Sex Advice With An Edge
By Jera Brown This guide isn’t going to be exhaustive, or it would be book-length. And, in fact, there are some great books about how to get started in BDSM. For starters, I recommend checking out The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Playing Well With Others: …
It’s basically like a ~sexy~ Myers-Briggs personality test. By Morgan Mandriota Hello, my friends: Welcome to the safe space where kinksters, rookies, and all those in between unite. If you’re looking to explore a new fetish, maybe dabble in a few new kinks, or find out what exactly a brat is (…among other things), you’ve …
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— and how to introduce the idea to your partner Curious about bondage, but not sure if it’s right for you? Here’s everything you need to know and more… by Woman and Home Bondage: one of the biggest buzzwords in the world of sex, but is it really all whips, chains and latex wearing dominatrix’s …
By BNS Staff This is Daana Townsend’s story: My name is Daana Townsend, and I was diagnosed with RRMS in March 2004. I was 23. My mother and aunt also have MS. My treatment journey started with Avonex and continued with Tysabri, plasmapheresis, and Lemtrada, and finally Ocrevus (my current DMT or disease-modifying therapy). After …
By Gigi Engle We are all experiencing pandemic fatigue. Whether you’re coping well or poorly, you’re still coping. And because the world is drenched in stress, developing effective coping mechanisms has never been more important. Enter BDSM. While I hate to bring up the most obvious examples, Fifty Shades of Grey and Netflix’s 365 Days …
— Here are the 7 most common ones By Callie Tansill-Suddath There is a wide range of common sexual fantasies from multi-partnered sex to daydreaming about sex in public. Other common sexual fantasies include voyeurism, sex with a partner of the same gender, and romantic sex. Before acting on a sexual fantasy it’s important to …
By Katy Waldman “I’ve been kneeling here about ten minutes in the sheer black blouse, the crotchless panties. I don’t dare get up long enough to check my makeup. My back is straight, and my palms and cunt are trembly. The motion-sensor light outside the house blinks on, and then the door swings open.” So …
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It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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— The Topic No One Wants to Talk About By Bonnie Annis I was clueless when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. The fear of the unknown was overwhelming. I had so many questions but didn’t have any answers. I did however find a group of breast cancer survivors through Facebook and quickly joined. The …
By Kells McPhillips BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control, usually broken into six components, “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism,” according to Ali Hebert and Angela Weaver, professors in the department of psychology at St. Francis Xavier University, writing in …
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Your questions answered by sex-positive pros. By Ali Pantony For most millennials, the words ‘sex education’ probably conjure up images of clinical vulva diagrams, scaremongering STI leaflets, entirely heteronormative textbooks and absolutely tons of bananas encased in condoms. Basically, you know that bit in Mean Girls when the PE teacher tells the class that if …
“Kink Helped My Mental Health.” By Yasmin Lajoie Two years ago, 38-year-old Alice* suddenly went profoundly deaf. She lost her job, her boyfriend dumped her and the relentless tinnitus she experienced led her to have suicidal thoughts. “Before I went deaf, I was stable,” she tells me. “I had trauma but I could live with …
It’s like a lil bit of dominant + a lil bit of submissive. By Rachel Varina BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. This is where the whole dominant (sometimes called a “top”) and submissive (a “bottom”) dynamic comes into play. “A top is simply someone who leads/guides the …
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by Gabrielle Kassel Erotic. Painful. Punitive. These are some of the ways you might describe a good ol’ bum whooping. But therapeutic? Well, that’s the idea behind spanking therapy. Below, two kink educators explain WTH spanking therapy entails and why people are into it. While it always involves bum bumping, what qualifies as spanking therapy …
By Mary Grace Garis If during this time in quarantine, you’ve done some sexual exploring about what gets you going—great. Maybe you’ve dedicated some self-care sessions to self-pleasure, had some mind-blowing staycation sex, or taken the BDSM test to explore your NSFW interests. And just maybe, all the sexploration has you wanting to learn how …
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