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By Julia Naftulin Lube can make penetrative and anal sex more pleasurable experiences. Choose a lube that fits your needs. Some aren’t compatible with condoms and sex toys. The three main categories of lubricant are water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based. Lubrication, whether it comes from your vagina or an outside source, can make all kinds of …
It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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The hacker demanded to be paid in Bitcoin, because of course they did. By Andrew Paul Sex toy tech is a burgeoning industry often eliciting cheap jokes from people, but it truly presents some serious implications for consumers’ digital privacy and security rights. But hey, no one says these two reactions are mutually exclusive. Don’t …
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By S. Nicole Lane Heteronormativity, predicated on the gender binary, is the belief that being heterosexual (which is attraction only to a different gender) is the only normal and natural sexual orientation. Since it is based on the conception that there are only two genders, heteronormativity does not accurately reflect the reality that gender exists …
Including the most common myths about polyamory and best practices for entering into a polyamorous agreement. By Maressa Brown If you’ve spent even a few minutes on a dating app these days, chances are you’ve encountered profiles that disclose some form of consensual non-monogamy. More and more, people are finding that they prefer to connect …
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By Kells McPhillips BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control, usually broken into six components, “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism,” according to Ali Hebert and Angela Weaver, professors in the department of psychology at St. Francis Xavier University, writing in …
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by Gabrielle Kassel What’s the short answer? No. There isn’t anything that makes audio or written erotica inherently more ethical than its visual counterparts. Below, we break down why people think they are — and what you can do to be the best (read: most ethical) consumer of written and aural smut you can be. …
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“Kink Helped My Mental Health.” By Yasmin Lajoie Two years ago, 38-year-old Alice* suddenly went profoundly deaf. She lost her job, her boyfriend dumped her and the relentless tinnitus she experienced led her to have suicidal thoughts. “Before I went deaf, I was stable,” she tells me. “I had trauma but I could live with …
By Marcos Benhamu When Oliver* and his wife opened their 20-year marriage in 2017, a few things had changed since he was last on the dating scene. “I am older, I am a bit tubby around the edges. I can look back at my old pictures and think, ‘Oh my God! I used to be …
— Sex Bots, Virtual Reality, And Smart Sex Toys By Bernard Marr Now that we have intelligent lightbulbs, doorbells, refrigerators, and more, it was only a matter of time before our most primal and intimate lives became smarter through artificial intelligence. Since sextech was allowed to exhibit at CES 2020 among the health and wellness …
by Eleesha Lockett, MS If you’re familiar with tantric sex, you may also be familiar with the concept of tantric massage therapy. Lingam massage is a type of tantric massage therapy that involves massaging the penis. The goal of lingam massage isn’t to simply have an orgasm. Rather, it’s to create a meditative sexual and …
It’s like a lil bit of dominant + a lil bit of submissive. By Rachel Varina BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. This is where the whole dominant (sometimes called a “top”) and submissive (a “bottom”) dynamic comes into play. “A top is simply someone who leads/guides the …
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by Gabrielle Kassel Erotic. Painful. Punitive. These are some of the ways you might describe a good ol’ bum whooping. But therapeutic? Well, that’s the idea behind spanking therapy. Below, two kink educators explain WTH spanking therapy entails and why people are into it. While it always involves bum bumping, what qualifies as spanking therapy …
By Mary Grace Garis If during this time in quarantine, you’ve done some sexual exploring about what gets you going—great. Maybe you’ve dedicated some self-care sessions to self-pleasure, had some mind-blowing staycation sex, or taken the BDSM test to explore your NSFW interests. And just maybe, all the sexploration has you wanting to learn how …
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By Sandra Song Whether we’re talking about its reliance on fetishization, the overt pay discrepancies or the fact that it’s always been a predominantly white space, it’s no secret that porn has a race problem. But after 20 years of shared experience as performers, educators and master fetish trainers, Jet-Setting Jasmine and King Noire are …
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