How to Find a Sex-Positive Therapist

Some therapists advertising kink- and polyamory-friendly treatment might not be all they seem. Here’s what to look for if you’re seeking mental healthcare that doesn’t see “sexual deviance” as deviance. by Penda N’Diaye Layla, a 30ish queer sub who enjoys domination by her partners—her name has been changed for her privacy—has been in therapy for …

The ‘Keep It Real Online’ campaign wants parents to talk to kids about porn — but where to start?

By Tracy Clelland The hugely successful “Keep It Real Online” video aimed at getting parents to talk to their children about pornography has gone viral and been praised around the world. But my 16-year-old son asked an interesting question when he looked at the campaign website: Why does it say talk “to” your child? Shouldn’t …

6 Sex-Positive, Inclusive Online Workshops To Take For Your Hottest Summer Yet

By Kells McPhillips In late 2019, Well+Good predicted that 2020 would mark an all-time high point for the sexual pleasure of vulva-owners—and so far, we haven’t been disappointed. Along with heralding in an era of high-tech vibrators and learning how both solo and partnered pleasure activities can survive during quarantine, an open and honest conversation …

Sex, Social Distancing and the Fall Semester

By Jennifer S. Hirsch and Shamus Khan A recent behind-the-scenes look at the University of Kentucky’s deliberations about the fall semester revealed detailed plans for housing, dining and classes but contained only an oblique reference to students’ social and sexual lives: “Even if administrators could enforce the rules on campus … what about after hours?” The …

Can the Gay Community Survive Without Hyper-Sexuality?

by Devin Randall Sex. It’s driven gay society for years. Through sexually charged clubs, bathhouses, movies and more. But as we enter a new decade, will queer men be able to live without the gay hyper-sexuality that made our society for so long? The Unhealthiness of Gay Hyper-Sexuality Let’s face it, gay hyper-sexuality has been …

Intersecting racism and transphobia put transgender women at risk

A Western Sydney University study has found that transgender women from culturally and linguistically diverse (CALD) backgrounds are more likely to be the victim of sexual harassment and violence than other women in Australia. 2295 women participated in a nation-wide survey, which aimed to explore women’s lived experiences of sexual assault and harassment, and their …

13 Necessary Queer Literary Classics For Every Bookshelf

From Virginia Woolf’s Orlando and James Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room to Alice Walker’s Pulitzer Prize-winning The Color Purple and Ocean Vuong’s 2019 debut — the queer literary landscape is vibrant, expansive and ready to be explored. By Rosalind Jana The history of queer literature is a long one. From Greek poet Sappho to Irish playwright Oscar …

A guide to getting off to your own sexual fantasies and imagination

By Jess Joho They say the mind is the biggest, most powerful sex organ in the body. But, uh, don’t try visualizing that mental image too vividly or literally, unless you’re into that sorta thing? Instead, imagine your favorite fictional crush pressing you up against a wall, or think back to the hottest sex you …

Stuck in the middle

Growing into my identity By Tatum Lindquist As an empathic perfectionist, conflicts stung me. I used to perceive any conflict as a reflection of my flawed character. It took years of inner wrestling to understand that conflicts were opportunities to grow, not threatening, but nurturing in their tumult. All too often, humans keep to their …