More Sex EDGE-U-cation with Tonya Jone Miller — Podcast #371 — 04/10/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.Tonya

Phone sex performer, educator and sex-positive activist, Tonya Jone Miller, returns today with more of her signature Sex EDGE-U-cation. Considering the amazing response last week’s show got, I know you are as jazzed about her return as I am.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this chat, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site.. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #370 and Voilà! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Tonya and I discuss:

  • Stereotypical misconceptions about sex workers;
  • Tits & Sass;
  • Why most sex workers do sex work;
  • Everyone knows;
  • Never having to apologize;
  • What comes of a life denied;
  • The impact of her work on her intimate relationships;
  • How she prepares herself for work;
  • The woman who most inspires her;
  • Her sexual heroes.

You’ll find more about Tonya on her website HERE! Her FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And, by all means, do not miss her Twitter feed HERE!

Today’s podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Sex Advice and Dr Dick’s Sex Toy Review.

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Sex EDGE-U-cation with Tonya Jone Miller — Podcast #370 — 04/03/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back!TJM01

Buckle your seat belts, because we’re in for one hell of a ride. Coming up is a new edition of the Sex EDGE-U-cation show. And by now I’m sure you know this is the series that takes a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative lifestyles and we do so with a remarkably talented people from all over the freakin’ world, don’t cha know.

My guest today is phone sex performer Tonya Jone Miller. She is an educator, sex positive activist and, of course, a self-identified sex worker. She’s brilliant and kinky, and if that weren’t enough, she’s got a big, brassy sense of humor that’ll knock you out.

Tonya and I discuss:

  • Being an Aural Courtesan;
  • Imagination and sex;
  • Mutual satisfaction in her work;
  • Verbalizing sex and eroticism for sexual health;
  • On the road with rock bands;
  • Acting school;
  • Sexual triggers and taboos;
  • Fantasy and reality;
  • The “gateway drug” theory;
  • Her gift of acceptance;
  • Her woman clients;
  • The infidelity question.

You’ll find more about Tonya on her website HERE! Her FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And, by all means, do not miss her Twitter feed HERE!

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The Erotic Mind of Alexander — Podcast #368 — 03/18/13

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Hey sex fans,Me with comic 2

Are you ready for another edition of The Erotic Mind show? Well, get the hell out the way if you’re not. As you probably know, this is the series where we chat with ingenious erotic artists of every stripe from all over the freakin’ world. And all of these conversations revolve around one simple principle — uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

Today my guest is the oh so charming and ever so talented artist and illustrator, Alexander. But ya know what? First we have to slip on our travelin’ shoes, because we have to take a little field trip. Today’s destination is Liverpool England, where we will meet our young guest in his natural habitat. I’ll bet he’ll be shirtless and wearing tight jeans!

Alexander and I discuss:

  • His big, fat, uncut…talent;
  • Ridehard — ten years in the making;
  • The peculiarities of his characters;
  • Meaty story and hot sex;
  • What comes first — story or images;
  • Why a spy;
  • Being published by Class Comics;
  • TwinkyTunes;
  • Being a child prodigy;
  • When the erotic element began to show up in his work

 

Alexander invites you to visit him on his website HERE! And look for him on Facebook HERE! And Twitter HERE!

Click on the thumbnail images below to see a slideshow of some of Alexander’s delightful work.

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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More Sex EDGE-U-cation with Gina Hunting — Podcast #367 — 03/13/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

The remarkably talented, the oh so edgy and the deliciously pervy Gina Hunting is back for more of her signature Sex EDGE-U-cation. And I can hardly wait!IMG_6713

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #366 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Gina and I discuss:

  • Blood, Sweat and Queers;
  • The importance of queer space;
  • Women only space;
  • (cat)Fight Club and BOUND;
  • The Women in Kink Conference;
  • Transwomen and cis-women;
  • People of color;
  • Her lifestyle presentations and workshops;
  • The leather community and the BDSM community;
  • Primal play;
  • Dom/sub and Top/bottom;
  • Her inspirations and her sexual heroes.

 

You’ll find more about Gina on her on FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And be sure to check out her upcoming program, Women In Kink, HERE!

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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Sex EDGE-U-cation with Gina Hunting — Podcast #366 — 03/06/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

Holy Cow! We haven’t had a Sex EDGE-U-cation show since late October. Now that’s just not right. Luckily, I have the solutionGina to that dilemma on tap today. We welcome back this series that takes a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative lifestyles and we do so with a remarkably talented, and oh so pervy woman who lives right here in the Emerald City.

My guest today is Gina Hunting. She is an educator, activist and woman of great wisdom. And she is edgy as all get out. Just wait till you hear the litany of the things that makes her happy. I can assure you it ain’t eatin’ bon-bons and watching her favorite TV programs, if ya catch my drift.

Gina and I discuss:

  • Seattle, a hotbed of perversion;
  • BDSM not her lifestyle, but a really important hobby;
  • The intensity and intimacy of a scene;
  • Coming to it all as an adult;
  • A matter of context;
  • Genderqueer and gender exploration;
  • Coming to The Emerald City from San Francisco;
  • A thing she does; not a thing she is;
  • Coming out as a Top;
  • Misdirected power exchange;
  • The Center for Sex Positive Culture.

You’ll find more about Gina on her on FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And be sure to check out her upcoming program, Women In Kink, HERE!

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Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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More SEX WISDOM With Mandy Traut — Podcast #365 — 02/27/13

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Hello sex fans! Welcome back.

My new friend and fellow therapist, Mandy Traut returns for Part 2 of our chat for this the SEX WISDOM series. dsc_1634What a joy it was to meet her last week.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #364 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Mandy and I discuss:

  • Swinging and polyamory;
  • It’s an intimacy thing;
  • Poly in the popular culture;
  • Comprersion;
  • Tips for coming out;
  • Reclaiming derogatory words;
  • Who inspires her;
  • Her sexual heroes.

 

Mandy invites you to visit her on her site HERE! You can also find her on Facebook HERE! And she’s on Twitter HERE!

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SEX WISDOM With Mandy Traut — Podcast #364 — 02/20/13

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Hello sex fans! Welcome back.

One of the things that makes my life so wonderful are opportunities, like this, to introduce you, my audience, to remarkable people you Image 1probably would never know otherwise. This is particularly true for this the SEX WISDOM series, which brings you interviews with the movers and shakers in the field of human sexuality. I generally chat with colleagues well established in our field, but today I want to introduce you to someone just beginning her career. And what an illustrious career it will be. I am delighted to welcome a new friend and fellow therapist, Mandy Traut.

Mandy is a psychotherapist here in the Emerald City. She has a wonderful and engaging philosophy and therapeutic style that underscores her commitment to the health and wellbeing of her clients. And I am looking forward to getting to know her better right along with you.

Mandy and I discuss:

  • The dehumanizing effect of the “disorder” designation;
  • Her sex-positive credo;
  • Her VISTA gig;
  • Coming out as kinky;
  • Body awareness and sexual health and wellbeing;
  • Mindfulness and being grounded;
  • Performance anxiety;
  • Kinky vs. vanilla
  • Meeting bendyogagirl;
  • Context is everything.

Mandy invites you to visit her on her site HERE! You can also find her on Facebook HERE! And she’s on Twitter HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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More of The Erotic Mind of Butch McLogic — Podcast #362 — 02/04/13

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Hey sex fans,

The charmingly disarming artist, illustrator, and comic book maker, Butch McLogic, is back with us today for a Part 2 of his Butch-Bio-Pic-To-Dr-Dickappearance on this The Erotic Mind show. Considering all the marvelous feedback I got after last week’s show, including heaps of praise from some of his fellow artists, I know that ya’ll are as excited about Butch’s return as I am.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #361 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Butch and I discuss:

  • Loving Vancouver, BC;
  • His ginger fetish;
  • Loving his work;
  • His imagination and his creations;
  • BentCon and Sean-Z;
  • Class Comics;
  • The erotic in art;
  • The play between writing and drawing;
  • What he looks for in the erotic art of others;
  • Those who inspire him and his sexual heroes;
  • Advice for the novice erotic artist.

Butch invites you to visit him on his website HERE! And look for him on Facebook HERE! And Twitter HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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The Erotic Mind of Butch McLogic — Podcast #361 — 01/28/13

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Hey sex fans,

Get ready for another edition of The Erotic Mind show. As you probably know, this is the series where we chat with ingenious Butch-McLogic-Bio-Pictureerotic artists of every stripe from all over the freakin’ world. And all these conversations revolve around one simple principle — uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

Today my guest is the very talented artist and illustrator, Butch McLogic. Butch was raised on the Canadian prairies, don’t cha know. But that humble beginning didn’t stop him from growing up, moving to the big city, and making a name for himself as one of the most gifted erotic comic book makers evah! So what do you say we all take a little field trip. Let’s mozie on up to Vancouver, BC and see what the mysterious, camera shy Butch is up to.

Butch and I discuss:

  • How I discovered is big fat uncut talent;
  • His artist’s statement;
  • The Tug Harder trilogy;
  • Beautiful Dead;
  • If he’s really a size queen;
  • Staying out of the limelight;
  • His interview with Jezza Smilez;
  • His love of philosophy;
  • Growing up on the prairie;
  • His parent’s hostility toward his career choice;
  • When the erotic dimension began to show up in his work;
  • His nom de smut.

Butch invites you to visit him on his website HERE! And look for him on Facebook HERE! And Twitter HERE!

Click on the thumbnail images below to see a slideshow of some of Butch’s marvelous work.

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The Erotic Mind of Carl Proctor — Podcast #358 — 01/07/13

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Hey sex fans,

Happy New Year everyone! We’re all back from our winter holiday and we’re rarin’ to go. And I figure, there’s no better way to kick off CP 02the New Year than with a chat with an extraordinary visual artist. Yes siree, this here is The Erotic Mind podcast series, where we chat with ingenious erotic artists of every stripe from all over the freakin’ world. And all these conversations revolve around one simple principle — uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

Today my guest is the very talented photographer, Carl Proctor.  Carl hales from beautiful downtown Homer, NY, don’t cha know. That little town is in the Finger Lakes district of central New York State. But now he resides and works in Atlanta, GA. Stick around for a marvelous conversation as we discover how this small town boy grew up to become one of the most gifted erotic photographers in the country.

Carl and I discuss:

  • The wholesomeness of his nudes;
  • Getting to know his models;
  • His travels — learning about different cultures and mores;
  • Early exposure to tantalizing imagery;
  • The sensual nature of his non-erotic work;
  • Having sex on the brain;
  • The sensual and the mundane;
  • The dramatic aspects of the erotic;
  • The allure of the taboo.

Carl invites you to visit him on his website HERE! Or find him on Model Mayhem HERE!

Click on the thumbnail images below to see a slideshow of some of Carl’s work.

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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All In A Day’s Work

There are so many interesting people out there on the web.  And many of them are doing their damnedest to make a difference in the lives of others. For example, the other day a young woman who has her own relationship advice website asked me if she could interview me for her site. I was very happy to oblige.

Her site is very different from mine in both style and presentation. One of the first questions she asked me is. “Why do you put such sexually explicit images on your site? It sometimes looks like a porn site. Doesn’t that take away from the advice you give?” Without coming right out and saying so, I believe she thought I should have a more formal presentation, a presentation that was befitting a professional of my stature. sexually explicit images

I told her, I add the images to be provocative. Most people who visit my site are already familiar with seeing sexually explicit images online. What they don’t get at those other sites is good, unambiguous, sex-positive information about human sexuality. I’ll be honest, I went on to say, I use the images to entice my audience to read the words around the images. It’s a psychological thing, ya see. Images, even those that may, at first glance, be off-putting can and do rivet one’s attention to the message I’m trying to communicate. Also the images make my site stand out from all the other professional oriented sites that offer similar sex advice. Besides, I like the way the site looks with all the images. I find it edgier as well as more interesting. After all, this is Sex Advice With An Edge!

Of course there is a downside to this. I’m approached on a regular basis by online advertisers; folks who would love to give me money in exchange for ad space on my very popular sites. And I’m all in favor of taking their money, don’t cha know. But more frequently than not, there are strings to this money. “Dr Dick, we would love to support you and your site, but we have to ask you to first rid your site of any sexually explicit image.” Well, fuck yourself very much! Is my retort. Of course, I try to say it in a real nice sorta way. I explain to my would be sponsors; ya see, this is how sexual repression begins. If I took your money and allowed you to dictate the kinds of images I could use on my site, in short order you would also be asking me to change my written and/or spoken content. And that, sex fans, I will never do, not even for some much needed financial support.

That’s when I hit upon the idea of having my audience help support the site. I added a DONATE button right there in the sidebar to your right, which you may or may not have noticed.  Ya see, infrastructure and administration for a free site like this is very costly. And instead of selling out to advertisers who want to censor my content, I invite all of you who enjoy DrDickSexAdvice.com and DrDickSexToyReviews.com to make a modest, once a year donation. Think of if as a holiday present to all you fellow sex fans. Your donation not only goes to supporting what you consume, but it underscores your social conscience. Your sponsorship helps disseminate badly needed sex education and sexual enrichment messages throughout the whole world. Hint, hint…I could use your support! I even have swell gifts to send to those who contribute as a certain level. Now doesn’t that sound just like your public television station?

jillin-off500Next my young interviewer asked, “If I could give one single piece of advice to her audience about sex, what would that be?” I love it when people ask questions like this. “Say Dr Dick, let’s sum up your life’s work in a sentence or two.” I tried to be gracious and come up with a pithy response that wouldn’t sound trite. I thought for a moment and said, “masturbation!” “Ahhh, what about masturbation exactly?” she inquired. I said, “everything.” She sounded perplexed. I suppose I was being a wee bit too pithy with my one-word answers.

So I went on to elaborate. Ya see masturbation is the key to a successful sex life. It is the most basic building block of all sexual expression. If we take the time to learn everything that masturbation has to teach us about ourselves, both in terms of physical and mental responses, we will be well on our way to being a really great lover. And the best thing about masturbation is that nature supplies all the motivation, because masturbation is it’s own reward. It’s pleasurable, informative, particularly if you pay the slightest attention, and you don’t need a thing other than what has already been supplied by nature.

Just about every sexual dysfunction I can think of has at its root a lack of understanding and appreciation for simple self-pleasuring. Some people never learn how to masturbate. Most of these folks are women, who then are set up for a lifetime of sexual frustration and disappointment. Some people learn to masturbate early in life. Most of these folks are men. But just because they can pull their pud with relative ease, doesn’t make them a student of self-pleasuring. In fact, a lifetime of mindless jerkin’ off can be counterproductive. Years and years of quick wanking just to relieve sexual tension, or just because one is bored, is the major contributing factor of premature ejaculation.

If we spent at least some of our masturbation time acquainting ourselves with our body and our sexual response cycle, we’d not only be male_masturbationpleasuring ourselves, but we’d be learning what makes us tick. And that, my friends, is essential information we’ll want to pass on to our partners.

One of the biggest problems with partnered sex is that most women and a whole lot of men think that their partner should know exactly how to pleasure them, right from the get-go. This is incredibly naive if you stop to think about it. Just because each of us has a relatively similar configuration of parts down there, as does every one else, that doesn’t mean we all function the same way. Each of us is unique, not just in terms of our physical attributes and how we’re hot-wired, but more importantly what turns our crank in our biggest sex organ, our mind.

My interviewer than came up with a humdinger, “since so many people have difficulty expressing themselves sexually, why do you suppose they bother?” I suppose they bother because they are driven to bother. For starters, we’re animals and sex is part of the biological imperative of all animate things. Lots of people muddle through the complexities of sexual coupling just so they can replicate. Once that’s done they don’t bother further. For those who aren’t particularly successful in finding a mate for this purpose they can always burn off excess sexual tension on their own…which gets me back to my masturbation comments. You see how all this sex stuff tends to make a big circle, right?

As our forebears evolved and advanced farther from their mere biological urges to something that more closely resembles modern human motivation, their rapidly developing brains began to play a larger the role in dictating their sexual expression. Pleasure soon began to compete with procreation as the dominant reason for exercising our sexuality. Of course, we often run into problems when seeking out another to satisfy our pleasure, which gets me back to my earlier point, but we do nonetheless.

As humans began to develop societies along with culture came religion. Inevitably sexuality became intertwined with that too…not always for the better. On the upside, the earliest religions and gods welcomed and celebrated sexuality and an integral part of human nature. There were sacred prostitutes and sexual orgies were part of religious expression. Unfortunately, these religions and gods didn’t fair well in their upcoming struggle with more militaristic and male dominated religions and gods. Basically the old religions and gods were outlawed and persecuted. A new era of sexual repression was upon us. But even today, one can hear the echo of this ancient tradition. There are some among us who firmly believe that sexuality is the best means to communing with the divine.

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As human societies became more complex, the role of sexuality also changed. In a male dominated culture sex was more about aggression and ownership than anything else. The pleasure principle, at least the concept of mutual pleasure disappeared. Women were on the receiving end of this assault, of course. And as a consequence a man never had to bother himself with the niceties giving to get. He just took. Centuries upon centuries of culturally sponsored behavior like this has created a sexual male that is unversed at best and resistant at worst to the idea of mutuality with his partners. The “get it up, get it on and get it off” mentality leaves little room for female sexual expression.

lesbian_tickle.jpgOnly recently, with the rise of the women’s movement, have things begun to change. Happily, some of us men folk are getting the message that that pleasuring one’s mate will actually result in an abundance of more pleasure for them. A novel concept for most of us, don’t cha know. Alas, this still leaves us with the pressing problem that began this discussion. Most men, particularly young men, are unfamiliar with the workings of their own bodies and sexual response cycle. They are absolutely clueless about the great mysteries of the female anatomy and how all those blasted things works.

So we fall upon one another in this hit and miss manner, missing more often than we hit, sadly. And yet we persevere. All I’m saying is if we all took a little more time before for the event to introduce our partner to the peculiarities of our own bodies, there would be more hits than misses. Of course, that’s dependent on having a much better sense of ourselves than most of us do.

Nowadays, it’s très chic to fuck for a myriad of more interpersonal reasons. These include — self-expression, creativity, self-esteem and emotional satisfaction. With motivations like these, physical desirability of the potential partner often plays a much larger role than ever before. This gives rise to the innumerable industries out there that prey upon our natural insecurities. Think of all the ways in which we measure ourselves and one another. And who among us does not find ourselves wanting in one aspect or another? Either our cock isn’t big enough, our tits are too small. We’re too short or too tall, too fat or too thin, too young or too old, too much hair or not enough. We’re the wrong color, or ethnicity, too rich or too poor. Didn’t go to the right school or live in the wrong neighborhood. And the list goes on and on. With all this worry and anxiety it is, as my young interview suggested, a wonder that we ever connect at all.kissing.jpg

Then there’s the “L” word — LOVE. This is the most complicated, irrational and inexplicable of all motivations for connecting with another human on any level, least of all sexually. While love may go a long way to blind us to the inescapable insecurities that plague us all — you know how they say that love is blind — it isn’t always enough to overcome sexual dysfunction. And here is where the sex advice industry, of which I am a proud practitioner, enters the picture.

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More of The Erotic Mind of Shanna Germain & Kay Jaybee — Podcast #355 — 11/19/12

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

Today’s show for The Erotic Mind series brings back Kay Jaybee and Shanna Germain.  These two marvelous authors are here again this week to continue the discussion we began last week, about edgy BDSM erotica, and why the good stuff is better for you than schlock.  And to prove it, Kay will treat us to a steamy reading from her work, Not Her Type. You won’t want to miss this, sex fans.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #354 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

KayShanna and I discuss:

  • The history of erotica;
  • A splash, like the 50 Shades Of Grey phenomenon, has happened before;
  • A predictable formula — female submissive with a male Dom;
  • The cultural and gender aspects of power play;
  • The divide between kink and BDSM;
  • The dangers inherent in labeling sexual behaviors;
  • Marketing kink and BDSM;
  • An author’s responsibility to get things right;
  • The emotional truth vis-à-vis the literal truth;
  • Does an author need to be a practitioner;
  • The availability issue;
  • Advice for the novice writer.

For more of Kay Jaybee visit her website HERE! Find her on Facebook HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

For more of Shanna Germain visit her website HERE! Find her on Facebook HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

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The Erotic Mind of Shanna Germain and Kay Jaybee — Podcast #354 — 11/12/12

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

Holy cow; do I have an exciting show in store for you today! I have not one, but two remarkably talented guests with me as we crank up yet another edition of The Erotic Mind series.

Why two guest instead of just one? Good question! It all started last summer. Shanna Germain wrote to me suggesting we do a show all about the 50 Shades Of Grey phenomenon. She suggested that we provide ya’ll with the antidote to this unfortunate publishing spectacle. Meanwhile, Kay Jaybee and I were having a similar email exchange. So I came up with the bright idea to have them both on the show at once.

So here we all are, ready to treat you to marvelous discussion of edgy BDSM erotica and why the good stuff is better for you than schlock. And Shanna will read from her work, Fool’s Gold, which will pretty much knock your socks off.

ShannaKay and I discuss:

  • What they’ve been up to since they were last on this show;
  • What we know about 50 Shades Of Grey, it’s author and publisher;
  • Why this thing was a run-away hit;
  • It’s impact on the popular culture in general and erotica writing in particular;
  • Being on the receiving end of bad reviews;
  • Behind the media’s role in stoking the phenomenon.

For more of Kay Jaybee visit her website HERE! Find her on Facebook HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

For more of Shanna Germain visit her website HERE! Find her on Facebook HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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More Sex EDGE-U-cation with bendyogagirl — Podcast #353 — 11/07/12

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Hey, hey sex fans. Welcome back.

The marvelous educator, practitioner and activist, bendyogagirl, is back with us today. She’s here to dispense even more of her signature Sex EDGE-U-cation, don’t cha know. This is Part 2 of our conversation, which, I can assure you, will be filled with the same no-nonsense look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative lifestyles that you enjoyed so much last week.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #352 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

bendyogagirl and I discuss:

  • Becoming Bendy and why the moniker;
  • Her passion for teaching;
  • Processing pain;
  • Energy play;
  • Bondage from the bottom;
  • Her polyamorous life;
  • The meaning of never and always;
  • Uni-polar sub
  • Kinksters and healing and helping professionals.

For more of bendyogagirl visit her website HERE! Her blog HERE! Find her on Fetlife HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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Sex EDGE-U-cation with bendyogagirl — Podcast #352 — 10/31/12

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Ya wanna hear something really scary? We haven’t had a Sex EDGE-U-cation show since late April. Now that’s just not right. Luckily, I have the solution to that dilemma on tap today. We welcome back the series that takes a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative lifestyles and we do so with a remarkably talented, wickedly funny, and oh so pervy woman who has just relocated to the Emerald City from Boston. Hurray for us, bad luck for Bean Town.

My guest goes by the moniker, bendyogagirl. She is an educator, activist and woman of enormous wisdom. And if think those adjectives suggest boring, straight-laced or even wholesome, you have another thing coming. We will be touching on all sorts of edgy stuff and we’ll be sure to keep a smile on your face as we do so.

bendyogagirl and I discuss:

  • Her trip west;
  • Being a geek-hag and a goddess of ontology
  • The play aspect of kink;
  • Spiritual awakenings through kink;
  • Bottoming in contrast to topping;
  • Her classes on connection and intent;
  • Everything she learned about polyamory came from monogamy;
  • Kink as a context;
  • Body language and energy play.

For more of bendyogagirl visit her website HERE! Her blog HERE! Find her on Fetlife HERE! And follow her on Twitter HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

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