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More of The Erotic Mind of Stan Cole — Podcast #408 — 02/24/14

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Hey sex fans,

Ya know what? Last week I was so excited to introduce you to my guest that I completely forgot to mention that stan cole2last week’s podcast marked my 7th anniversary of podcasting. Holy Cow, that’s a lotta podcasting. Hurray for me and all the people who, by their generous donations, make this fun, interesting, and informative sex positive resource available world-wide.

And what better example of the kind of stuff you will find in my podcasts than this The Erotic Mind show. And what better example of the fascinating artists you will find on this show than the very talented, Stan Cole. Who just so happens to be here for Part 2 of his conversation with us about his delightful work.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of our chat or his first slide show, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #407 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Stan and I discuss:

  • Idealized masculinity and including men of color;
  • What drives his erotic creativity;
  • His fondness for spooge;
  • Developing trends in erotic art;
  • Art and porn;
  • What is erotic in art;
  • Erotic art and personal eroticism;
  • What he looks for in the erotic art of others;
  • Artists who inspires him;
  • Advice for the novice erotic artist.

Stan invites you to visit him on his website HERE! Buy his work HERE! Look for him on Tumblr HERE! And Twitter HERE!

Click on the thumbnail images below to see another slideshow of Stan’s smutty work.

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Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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Name: Keith
Gender: Male
Age: 65
Location: Montreal
I’ve been in a 32-year marriage with a man. We’ve adopted children together. Lately he’s become impotent. He won’t take any of the meds for erectile dysfunction. I’m still a very, very horny man and wanting sex. I wonder what your advice would be for us. Communication has always been a big part of our relationship, so telling me to discuss this with him won’t be helpful. I’ve done that already. I am considering looking for a sex partner other than my husband, but I don’t want to jeopardize my marriage. And let me know what you think.

OK, here’s what I think. I think a lot of gay men (and straight folks too) stay together in healthy, loving, long-term relationships, even though the relationship (or marriage) is sexless. Most people in these relationships choose domestic tranquility over sexual tension. That sounds like you and your husband, right? And sometimes the partners in these types of relationships give one another permission to pursue the sexual gratification they need and want outside the primary relationship.

feet on buttThat being said, there is certainly a large percentage of gay men (straight folks too) who could not, nor would they want to not stay in a sexless, or one-sided relationship. And so this alternative satellite relationship arrangement would not appeal to them. But this doesn’t sound like you.

The secret here then is to get the permission you need to find what you are looking for before you start the search. I can tell you from my many years of experience that nothing will undermine even a strong, healthy relationship faster than one of the partners launching out on his own looking for satisfaction without asking his partner’s permission to fly solo.

And if you think “flying solo” is only about sex, you are mistaken. Imagine if one person in a relationship unilaterally decided to make a big purchase with communal funds; a purchase so large that it would jeopardize the family’s financial stability. This kind of “flying solo” could easily crash a relationship.

You say that you and your old man are competent in the communication department. Excellent! Because you’re gonna need all those communication skills to broach the subject of sexual independence.

Of course, not to do anything, or settle for the status quo is not an option either. Living without a healthy sexual outlet, even if it can’t be with one’s primary partner will only lead to aggravation and disappointment and that will destabilize even the best of relationships. My experience tells me that the sexually vital partner living in a sexless marriage, like you Keith, will inevitably build up so much frustration that he won’t be able to control it. There will inevitably be an explosion, one that could easily destroy your relationship.open relationship

I’ve worked with dozens of couples, like you and your partner. Some develop strategies for fixing the sexual problems that have come between them. These couples choose to work on rebuilding mutual sexual satisfaction into the relationship. And that can happen lots of different ways. Others couples decide that mutuality can never be achieved and thus they choose to amicably end the relationship and move on. But there is always that third way where one partner concedes that he is unable to fulfill his marital duties and thus grants his partner the freedom (within bounds) to follow his dick.

One can only hope that your partner will welcome this discussion. If he refuses to join you in that conversation, he is in the wrong. I can understand not knowing exactly what to say about things that are goin’ south, or even not knowing how best to say what may be on your mind, but to clam up all together, that would be unjust.

handOnce a couple has identified the problem the next step is learning how to talk about it in an effective yet non-threatening way. This can be tricky, to say the least. But it is still so much easier than trying to avoid the issue all together.

Whatever you do, don’t settle for the path of least resistance. Your leadership might be just the thing your husband is looking for to muster his own strength to face the facts. Either way, the problem you are facing will not go away simply by ignoring it. Disappointments will become resentments and resentments will inevitably lead to acting-out and that will surly fuck things up royally.

Good luck

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The Erotic Mind of Stan Cole — Podcast #407 — 02/17/14

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We’re on a roll with The Erotic Mind show. For the last two weeks, we spent some time visiting with a well-established literary artist from Portland, OR. Today we travel to England to visit with an up and coming visual artist. I am pleased to welcome the very talented artist and illustrator, Stan Cole.

Stan and I discuss:

  • His passion for his work;
  • Letting his work speak for itself;
  • Who is Stan Cole;
  • Getting a degree in doodling;
  • His nom de smut;
  • Lots of cum shots;
  • Interacting with his fans;
  • Commissions;
  • The distinction between artist and illustrator;
  • Comparing his erotic and non-erotic art;
  • The possibility of future collaborations;
  • His interest in comics;
  • The influence of pop culture.

 

Stan invites you to visit him on his website HERE! Buy his work HERE! Look for him on Tumblr HERE! And Twitter HERE!

Click on the thumbnail images below to see a slideshow of some of Stan’s delightful work.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

 

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: Fleshlight & FleshJack.

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HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

Hey sex fans!

It’s Product Review Friday! And this week we feature yet another innovative product from the creative folks at Perfect Fit Brand.  And when PFB sends us products to review we know we’re in for something special.  As you all probably know the Perfect Fit Brand is responsible for The Best Product or Toy for Men for both 2012 and 2013.

To keep track of all our PFB reviews use the search function in the header of DrDickSexToyReviews.com, type in Perfect Fit Brand, and Voilà!

Dr Dick Review Crew members, Kevin & Gina are back with us after a long hiatus, so they’ll do the honors today.

Orbit BodyFit Vibrating Stimulator —— $54.57

Kevin & Gina
Gina: “We’re back! Did you miss us? We sure as hell missed you.”
Kevin: “We’ve been really busy since our last posting back in July of last year. I took a new job, Gina was doing some teaching, and the biggest news, we got hitched. That’s right, I finally made an honest woman of the lass.”
Gina: “I didn’t really care if I was ‘honest’ or not, but my mom sure did. She and my dad are super-Catholics and they were in torment these last few years knowing their only daughter was living in sin. OMG, if they only knew. Anyhow, some friends of ours, a gay couple, mind you, decided to get married and asked Kevin and I stand up with them. My first maid of honor gig and there wasn’t even a bride.”Orbit BodyFit Vibrating Stimulator black
Kevin: “I figured if Tad and Colin could take the plunge, so could I. Right after their wedding I got down on my knee and proposed to Gina.”
Gina: “Totally romantic, and in front of all our friends too! I couldn’t say no. Well, I guess I could have said no, but I didn’t want to. Kevin’s my man! He’s a pervert, but he’s my pervert. Three months later, Kevin and I walked down the aisle of the church I was baptized in. The priest waved his hand over us and we promised never to part.”
Kevin: “But just to let everyone know we weren’t mainlining the whole religion thing, Tad was my best man and Colin was Gina’s ‘maid of honor.’ Gina’s parents were scandalized and the priest was all weirded out, but it was our fuckin’ wedding and if we had to do it in a church, then we’d do it our way.”
Gina: “That was more information than I expected to share, but there ya have it. Now, on to our review. Here’s the Orbit BodyFit Vibrating Stimulator.”
Kevin: “Or as we like to call it, my super-duper vibrating cockring. Ya all know what a cockring is and does, right? If not, check out Dr Dick’s Cockring Crash CourseOrbit is from Perfect Fit Brand. Another one of their cockrings, Armour Up, was among last year’s Best Products of the Year. In fact, Orbit is the Armour Up ring on steroids.” Orbit BodyFit Vibrating Stimulator
Gina: “That’s right! The creative minds over at Perfect Fit Brand have proven that not only do they create brilliant products for men, but they know how to please a woman too. Orbit, like Kevin just mentioned, has all the features of the Armour Up for him, but it also has a powerful built in bullet vibe for me. The easy to switch on, three-speed vibe is powered by three of those tiny round watch batteries.  And they are included in the package. You can easily remove the bullet from the Orbit to change batteries.”
Kevin: “Yep; my erection is enhanced, I have more intense orgasms with Orbit, and the vibe is so powerful that I can feel it throughout my pelvis. Very fuckin’ cool!”
Gina: “Orbit is made of a proprietary blend of silicone and TPR (a thermoplastic elastomer), which makes it latex-free, nonporous, and phthalate-free. And it is super-stretchy for comfort and durability. It come in both black and clear.  You can use water-based lube or silicone-based lube with it as you please. And it cleans up with with mild soap and water. Nothing could be easier.”
Kevin: “For anyone who is looking for a quick and simple way to spice things up in the bedroom without breaking the bank, Orbit is the product for you. And consider this; once Orbit is in place, around your cock and balls, and turned on, the only thing left to do is have sex. Unlike other vibrators, Orbit leaves your hands free to massage, caress, grope, pinch, spank, or whatever else happens when your hands are free to do the talking.”
Gina: “The Perfect Fit Brand keeps cranking out the winners. I hope, that one of these days, they will turn their attention to creating a product or two just for us gals. But until that time, I’ll be enjoying Orbit right along with Kevin.”
Full Review HERE!

ENJOY!

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The Erotic Mind of Stella Harris — Podcast #406 — 02/10/14

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

The delightful literary artist, Stella Harris, is back with us again today for Part 2 of her turn on this The Erotic Mind show.bookstore-2-BW

Besides the great conversation we had last week, Stella read from her work and she like totally steamed up the joint, don’t cha know. With a little luck I think I’ll be able to prevail upon her to cast another smutty spell today. So stick around, it’s gonna be quite the ride.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of our chat, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #405 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Stella and I discuss:

  • Her nom de perversion;
  • Becoming Stella;
  • Writing dirty letters to a lover good practice for writing erotica;
  • Strangers on the internet and local dungeons;
  • Fellow Portland resident, Tonya Jone Miller;
  • Fetishes and turn-ons;
  • Erotica/sex writing/romance/porn;
  • Her inspiration, Shanna Germain;
  • Advice for the novice writer.

 

Stella reads from her work in The Big Book of Orgasms.

Stella invites you to visit her on her beautiful site HERE! Her Facebook page is HERE! And her Twitter feed is HERE!

(Click on the cover art below to discover volumes featuring Stella’s work.)

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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