The BDSM Test Is the Get-To-Know-Your-Kink Diagnostic

By Kells McPhillips BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control, usually broken into six components, “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism,” according to Ali Hebert and Angela Weaver, professors in the department of psychology at St. Francis Xavier University, writing in …

12 new sex slang terms you need to know

Working ‘doppelbanger’ into conversation immediately.  By Sophie Goulopoulos They say the English language is continuously evolving. And much of that has to do with slang and colloquialisms. Behold, here are 12 new sexy words for your vocabulary. The word of 2020 might be ‘pandemic’ (which is mighty depressing), but we’ve stumbled upon some spicy new …

Why heterosexual relationships are so bad for us

By Julia Naftulin Sexuality and gender researcher Jane Ward researched the history of heterosexuality and concluded that straight relationships are “tragic” because of their inherent inequality.  Through interviews and research for her book, Ward concluded that straight women bear the brunt of opposite-sex relationships. This unequal burden has led to the physical and emotional mistreatment …

Is Audio or Written Erotica More ‘Ethical’ Than Photo or Video?

by Gabrielle Kassel What’s the short answer? No. There isn’t anything that makes audio or written erotica inherently more ethical than its visual counterparts. Below, we break down why people think they are — and what you can do to be the best (read: most ethical) consumer of written and aural smut you can be. …

Contraception, consent, kinks – welcome to the sex-ed you wish you’d had in school

Your questions answered by sex-positive pros. By Ali Pantony For most millennials, the words ‘sex education’ probably conjure up images of clinical vulva diagrams, scaremongering STI leaflets, entirely heteronormative textbooks and absolutely tons of bananas encased in condoms. Basically, you know that bit in Mean Girls when the PE teacher tells the class that if …

Sex Flush

— How to Embrace Your Body’s Natural Arousal Glow by Gabrielle Smith Remember mood rings? Sex flush is kind of like that. Except it’s your body changing color because of a very specific mood: Arousal. Sex flush is a normal part of the arousal cycle. It can happen during solo or partnered sexy times to …

Meet the Couple Fighting Porn’s Race Problem

By Sandra Song Whether we’re talking about its reliance on fetishization, the overt pay discrepancies or the fact that it’s always been a predominantly white space, it’s no secret that porn has a race problem. But after 20 years of shared experience as performers, educators and master fetish trainers, Jet-Setting Jasmine and King Noire are …

Aging and Sex

By Korin Miller Sex advice is often geared toward people who are having it for the first time, but it’s understandable that you might still have questions, even when you’re a sex veteran. After all, your body changes as you get older, and you’re not born knowing how to navigate all of this. >“Our bodies …