Dear Doctor Dick, I have a problem every time I have sex its great until its time to get to the end. To find my completion I always feel like I have to pee I feel the whole belly in knots thing I love having sex and but I don’t enjoy the feeling that I am going to pee on the guy I’m sleeping with any advice?
Ahhh Kit darling, when you say; “sex its great until its time to get to the end” are you talkin’ about an orgasm? I think so, right? Lots of women feel like they have to pee when they cum. In fact, lots of women actually do pee as they cum.
If I had to guess, I’d say you are experiencing what we in the business call — stress incontinence, while you are in the throws of your lovemaking.
Stress incontinence can happen just about any time. Anxiety, stress, working out, jogging, and fucking can all trigger this type of incontinence. Curiously enough, research shows that younger women actually have more stress incontinence during sex than do older women. While only 3% of women over age 65 reported incontinence during sexual activity, 29% of women under age 60 did.
Regardless of the cause of the stress incontinence — nervousness, exercise or sex there is one common denominator. It’s always related to the strength of a woman’s pelvic floor muscles. The weaker those muscles are, the more likely a woman will leak pee during physical exercise, fucking, sneezing or even laughing.
While many women experience stress incontinence from time to time, there’s a relatively simple solution to the problem. Your pelvic muscles and the tissues surrounding them get stretched out and damaged with time. Pregnancies will also do a number on these muscles. They will also weaken with age. And if you are overweight, well that will weaken pelvic floor muscles too as well as add to the likelihood of stress incontinence.
So you might be asking right about now, what IS this simple solution? Why, it’s Kegel exercises, of course. I have written so much about these exercises and how they apply to both women and men that I practically know my spiel by heart.
If you’ve not heard of Kegel exercises; you need to wake up and smell the coffee, darlin’! They are muscle contraction and relaxation exercises designed help restore tone to the muscles that surround the opening of your urethra, your vagina and your asshole. At the bottom of the pelvis there are several muscle layers, which stretch between your legs. They attach to the pelvic bones at the front, back and sides. Keep these muscles in tip-top condition and you will virtually eliminate stress incontinence.
These exercises will also help you:
• Increase awareness of sensations in your genital and anal area.
• Increase blood circulation in your genital and anal area.
• Aid in restoring vaginal as well as anal muscle tone.
• Increase the intensity of your orgasms.
Let’s try this for starters. Imagine that you’re trying to stop yourself from farting or trying to hold your pee. Notice the feeling of squeezing and lifting — it’s a sensation of your pelvic muscles tightening and drawing up. Try it now, while you are listening to this. That’s the beauty part of kegels; you can do them anywhere, anytime. If you’re finding it difficult to isolate the muscle group, insert a finger into your vagina before doing a Kegel. If you feel pressure around your finger while you are tensing your PC muscle (that short for pubococcygeus muscle), then you’re on the right track.
However, if you’re tightening your abs, squeezing your legs together, clenching your butt, or holding your breath then you’re not exercising the right muscle group. The object here is to isolate your pelvic floor muscles, because those are the ones you wanna be working.
I want everyone, not just you wooly, to work on both muscle strength and tone. Start with five strong prolonged squeezes (5 seconds apiece). Hold then Relax. Then do a series of 10 rapid contractions in a row. Doing three sets of these two types of Kegels twice a day for a week is your goal.
Let’s go over that one more time. Start with five strong prolonged squeezes (5 seconds apiece). Hold then Relax. Then do a series of 10 rapid contractions in a row. Doing three sets of these two types of Kegels twice a day for a week is your goal.
When you’ve accomplished this you’re ready to increase the set to eight or ten prolonged squeezes and 20 rapid contractions in a set twice a day for a week. The advanced kegeler is able to vary the type and duration of his/her PC squeezing; slow prolonged clenches to quick flutters.
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