Sex Advice With An Edge
Virginity is a very touchy issue in just about every culture on the globe. Curiously enough, it’s almost always exclusively about female virginity. This sad double standard gives rise to emotional conflicts for both genders. But again, it is young women and girls who bear the brunt of it. Let’s begin with Katelyn who’s 18 …
I wanted, desperately, to know if the sex I was having “counted.” [A]fter I hooked up with someone, I snuck out of bed and into the darkness of my balcony, alone. A nervous wreck, I texted my friend, practically hyperventilating because of something I’d never expected to worry about at all. Hoping for an answer, …
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The false concept of purity can be detrimental for healthy sex lives and self-image By Sky Jordan Virginity has always been a big deal. Countless cultures have been obsessed with the concept from their beginnings. Yet, many people fail to consider the concept of virginity from different perspectives. The way we view virginity as a culture …
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Name: Mariana Gender: Female Age: 18 Location: Washington I lost my virginity yesterday and I did not bleed. Why is this? You lost your virginity yesterday? Where, at the mall? I don’t mean to be facetious, but that phrase always grates on me. Mostly because it sounds like you were careless and misplaced something really …
Name: Tia Gender: Female Age: 19 I have a problem. I’m still a virgin, but my bf thinks I’m not. It’s really my fault he thinks this, cuz I told him I was all experienced and everything. We’ve been going together for about 8 months already and I really want my first time to be …
By Hilary Shepherd I recently located my clitoris, which, at 33 years old, sounds way overdue. Alone, inspired by a conversation I had with a sex therapist, and apparently horny on a Saturday night, I decided to forgo my rotating collection of vibrating sex toys, which I’d always enjoyed while watching porn and wearing underwear …
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— How These Latinas Broke Free From Purity Culture By Jessica Hoppe The story of how I lost my virginity — a tale I long held onto — was a lie. A fiction as false as the construct itself, I fabricated the narrative to please my boyfriend. Before we got together, he expressed that my …
— How can I get over my fear? At 19 I would like to experience sex. But the reality makes me extremely anxious – and what if it is all a partner wants from me? By Pamela Stephenson Connolly I’m 19 and scared to have sex. I’ve had a couple of relationships in the last …
— Meet the men who get turned on hearing about their partners’ sexual past “We sometimes use her vibrator and pretend it’s an ex” By Brit Dawson When 40-year-old Louis* and his wife have sex, he thinks about her exes. He pictures her with them, in scenarios based on real encounters from her past. He …
— On the origin of fetishes By Ruoyan Li Fetishes are non mainstream sexual interests in non genital body parts, inanimate objects, or behaviours. But why do some people have fetishes while others do not? Are fetishes acquired, inherited, or both? This topic is debatable, but evidence suggests that fetishes may be inherited. What are …
— And 5 Other Questions, Answered By Maisha Johnson What is it? Outercourse is an option for sexual activity without intercourse. When you get down to the details, that means different things to different people. For some, it’s everything except penis-in-vagina (PIV) penetration. For others, outercourse means no penetration of any kind, including fingers, sex …
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— One Orgasm At A Time By Carli Whitwell I don’t remember the first time I felt tingles “down there.” It may have been watching Marlena and John hooking up on Days of Our Lives, which my mom and I tuned into every afternoon after she picked me up from kindergarten. It may have been …
— and now preach it In recent years, social media has allowed these views to become more widespread By Suzannah Weiss Jo Neufeld, a 40-year-old living in Manitoba, Canada, used to feel that she was sex positive despite being Christian. Then, about 10 years ago, she started following Twitter accounts like those of Kevin Garcia, …
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— Here’s How I’m Unlearning Shame By Jacqueline Delgadillo “If she’s slept with more than one man, she’s a puta,” my tía told my mom during her visit to our home in Riverside, California. I was 22 years old, and I felt heat rising to my face. I prayed no one could read the guilt …
Here’s what I learned in my many years as a virgin. By Amanda McCracken I waited until I was 41 years old to have sexual intercourse. At 16, I pledged in a church to wait for marriage to have sex. It became my own story to untangle, not the church’s responsibility. My toddler taught me …
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