Aftercare Conversations Might Be the BDSM Practice You Need to Try

It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …

The BDSM Test Is the Get-To-Know-Your-Kink Diagnostic

By Kells McPhillips BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control, usually broken into six components, “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism,” according to Ali Hebert and Angela Weaver, professors in the department of psychology at St. Francis Xavier University, writing in …

Is Audio or Written Erotica More ‘Ethical’ Than Photo or Video?

by Gabrielle Kassel What’s the short answer? No. There isn’t anything that makes audio or written erotica inherently more ethical than its visual counterparts. Below, we break down why people think they are — and what you can do to be the best (read: most ethical) consumer of written and aural smut you can be. …