Sex Advice With An Edge
— And can it actually work? By Gigi Engle One of the most interesting things about consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is its fluidity. These relationship structures are co-created by partners in order to establish a situation that works for them and their needs, which means that each CNM partnership functions in its own unique ways. While …
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Millennials think we are “Is it possible we could develop an alternative model of loving each other?” This is the question posed by the character Bobbi in Sally Rooney’s debut novel Conversations with Friends, and is a core tenet of the story. Spoken by a 21-year-old, are these words merely youthful idealism? By Lauren Ironmonger …
Defining the terms and risks that come with unconventional relationships By Michelle Talsma Everson Chris Deaton and Elisha Thompson have been together over a dozen years and share a home lined with photos of family and friends in the college town of Tempe, Ariz., where they both work at Arizona State University. Both are graduate …
(and what it means) It’s time we talked about this stuff. By Tatyannah King If you enjoyed taking the TikTok color personality test, wait ’til you learn about the test that guides you to explore your kinks and get a visual breakdown of all the things you might not even know you’d enjoy in bed. …
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Hard yes. Here’s why. By Sara Youngblood Gregory “I use kink as my hope for the future,” says Jade Sky, a 25-year-old living in New York. Between a cross-country move, changing jobs, and tenuous survival, the pandemic hit Sky hard — and kept hitting — as the exhaustion of isolation dragged on. A self-described “passionate …
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Post-pandemic Sex: Many of us are unsure how to navigate relationships in what feels like a new world By Geraldine Walsh Along with indoor dining and international travel, sex is due to make a comeback as the summer of love apparently, belatedly, unfolds around us. The forward-moving vaccination programme brings hope for a normal life. …
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— Why Queerness Is Freedom To Me By Rebecca Woolf First, I want to give thanks to all the queer people who didn’t have the luxury of being offered opportunities to write essays about their queerness, and certainly not for pay. I recognize that the privilege I have in writing such an essay, specifically about …
By Steph Auteri My 6-year-old daughter owns about a dozen books about bodies, babies, and consent (par for the course when your mom is a sex writer). I maintain a separate shelf in my bedroom that holds eight more books I’ll pass along to her — or read myself — as she gets older. And …
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“Experimenting with your identity is not a negative, but the toxic tropes around doing so can be.” By Gina Tonic Sexuality exists on a spectrum and if one end holds people who consider themselves to be 100 per cent gay or lesbian, towards the opposite end you’ll find a space for those who identify as …
Here’s How to Talk About It. I teach sex ed. In light of a recent report on exploitation of children on the site Pornhub, I have some talking points for parents. By Shafia Zaloom The New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof’s recent report on videos of child sexual abuse on the website Pornhub may have …
In need of roleplay inspo? These fantasy porn sites should do the trick. By Beck Diaz At some point in our sexual lives, we all stumble across fantasy porn or adult roleplay and decide that pretending to be someone else in bed sounds pretty damn hot. Coming fresh off a three-month-long quarantine, a spicy little …
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By Meggie Gates I’ve been out since I was 19, and insecure since the day I was born. I’ve shied away from intimacy my entire life, something psychologists label “avoidant attachment” and my mother calls “frustrating.” I am 26, I do not like to be touched, and incidences of sexual assault have only heightened that …
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By Jennifer Evans Recently, a bag thought to contain a bomb was left outside the National Secretariat for Gender Research in Gothenburg, Sweden. The dynamite-shaped device inside turned out to be a fake, but the intent to threaten and scare was clear. Eva Wiberg, Vice-Chancellor of the University of Gothenburg, expressed her grave concerns, saying …
Erika Lust’s new app is making it easier to talk about kinks and fantasies By Marianne Eloise The XConfessions app lets users swipe left or right on sex acts they’re willing or not willing to try Erika Lust is currently making five films at once – no small undertaking, especially as her erotic films are cinematically beautiful; …
By Alia E. Dastagir [M]illions of Americans identify as LGBTQ, and like any group, they have their own language to talk about both who they are and the challenges they face in a society that doesn’t fully accept or protect them. If you want to be an ally, these terms might help — but be …
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