Why do men search for gym buddies on Grindr? An investigation

Grindr has both defined itself by and come to define the language of queer men. One of the most recent trends to be seen across people’s profiles is the rise of the hunt for ‘gym buddies’. By Louis Staples Downloading Grindr – then deleting it, before re-downloading it, only to delete it again – has …

People are “gobsmacked” at an advert that alludes to a woman masturbating

– but why? By Catriona Harvey-Jenner When a Body Shop advert for self-love hit screens this week, the response said a lot about the way society views women. “Go and grab the most phallic object you can find!” yelled the Maid of Honour on my laptop screen. It was the first lockdown, I was on …

What Ethical Non-Monogamy Is and Isn’t

Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships are gaining popularity. But what exactly are they and how do you practice them? by Sian Ferguson Ethical non-monogamy, also known as consensual non-monogamy, is a relationship style that’s been in the spotlight lately. There are many ways to practice ethical nonmonogamy. For some, that might look like polyamory, …

How To Respect and Affirm Folks Who Use Multiple Sets of Pronouns

By Gabrielle Kassel In May, Instagram launched a pronoun feature, allowing individuals to add up to four pronouns to their profile (without eating into their bio’s 150-character limit). And considering some individuals use multiple sets of pronouns—for example they/she pronouns, she/they/he, or she/he—it’s a long-awaited change that’s important for not only these folks, but for …

Everything You Need to Know About BDSM Tests and Kink Levels

It’s basically like a ~sexy~ Myers-Briggs personality test. By Morgan Mandriota Hello, my friends: Welcome to the safe space where kinksters, rookies, and all those in between unite. If you’re looking to explore a new fetish, maybe dabble in a few new kinks, or find out what exactly a brat is (…among other things), you’ve …

Porn for Women

— 15 Feminist Porn Sites You’ll Really, Really Enjoy By martinerobert Many women watch pornography, but for a long time they found it impossible to find it. For women.. There’s a lot of feminist porn out there these days, but it can be a little tricky to find. Many free sites often feel like they …

Leather and Aging

by Steve Lenius Let me begin this column with what some might consider a five-letter word that’s taboo: A-G-I-N-G. I’ve been thinking a fair amount about aging lately, especially as it relates to the leather/BDSM/fetish community. I have written in this column about leather and aging before (in 2001, 2002, and 2007). But two things …