuring the gals. This was just the stuff I had been looking for. Some may find the tutorials a bit dry, especially if you’re watching this for the porn value. But I think it’s important stuff to know, particularly for men, like me, who about to make the anal plunge.”
FULL REVIEW HERE

ENJOY

November 25, 2009June 24, 2018

Tony Buff, Part 2 – Podcast #170 – 11/25/09

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Hey sex fans,

It’s the day before Thanksgiving and I have the holiday treat you’ve all been waiting for. Porn star, activist, educator, rigger and Dom. Tony Buff, Is back with us for more of his unique Sex EDGE-U-cation.

Part 1 of my chat with Tony, which appeared last week at this time, is the most popular interview podcast to date. It broke all download records for a single podcast in a single week, so yea for that. But wait, did you somehow miss last week’s installment? We’ll that’s just not right! But don’t worry; you can make it up. All my podcasts are archived right here. All ya have to do is use the site’s search function to your right; type in Podcast #168 and presto! Don’t forget the #sign when you do your search

Tony and I discuss:

His fan base that includes loads of kinky women.
His polyamorous relations that includes Derek da Silva and Chris Yosef.
Open, honest communication the key to relationship success.
Power Play — how he started and his life now.
Being a power switch.
Exhilaration of creating scenes for his sub.
Cathartic and recreational aspects of BDSM.
The importance of working with sex positive & kink-positive healing and helping professionals.

Be sure to visit Tony on his kick-ass site HERE!

See a slideshow of Tony & friends at work and play.

Click on the thumbnails below.

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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November 9, 2009June 24, 2018

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #166 — 11/09/09

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Hey sex fans,

We take a short break from The Erotic Mind series today so that I can attend to BW-shower the backlog of messages from the sexually worrisome that clogs my in-box and voicemail. Today’s show is all Q&A, people. So make yourself comfortable it’s gonna be a very interesting ride.

Oh, and to make things really interesting, as well as satisfy a friend suppressed desire to dole out sex advice. (Apparently he thinks this gig is a cakewalk.) I’m gonna let him have the first words of advice on today’s questions. My friend, who wishes to be known as Uncle Iodine, claims to enjoy the sadistic Samaritan rush of helping people. Well we’ll just see about that.

Among today’s correspondents there are:

Rachel’s orgasms are all wet.
Megan’s guy has a bent dick. What’s up with that?
Devin has foreskin problems. Will this affect the size of his dick?
Louise wants to know why guys like to cum on their partners.
Joe’s wife is regularly peggin’ the shit out of him, and he wants more!
Abe and Sandy both have things stuck in their asses. WTF?
Ken can’t tell if he’s into boys or girls.
Chester wants a pill that’ll grow his dick bigger.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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