Sex Advice With An Edge
Some therapists advertising kink- and polyamory-friendly treatment might not be all they seem. Here’s what to look for if you’re seeking mental healthcare that doesn’t see “sexual deviance” as deviance. by Penda N’Diaye Layla, a 30ish queer sub who enjoys domination by her partners—her name has been changed for her privacy—has been in therapy for …
ByAlexandra Roxo Once I was riding in a car back from Joshua Tree with a few progressive people whom I love. It was a long car ride, and the conversation turned to sex. A friend mentioned that the man she was dating loved blow jobs. Then I said something about having a mind-blowing orgasm when …
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Introducing: Spontaneous and responsive desire. By Gabrielle Kassel By now, you’ve probably heard a sexual health pro say—punctuated by 👏👏👏, of course—that porn is entertainment, not education. And that’s true. But there’s another type of media that shoves lies about what sex “should” (eye roll) look like down our collective throat: Romantic comedies. One of …
Determining safe words with your partner can create a healthy, loving space. By By Ashley Oken There are sexual experiences that can strip you of believing you have bodily autonomy, feeling safe in your own body, especially during sexual encounters. These leave you feeling powerless over your own sexuality. It could be through sexual violence, …
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It’s natural and entirely harmless for young children to explore. But it’s also important for parents to set boundaries. By Jenny Marder A mother received an awkward email from her son’s kindergarten teacher last fall. Her 6-year-old and his friends had been caught unzipping their pants and flashing each other during lunch. The behavior was …
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Everything you need to know about getting involved in the adult party scene. By Annie Hayes Sex parties are events where people are allowed to participate in sexual activity with others, often in view of the other attendees. Sometimes called ‘play’ parties, they’re a way for people to explore their sexuality and meet like-minded people …
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– From Masks to Kissing, a Guide to Your Risks By Carly Severn Let’s get this straight: during the COVID-19 pandemic, there is no “safe way” to have sex with someone you don’t live with. But humans are humans, and we know some folks will still make the choice to get physically intimate with other …
Relationship anxiety reportedly affects 1 in 5 people, but is it normal? By Navit Schechter Relationships with others are essential to our physical and mental wellbeing. They can be a source of great pleasure and support for some, however for others, they can trigger feelings of anxiety and cause a great deal of distress. What …
– A Definition of Polyamory, How It Works And Why It’s Not All About Sex Polyamory is also known as ‘consensual non-monogamy’ By Becky Burgum Storybooks, fairytales and the media have hardwired many of us into believing we will eventually meet ‘The One’ – the person we’re supposed to spend the rest of our lives. …
Don’t try to set them up with the only other queer person you know, who they have absolutely nothing in common with. by Rachel Miller At the end of a Pride month in which a lot of people are newly thinking about how to be a good ally, it’s a great occasion to think about …
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By Kelly Gonsalves Gratitude practices are all the rage these days, and for good reason. Research continues to unearth more and more benefits of gratitude, from relieving stress to improving sleep. The latest addition to the list? Better sex among couples. A recent study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal found that …
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In need of roleplay inspo? These fantasy porn sites should do the trick. By Beck Diaz At some point in our sexual lives, we all stumble across fantasy porn or adult roleplay and decide that pretending to be someone else in bed sounds pretty damn hot. Coming fresh off a three-month-long quarantine, a spicy little …
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By Meggie Gates I’ve been out since I was 19, and insecure since the day I was born. I’ve shied away from intimacy my entire life, something psychologists label “avoidant attachment” and my mother calls “frustrating.” I am 26, I do not like to be touched, and incidences of sexual assault have only heightened that …
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By Canela López Comprehensive sex education in the US has been a point of contention for decades, with former Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders even being asked to resign from her post in 1991 for endorsing sex education and masturbation. While some states have moved away from an abstinence-only curriculum, only 29 states mandate some …
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By Gabrielle Kassel Thanks to the novel coronavirus pandemic, pretty much everything you used to do in person—work, happy hour, doc appointments, weddings—have all moved to Zoom, Google Hangouts, and Facetime. But sex? Yep. That too. Katie, 29, a New York-based publicist is one of the unlucky lovebirds who has unexpectedly found herself in a …
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