How to Find a Sex-Positive Therapist

Some therapists advertising kink- and polyamory-friendly treatment might not be all they seem. Here’s what to look for if you’re seeking mental healthcare that doesn’t see “sexual deviance” as deviance. by Penda N’Diaye Layla, a 30ish queer sub who enjoys domination by her partners—her name has been changed for her privacy—has been in therapy for …

Understanding These 2 Types of Sexual Desire Will Help You Feel In Control of Your Libido

Introducing: Spontaneous and responsive desire. By Gabrielle Kassel By now, you’ve probably heard a sexual health pro say—punctuated by 👏👏👏, of course—that porn is entertainment, not education. And that’s true. But there’s another type of media that shoves lies about what sex “should” (eye roll) look like down our collective throat: Romantic comedies. One of …

The ‘Keep It Real Online’ campaign wants parents to talk to kids about porn — but where to start?

By Tracy Clelland The hugely successful “Keep It Real Online” video aimed at getting parents to talk to their children about pornography has gone viral and been praised around the world. But my 16-year-old son asked an interesting question when he looked at the campaign website: Why does it say talk “to” your child? Shouldn’t …

Keeping Kids Curious About Their Bodies Without Shame

It’s natural and entirely harmless for young children to explore. But it’s also important for parents to set boundaries. By Jenny Marder A mother received an awkward email from her son’s kindergarten teacher last fall. Her 6-year-old and his friends had been caught unzipping their pants and flashing each other during lunch. The behavior was …

Everything you need to know about sex parties

Everything you need to know about getting involved in the adult party scene. By Annie Hayes Sex parties are events where people are allowed to participate in sexual activity with others, often in view of the other attendees. Sometimes called ‘play’ parties, they’re a way for people to explore their sexuality and meet like-minded people …

Cybersex, erotic tech and virtual intimacy are on the rise during COVID-19

By Simon Dubé , Dave Anctil & Maria Santaguida The coronavirus pandemic is affecting sexuality and relationships. The confinement and social distancing measures protecting us are unintentionally exacerbating intimacy-related difficulties and limiting people’s access to partners. For some, COVID-19 is synonymous with loneliness and relationship stress. Many people end up choosing between intimacy and security. …

Sex in quarantine?

Expert advises BDSM during coronavirus pandemic Grab your 6-foot paddle and throw on your gas mask By Ana Valens As some U.S. states ramp up their (premature) reopening process, quarantine horniness is reaching a climax. But sex-havers have a question for the sexperts: How can you fuck as safely as possible during the coronavirus pandemic? …

There’s A Link Between Gratitude & Better Sex

By Kelly Gonsalves Gratitude practices are all the rage these days, and for good reason. Research continues to unearth more and more benefits of gratitude, from relieving stress to improving sleep. The latest addition to the list? Better sex among couples. A recent study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal found that …