Sex Advice With An Edge
By Judith Butler In the United States, gender has been considered a relatively ordinary term. We are asked to check a box on a form, and most of us do so without giving it too much thought. But some of us don’t like checking the box and think there should be either many more boxes …
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— Bigotry is coming from the progressive establishment By Andrew Doyle As a child of the Eighties and Nineties, I remember well that homosexuals were fair game in the mainstream media. One columnist in The Star railed against “Wooftahs, pooftahs, nancy boys, queers, lezzies — the perverts whose moral sin is to so abuse the …
— A talk with poly fairy grandmother Dossie Easton She co-wrote the book on living and loving openly. Here, she speaks to us about her decades of experience. By Caitlin Donohue Twenty-something me would have been verklempt: I was set to interview Dossie Easton, one of the co-authors of The Ethical Slut. The venerable sex …
By Alice Giddings It may be 2024, but one controversial term from the 1980s is coming back from the grave. Lesbian Bed Death is, simply put, the idea that lesbian couples have less sex. It’s a sweeping generalisation of the gay community, but why has it gained traction? ‘Research by Blumstein & Schwartz in 1983 …
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— Everything to know about the 11(!) types of orgasm. By Gabrielle Kassel, Korin Miller and Addison Aloian Look, everyone wants to have a mind-blowing orgasm every time they have sex. But unfortunately, it’s not always that easy. Only about half of women consistently climax during partnered play, and nine percent have never orgasmed during …
— Gaydar has long been the tongue-in-cheek answer to “how to know if someone is gay.” Is there any truth to it? By Erika Owen You’ve definitely wondered at least once: What is gaydar? Is it real? Being human is a funny experience. You meet someone, you catch a “vibe,” and you form an opinion …
— It’s not the same as an open relationship. By Aryelle Siclait and Lydia Wang The beautiful thing about non-monogamy is that it can take on many, varied forms: A non-monogamous dynamic can look like one polyamorous person having multiple romantic and sexual partners, or several individuals all in a non-hierarchical relationship together. One term …
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— How to keep the love alive when you fight Research has found that couples who argue (and get over it) are more likely to stay together than those who avoid conflict. But how can you argue safely? By Emine Saner It wasn’t without a little smugness that I used to tell friends that my …
— How to keep the love alive when sex has gone Fantasising about other people? Wishing your partner was younger or fitter? It doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship By Lizzie Cernik It’s rare for intense sexual chemistry to last. “We don’t talk about it enough,” says the relationship therapist Cate Campbell, …
— Not quite, according to practitioners, who want people to understand that the lifestyle is more than a dressed-up “friends with benefits.” By Gina Cherelus After James Nicholson went through a breakup in October, he realized that he was at a point in his life when he wanted to focus more on himself than on …
— A New Look at Romance and Science Summary: A new study challenges popular romance myths, debunking the Five Love Languages with evidence-based research. The work, proposes a ‘balanced diet’ metaphor for expressing love, emphasizing the need for diverse and evolving expressions of affection in relationships. The findings, including critiques of concepts like “Happy …
— She’s ‘Boysober’ The comedian Hope Woodard is spreading the word about her yearlong break from sex and dating. One fan calls it “this year’s hottest mental health craze.” By Marisa Charpentier A flock of mostly 20-somethings gathered on Tuesday night in a chapel-like building in Brooklyn to hear about a subject that has been …
— Polyamory has only made my family stronger. By Alex Alberto Alex Alberto (they/them) is a queer and polyamorous storyteller who lives in Upstate New York. The following is an adapted excerpt from their memoir “Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home,” which is available for preorder (out February 19). “Entwined” tells the story of …
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— Lasting connection and intimacy take work By Julia Childs Heyl, MSW The desire for love is universal. It’s rare to encounter a human being who has never yearned for true love, but what does the term even mean? >We associate “true love” with fairytales and Disney, or with extravagant weddings and romantic films about …
— The truth about long-term relationships and sex By Carly Mallenbaum Unless you’re talking about a campfire or stove, it’s time to stop worrying about “keeping the spark alive.” Why it matters: Although pop culture and well-meaning friends may have told you that maintaining a “spark” is important for sustaining long-term romantic relationships, sex educator …
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