Understanding These 2 Types of Sexual Desire Will Help You Feel In Control of Your Libido

Introducing: Spontaneous and responsive desire. By Gabrielle Kassel By now, you’ve probably heard a sexual health pro say—punctuated by 👏👏👏, of course—that porn is entertainment, not education. And that’s true. But there’s another type of media that shoves lies about what sex “should” (eye roll) look like down our collective throat: Romantic comedies. One of …

How Using Safe Words Helped Me Reclaim My Sexuality After Trauma

Determining safe words with your partner can create a healthy, loving space. By By Ashley Oken There are sexual experiences that can strip you of believing you have bodily autonomy, feeling safe in your own body, especially during sexual encounters. These leave you feeling powerless over your own sexuality. It could be through sexual violence, …

Keeping Kids Curious About Their Bodies Without Shame

It’s natural and entirely harmless for young children to explore. But it’s also important for parents to set boundaries. By Jenny Marder A mother received an awkward email from her son’s kindergarten teacher last fall. Her 6-year-old and his friends had been caught unzipping their pants and flashing each other during lunch. The behavior was …

Everything you need to know about sex parties

Everything you need to know about getting involved in the adult party scene. By Annie Hayes Sex parties are events where people are allowed to participate in sexual activity with others, often in view of the other attendees. Sometimes called ‘play’ parties, they’re a way for people to explore their sexuality and meet like-minded people …

Cybersex, erotic tech and virtual intimacy are on the rise during COVID-19

By Simon Dubé , Dave Anctil & Maria Santaguida The coronavirus pandemic is affecting sexuality and relationships. The confinement and social distancing measures protecting us are unintentionally exacerbating intimacy-related difficulties and limiting people’s access to partners. For some, COVID-19 is synonymous with loneliness and relationship stress. Many people end up choosing between intimacy and security. …

Sex in quarantine?

Expert advises BDSM during coronavirus pandemic Grab your 6-foot paddle and throw on your gas mask By Ana Valens As some U.S. states ramp up their (premature) reopening process, quarantine horniness is reaching a climax. But sex-havers have a question for the sexperts: How can you fuck as safely as possible during the coronavirus pandemic? …

There’s A Link Between Gratitude & Better Sex

By Kelly Gonsalves Gratitude practices are all the rage these days, and for good reason. Research continues to unearth more and more benefits of gratitude, from relieving stress to improving sleep. The latest addition to the list? Better sex among couples. A recent study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal found that …

How Quarantine Helped Me Overcome Stigmas Surrounding Queer Dating

By Meggie Gates I’ve been out since I was 19, and insecure since the day I was born. I’ve shied away from intimacy my entire life, something psychologists label “avoidant attachment” and my mother calls “frustrating.” I am 26, I do not like to be touched, and incidences of sexual assault have only heightened that …

6 Sex-Positive, Inclusive Online Workshops To Take For Your Hottest Summer Yet

By Kells McPhillips In late 2019, Well+Good predicted that 2020 would mark an all-time high point for the sexual pleasure of vulva-owners—and so far, we haven’t been disappointed. Along with heralding in an era of high-tech vibrators and learning how both solo and partnered pleasure activities can survive during quarantine, an open and honest conversation …

Negotiating Safe Socializing Has a Lot in Common With Negotiating Safe Sex

By April Dembosky Ina Park has been in a monogamous marriage for more than 15 years, but she feels like she’s been having one safe sex conversation after another these days. Like, after she and some close friends spent time together without masks on, forcing her to later ask: “Are you seeing other people?” Then, …