Sex Advice With An Edge
I get a dozen or so messages a month on this topic. I’ve written about it in numerous postings and spoken about it in several podcasts, but still the email comes. One of the real bugaboos for anyone, regardless of gender, is living up to our own expectations of sexual performance. So many things can …
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One of the most difficult things for me to deal with as a therapist is the aftermath of sexual trauma. And I know that the trouble I have with this is only a tiny fraction
I’m preparing a workshop for recently engaged couples. I expect there will be about a dozen couples attending. While most of the participants will be preparing for their first marriage, there will be at least
— False ideas about what’s “natural” have driven bigotry for too long By Eliot Schrefer As far as LGBTQIA people are concerned, what is old is new again. Recent pushes to restrict classroom representation of sexuality and gender identity, to intimidate libraries out of queer-friendly programming, and to legislate away the right to choose gender …
Sex can be an important part of personal well-being. But sex therapists say the work they do remains misunderstood. By Catherine Pearson In the summer of 2017, six years into her marriage, Kayti Christian booked her first sex therapy appointment. Ms. Christian and her husband grew up in evangelical families, steeped in the belief that …
By Tracey Anne Duncan</a My first foray into BDSM left me covered in bruises and smiling like a moron. I had been in recovery for opioid addiction for 18 months. It was okay. I felt stable. I also felt unbelievably bored. Dealing with my problems in healthy ways was a major joykill. Partying had been …
For anyone asking, “Am I normal?” By Anna Borges Fun sex things to talk about: enthusiastic consent, pleasure, sex toys, kink, orgasms, positions, intimacy. Less fun sex things to talk about: insecurity, inadequacy, unwelcome pain, dysfunction, internalized stigma, embarrassment. Understandable. No one wants to sit around chatting about their deepest sexual anxieties. But when you …
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By Kelly Gonsalves Here are some questions not a lot of people ask each other: How do you feel about your private bits? Do you like the way your vulva, penis, or what-have-you looks? How about the way it feels and functions? Some people have perhaps never given these questions any thought at all; for …
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By Jenny Noyes “My most memorable Tinder date?” Kate Iselin gestures as if to say get ready. “It was a gentleman who invited me to lunch, took me to the food court at Martin Place and showed me a photo of his penis. Soft.” It’s not the fondest memory Iselin – a writer and former …
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— Here’s what to do if you’re in one It doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship’s over By Gabrielle Kassel You know how many of your pals are proudly posting about their Stanley cups, favourite books, and hot girl walks? Well, odds are, even more of your friends are silently suffering through a sex drought. So, …
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— Plus, how to be in one that works. By Jillian Angelini< Recently, polyamory has become seemingly popular in mainstream media. It’s likely you’ve seen the word tossed around during your late-night Instagram scrolls, or via a TikTok video of someone sharing what their ethically non-monogamous relationships look like. It’s also possible you’ve heard the …
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— Here are five ways to protect your sperm By Karin Hammarberg Infertility is often thought of as a female problem, but one in three IVF cycles in Australia involve male infertility. We recently published a review of the literature on whether men diagnosed with male factor infertility experience greater psychological distress than fertile men …
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— The AskMen Guide for How to Be Submissive in Bed By Eve Parsons When you hear the word “submissive,” what do you think of? Many people think sexual submissiveness is all about allowing yourself to be (consensually) “punished” or otherwise denigrated, but the reality is much more complicated. And thanks to either sensationalist or …
— The risks of taking Viagra without erectile dysfunction range from mild side effects to dangerous drug interactions By Raevti Bole, MD Advertisements for erectile dysfunction (ED) medication are everywhere. Viagra® and Cialis® are enormously popular. And as the ads suggest, they’re highly effective at improving sexual performance in people with ED.< But the use …
— How to open things up, for the curious couple. By Allison P. Davis, Alistair Kitchen, Alyssa Shelasky, Anya Kamenetz, and Bindu Bansinath If you live in New York, it’s very possible you’ve recently found yourself chatting with a co-worker, or listening to the table next to you at a restaurant, and heard some variation …
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