Your Kinks Aren’t Nearly As Weird As You Think

A survey shows many supposedly paraphilic desires are anything but abnormal By Tracy Clark-Flory The world of psychiatry considers a desire for spanking or whipping abnormal, despite “Fifty Shades” of evidence to the contrary. Now, a new study provides proof beyond the publishing phenomenon that these masochistic yearnings, along with several other taboo fantasies, are actually …

Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch

Homophobic prohibitions against male touch are hurting straight men as well. By Mark Green “Boys imitate what they see. If what they see is emotional distance, guardedness, and coldness between men they will grow up to imitate that behavior…What do boys learn when they do not see men with close friendships, where there are no …

REVIEW — Time on Two Crosses: The Collected Writings of Bayard Rustin

In celebration of black history month. The best way to destroy a culture is to deny, suppress, or appropriate that people’s history. A culture without its art, without its myths, without its heroes will soon wither and die. For millennia indigenous peoples all over the world have suffered this kind of cultural rape at the …

How to Do Kegels Without Getting a Bulky, Manly Vagina

By: Faith Choyce Keeping Your Snatch Delicate, Kegels, Mannish-Vagina Risk Unless you’re living under an unfuckable rock, you’ve obviously heard of your Kegels. You might even already be doing them a few times a week in the hopes of toning your pelvic floor, keeping your bladder in check, or turning your otter pocket into a …

There’s No Such Thing as Everlasting Love (According to Science)

Just in time for Valentine’s day! A new book argues that the emotion happens in “micro-moments of positivity resonance.” By Emily Esfahani Smith In her new book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become, the psychologist Barbara Fredrickson offers a radically new conception of love. Fredrickson, a leading …

Trust a Scientist: Sex Addiction Is a Myth

By Jim Pfaus A psychologist explains why sex addiction therapy is more about faith than facts, as told to Tierney Finster Self-labeled sex addicts often speak about their identities very clinically, as if they’re paralyzed by a scientific condition that functions the same way as drug and alcohol addiction. But sex and porn “addiction” are …