Here’s the biggest myth about desire in long-term relationships

— It turns out every part of the narrative we’re taught about how desire works is not merely wrong, but wrongheaded By Emily Nagoski When I first began having long(ish)-term sexual relationships during my college years I believed an old-fashioned narrative about how desire works. We’re told it’s all passion and “spark” early in a …

What is a queer platonic partner?

— Not all long-term relationships require sex or romantic love. By Beth Ashley Modern relationships continually evolve. Many of us are shaping our relationships in non-traditional ways, moulding them to suit our personal preferences, desires, goals and situations rather than adapting ourselves to traditional relationship styles. For some people, this looks like polyamory or open …

She Wrote a Best Seller on Women’s Sex Lives.

— Then Her Own Fell Apart. The sex educator Emily Nagoski’s new book on maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships began at home. By Catherine Pearson A decade ago, as the sex educator Emily Nagoski was researching and writing her first book, “Come as You Are” — a soon-to-be best seller exploring the science of women’s …

What Are the Benefits of a Prostate Massage?

By Wendy Wisner A prostate massage involves stimulating and massaging the prostate gland with a finger or sex toy for either sexual release or to treat a medical condition like prostatitis, an enlarged prostate, urinary hesitancy, or erectile dysfunction. 1 The prostate gland is a small, walnut-shaped organ located just below the bladder and in …

‘We have not had sex since the dog came into our lives’

— When pets affect human relationships From prophetic pooches to clingy cats, Guardian readers share tales of how pets have influenced their love lives, for better and worse By Doosie Morris While humans have kept domesticated animals for tens of thousands of years, there’s no evidence that anyone was ever driven out of a cave …

Why the Holidays Are a True Test of Your Relationship

— Making it through the festive month of December is harder than it seems. By Gina Cherelus Philip von Hahn, a 30-year-old tech investor on the Upper East Side, attended a holiday party on Sunday night to take his mind off the recent dissolution of his three-year relationship. “We’ve been weighing it for the past …

1 in 3 Men Open to Having More Than One Partner. Women, Not So Much

By Dennis Thompson Men are more open to having more people in their committed relationship than women, a new study has found One-third of men in the United Kingdom are open to the idea of having more than one wife or longterm girlfriend However, only 11% of women would want someone else in their relationship …