Sex Advice With An Edge
The ritual is inculcated into those practicing BDSM, but for anyone else engaging in sexual relationships, it would do well to focus on aftercare, too. By WH Staff Many a rom-com has depicted that moment that immediately follows climax during sex. Audiences have laughed at the sight of partners rolling their sweaty body over, only …
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— And what every queer person needs to know about it If you’re like most people, you’ve probably heard the phrase “sexuality is a spectrum”. In a way, we have Dr Alfred Kinsey to thank for that. By Matthias Walsh In 1948, American biologist Dr Kinsey and associates Wardell Pomeroy and Clyde Martin developed the …
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“Power play” is your new BFF. By Emma Glassman-Hughes It seems you could hardly crack a whip in the last decade without hitting a mainstream depiction of BDSM. Fifty Shades Of Grey eviscerated book sales and box office records; Rihanna’s ode to “chains and whips” peaked at number two on Billboard’s 2011 charts; Netflix’s Bonding …
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— Should Queer People Support It? Efforts from scientists trying to identify “gay genes” are part of a longstanding, problematic tradition of research focused on how minority groups are genetically different. by Helen Zhao and Meg Perret To many of us, the attractions of gay sex are pretty obvious. But some scientists continue to wonder …
by James Roland A vasectomy is a minor surgical procedure that blocks sperm from mixing with semen. This prevents someone with a penis from getting someone pregnant. It’s a common method of contraception that about 500,000 men in the United States choose every year. You may still wonder if a vasectomy hurts since it requires …
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(and what it means) It’s time we talked about this stuff. By Tatyannah King If you enjoyed taking the TikTok color personality test, wait ’til you learn about the test that guides you to explore your kinks and get a visual breakdown of all the things you might not even know you’d enjoy in bed. …
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By Quinn Rhodes What does an open relationship have in common with getting married, having a baby and moving in with your partner? That’s right: none of them is a way to fix problems in a relationship. With an increased awareness of non-monogamous relationship structures, the myth that polyamory is a ‘fix’ for a broken …
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— But Here’s How To Overcome Them By Jason Wachob Every relationship has its nuances, and we should give up the notion that a “successful” partnership has a specific set of criteria. “It’s very important that we not develop a norm of what we think is the relationship that is perfect [versus] the relationship that …
Because pleasure = self-care. By Mollie Quirk An A to Z of kinks and fetishes probably isn’t something you knew you needed, but it’s time to up your sex-ed game because let’s be honest, sex – whether solo or with a partner – and self-care go hand-in-hand. Pleasure is wellness, people. And there could be …
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By Kelly Gonsalves Remember that time on Sex and the City when Charlotte received a rabbit vibrator and fell so in love with it that her friends needed to stage an intervention? It was a fun and goofy storyline, but it does operate under the assumption that it’s possible to masturbate “too much.” So…is it? …
Hard yes. Here’s why. By Sara Youngblood Gregory “I use kink as my hope for the future,” says Jade Sky, a 25-year-old living in New York. Between a cross-country move, changing jobs, and tenuous survival, the pandemic hit Sky hard — and kept hitting — as the exhaustion of isolation dragged on. A self-described “passionate …
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By Gina Tonic I remember a Tumblr post that changed my view of vaginas forever, as Tumblr posts are wont to do when you’re 16 years old and on the family computer late at night. The user was analysing the semantics of how we talk about sex. Why, they wanted to know, is sex always …
According to a polyamorous sex therapist. By Rachel Wright Monogamy is all around us. It’s the relationship style we see every day in the media, pop culture, religion, and, generally, in our everyday lives. Unfortunately, compulsory monogamy is also all around us. Compulsory monogamy culture assumes that everyone strives to be married (or partnered) to/with …
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Now I’m Reclaiming My Sexuality By Arese Sylvester I can’t remember a time I wasn’t interested in sex. As a child, I felt a sort of morbid curiosity towards it and I recognised it as the ‘ultimate sin’. The thing that would get me a ticket straight to hell. As time passed, my curiosity shifted. …
Influencing People’s Perceptions of Their Sexual Orientation By University of Sydney Scientific research has shown that sexuality exists on a spectrum. But how certain are people about where they fit on it? A new University of Sydney study suggests that people’s reported sexual orientation can change after reading about the nature of sexual orientation. Published …
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