Sex Advice With An Edge
Erika Lust’s new app is making it easier to talk about kinks and fantasies By Marianne Eloise The XConfessions app lets users swipe left or right on sex acts they’re willing or not willing to try Erika Lust is currently making five films at once – no small undertaking, especially as her erotic films are cinematically beautiful; …
By Elizabeth Heineman The Trump administration continues its assault on transgender rights. In July 2017, Trump sought to bar transgender people from serving in the military. Then, this past October, The New York Times obtained a memo indicating that the administration was considering narrowly defining gender “as a biological, immutable condition determined by genitalia at …
Real D/s relationships go beyond ‘Fifty Shades.’ By Tiffany Diane Tso When it comes to understanding BDSM, non-practitioners generally equate the kinky lifestyle with the chains, ropes, whips, and handcuffs found in Christian Grey’s “red room of pain” in Fifty Shades of Grey. And among the different elements included in the BDSM portmanteau (bondage and …
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– A guide to understanding the essence of human sexuality and gender By Sasha Ranganath Humans have always boxed everything up into black and white contrasts and standardised ideals, essentially losing touch with what it means to be human. In this ever-changing, quick-paced world, where everyone is in a hurry, let’s take a step back …
by Sarah Aswell Who says the clitoris is pea-sized? Well, for a very long time, science did. But sometimes science gets it wrong before it gets it right. And even when science gets it right, sexism still takes the stage and moves away the spotlight. It’s time that both men and women learn that a …
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Teaching Kids About Boundaries and Consent What we can learn from the Dutch: Talking openly about bodies helps keep shame at bay, and may help a child speak up if there is a problem. By Bonnie J. Rough As a growing number of #MeToo and #WhyIDidntReport stories have put a new focus on childhood sexual …
By Simone Paget When I was younger, attraction, desire, love and sex were all tangled together in one big elastic band ball of feelings. I equated physical attraction with romantic love and found the two nearly indistinguishable. If I was attracted to someone, I’d immediately make it my goal to date them, often sacrificing my …
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by Natalie Benway “Sex is not what you do, it’s a place you go.” —Esther Perel Americans carry a lot of anxiety about having an exciting sex life. This anxiety inspires Cosmopolitan, Redbook and the like to publish a steady stream of articles flouting “100 ways to spice up your sex life!” and “The top …
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– how older couples can rediscover the intimacy of the early days A lifetime together can make some couples complacent, uncommunicative, or changed so much that they no longer recognise the person they first fell for. Here, in week three of our Be Your Best You series, Claire O’Mahony asks the experts how older couples …
It can be tough, so here’s some help. By Sophie Saint Thomas Once, at a medical appointment, I saw a nurse who seemed unable to wrap his head around the fact that I was sexually active but not on birth control. I wasn’t sleeping with cisgender men at the time; I didn’t need pregnancy protection. …
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A Crash Course on Sexual and Gender Identity by Dr. Chris Donaghue We live in a beautiful time where sexual and gender identity are now limitless, and can be born out of authenticity and creativity. Diverse bodies are gaining full recognition and allowing for confidence in self-expression. So I laugh when I hear people talk …
By Kasandra Brabaw In 1990, a group of women gathered at Antioch College to talk about the growing problem of rape on their campus, drafting the very first version of the school’s Sexual Offense Prevention Policy (SOPP). In doing so, they created what we now know as affirmative consent, decades before anyone else began using …
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by KinkKit Team Try the Yoni Pleasure Mapping Technique: (Yoni, pronounced (YO-NEE), or “Vagina”, is derived from Sanskrit.) The objective is not to achieve orgasm, though that may happen. The objective is to thoroughly learn and discover your partner’s pleasurable spots in a relaxed setting, with no expectations. As you massage your partner, focus all …
In Muslim cultures, homosexuality was once considered the most normal thing in the world – so what changed? By Joe Morgan Islam once considered homosexuality to be one of the most normal things in the world. The Ottoman Empire, the seat of power in the Muslim world, didn’t view lesbian or gay sex as taboo …
Behind the millions-loud movement, there’s a quiet fringe of women not comfortable posting the hashtag—because to out their perpetrator would be to out their husband. By Andrea Stanley After the half-hearted foreplay, but before the lousy sex—that’s when the argument happened. It was nearly midnight on a Tuesday and Jess T. was just getting home …
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