Sex Advice With An Edge
For starters, know that if your partner won’t go down on you or perform oral sex on you, it has to do with *them,* not you. By AnnaMarie Houlis Oral sex is like the cream cheese icing on a red velvet cake. For many, licking it off before indulging in the rest is irresistible. For …
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by Malic White Many romantic partners are quarantined in separate homes, and online think pieces are falling all over themselves to teach us how to sext and how to plan the perfect long-distance date. While some couples can keep their relationships afloat by flinging the occasional nude into the cloud, those who crave consensual power …
But Lesbians Are Still Being Left Out Of The Conversation By Franki Cookney Sex tech entrepreneurs wanting to cater to women, would do well to listen to what lesbians have to say about female pleasure. Barriers between the traditionally white, straight, male world of investment and the increasingly female-populated worlds of design and production are …
Live and let kink by Race Bannon Within the radical sex and relationships communities in which I navigate, there are few things that spark my anger more than shaming. Whether it’s coming from within the leather, kink, polyamory or gay men’s sex cultures, or from external sources, shaming is far too prevalent. I’m sure shaming …
Teenagers and young men still don’t have the right vocabulary. Can we help them get there? By Peggy Orenstein A while back, during a discussion I was having with a group of high school students about sexual ethics, a boy raised his hand to ask me, “Can you have sex without feelings?” The other guys …
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I thought I knew it all, but I quickly realized we learn little about our own pleasure by Kaitlin Fontana, Chatelaine “You go up and down, and stuff comes out,” Luna Matatas says to the camera while stroking a dildo that looks like a very realistic penis. Matatas is a Toronto-based sex and pleasure educator, …
After years of study in the field of sexuality, there are countless things I wish I’d known about sex when I was first getting busy. By Gigi Engle As is my usual Monday gym ritual, I was on the elliptical with one of my good friends, discussing her love life. She’s in her early 30s …
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By Cayla Rubin ANDRO/GYNE is an intimate photo essay that without words and through an alluring, artistic lens, gives voice to a large group of strong individuals that deserve a platform in mainstream discourse. The mysterious black and white, nude photo series juxtaposes a man and a woman who has undergone a mastectomy without reconstruction. …
Because hooking up doesn’t have to be devoid of feelings. By Yana Tallon-Hicks “Hookup culture,” especially as it plays out on college campuses, is a much-discussed topic. Often, hooking up is studied and speculated about like it’s some kind of sexual epidemic, or at the very least, the outcast of sexual intimacy: Is it increasing …
and What It Isn’t Jessamyn Stanley recently talked about the many misconceptions surrounding polyamory. We reached out to experts to learn more about the relationship practice. By Gabrielle Kassel Bethany Meyers, Nico Tortorella, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Jessamyn Stanley are all stylish AF, badass entrepreneurs making waves on your social feeds. But they have another thing in …
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By Carrie Weisman With some exceptions, gender constructs have served men well in the modern world. It’s landed them in more high-powered positions. It’s gotten them higher wages. And, yeah, it’s given them license to pursue sex in ways that would lead women to be ostracized or shamed. In her new book Untrue: Why Nearly …
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By Gabrielle Kassel Finding answers to questions relating to sex and sexuality is easier than ever before. No matter what you’re looking for, there’s likely a sexpert or a podcast or another source to point you in the right direction. There’s even a whole Netflix show, Sex Education, devoted to the filling in the gaps …
By Victoria Brooks A number of years ago, I found myself at a public sex beach in southern France for research purposes. Unsurprisingly, I experienced some ethical dilemmas. Because I was researching the ethics of sexuality, my research involved potentially having sex with men and women at the beach. The question of whether I “should” …
Fetishes are way more common than you might realize—here’s how to explore yours in a healthy way. By Gigi Engle Kinks and fetishes are less taboo than ever—ours is a post–Fifty Shades of Grey world where BDSM has become mainstream and shows like Broad City, Hot Girls Wanted, and Slutever have helped normalize everything from …
For novelist Lev Rosen, school sex ed involved putting condoms on fruit. We need to be much more creative – and fun, he argues By Lev Rosen When I was 13 years old, when I knew I was queer but wouldn’t be saying so for a year, I remember some boys at school during lunch …
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