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the indomitable human spirit…follow up

I have something extraordinary to share with you.  Here is an email I received in response to Tuesday’s posting:  the indomitable human spirit

Dear Dr. Dick,

About your post today…thank you, thank you, thank you! I appreciate your words and I love that Roman and his girlfriend are having a good time and are willing to explore options.

I am disabled. I had polio as a 13 month old baby in 1955 and use forearm crutches for very short distances and a manual wheelchair for everything else. Basically, my shoulders serve the same function as hips do for others. Due to polio, multiple surgeries and post polio muscular atrophy, I also have some reduced sensation from the hips down and a lack of control with both legs.

I am also a very sensual and sexual person. I love the physical feeling of being touched and kissed, and absolutely relish having orgasms. I love the emotional rush of planning, organizing and getting ready for a sexy time with my guy, and I love the psychological boost of knowing I am desirable.

I have found the world of BDSM to be extremely helpful to me. I have a leather bustier and thong with flames; we have a restraint system under the mattress, a flogger, blindfolds, Hitachi Wand, assorted dildos and other fun toys. While I think people may come from the womb wired for a mindset that jives with BDSM, for someone disabled in the way that I am there are definite perks. The extra levels of touch and physical stimulation in BDSM play help me build toward an orgasm. The building of mood with language throughout the day, calling my guy Master, his comments about spanking my butt after supper, laying out the clothes, choosing the toys from our toy box, lighting the candles for wax play and burning my favorite incense…all work together to get me in the mood, physically and mentally.

BDSM is so much about the focus, the connection and the attention – either using all the senses, or purposely withholding one sense or another, that many people in the BDSM world already make adaptations for personal differences in play and are acutely aware when someone responds more sensually to a quiet whisper rather than a normal tone of voice, or to the sensations of one type of clamp rather than another. In that world, individual differences are considered normal, so my differences seem to make less difference to them. I know of several couples where one or both are disabled and choose to attend BDSM functions…and frequently it is the woman or man in the wheelchair who is the Dom in the relationship.

Vaginal intercourse is difficult for me. I don’t have the muscle tone to provide adequate stimulation for my guy to reach orgasm. The adaptation for that is oral or anal intercourse. I went to my gynecologist for a frank talk about any special concerns about anal intercourse for someone in my physical situation. I also called and talked with the Dom of a BDSM dungeon to ask the same questions. He gave me some great advice and ideas, probably more specific and useful information than the doctor.

I have found the Liberator pillows to be extremely helpful for positioning and, combined with the under the mattress restraint system, there is much less problem with losing control of my legs and accidentally kicking someone. Regular bed pillows and other positioning cushions that I have tried over the years would just scoot out from under me and were usually more frustrating than helpful. With any restraint system attention has to be paid to circulation and the restrained person never left alone, but that is true whether the people involved are disabled or not.

All that being said, a sense of dedication and a sense of humor are absolute necessities! Our attitude is one of discovering how to make things work rather than questioning whether they are possible. And humor simply must be part of the process. At one point I decided satin sheets and a matching sexy gown would be a great surprise to put my guy over the moon. A friend came over and put the satin sheets on the bed for me and when my guy arrived home I was waiting in the silky nightie on those expensive satin sheets. My beloved was quite excited and reached out to gently push me over just a bit so he could join me on the bed. Odd how slick those sheets were. I went sailing across the sheets and off the other side of the bed onto the floor. We laughed until we cried.

Thanks again for helping get the word out that disability does not equate to celibacy.

Hugs,
Donna

More of The Erotic Mind of K D Grace — Podcast #244 — 11/08/10


Hey sex fans,

I am so excited, because the very talented and oh so charming K D Grace returns today for Part 2 of her appearance here on The Erotic Mind podcast series. I had such a good time with her last week that I could hardly wait for this week to finally roll around.

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of our conversation, that appeared here last week at this time, did you? Well don’t worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. Look for the search function in the header, type in Podcast #242 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

K D and I discuss:

  • The differences, if any, between erotica and romance;
  • The audience she has in mind when she writes;
  • Her litmus test for hotness in her own writing;
  • Her writing ritual;
  • The distinction between erotica and pornography;
  • What she looks for in the erotica of others;
  • Those who inspire her and her sexual heroes;
  • Her advice for the aspiring erotica writer.

K D also shares another selection of the fruit of her Erotic Mind with us. Like last week, she reads from her new novel.

For more of K D, be sure to visit her on her site HERE!

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll fine me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

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The Erotic Mind of K D Grace — Podcast #242 — 11/01/10


Hey sex fans,

The Erotic Mind series returns today and not a moment too soon either. I truly love interviewing these noted visual and literary erotic artists. And judging from the comments I receive, I guess you do too. I get so much out of chatting with these ingenious people, because they never fail to reveal something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

This week’s show takes us to the south of England where we meet a rising star in the firmament of erotic fiction. I have the pleasure of welcoming K D Grace. Her first novel, The Initiation of Ms Holly, is receiving critical acclaim, and for good reason. We will be talking about it and a boatload of other interesting topics, including one that I rarely get to talk about with an erotic artist. This is pretty powerful stuff, sex fans. Don’t miss it.

K D and I discuss:

  • Our mutual friend, Kay Jaybee;
  • Her life in the UK;
  • 20+ publications in three years;
  • What sex can disclose about a character in fiction;
  • The freedom of writing under her nom de plume;
  • The storyline of her novel: The Initiation of Ms Holly;
  • Her fascination with mythology;
  • Healing the rift between sexuality and spirituality;
  • What sparks the erotic images in her work;
  • Erotica as part of sex writing.

I even prevail upon K D to share with us a selection of the fruit of her Erotic Mind. And she graciously agrees to read a delectable morsel from her novel.

For more of K D, be sure to visit her on her site HERE!

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

The Wet Spots In Town For 1 Show Only

SOPHISTICATED SEX COMEDY

Picture a husband and wife team from the golden age of comedy. Now picture them singing sweetly about threesomes and taking it in the ass. Internationally acclaimed cabaret duo The Wet Spots (Cass King and John Woods) write the most elegant songs about sex that you will ever hear.

The pair presents an image that is vaudevillian, oversexed, and weirdly Canadian: Think sex club by way of Monty Python. Using a lively blend of original songs, audience interaction, spankings and singalongs, The Wet Spots draw their fans into a world where the libido is celebrated and satirized.

YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS THIS SEX FANS!

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Heidi Champa Returns — Podcast #203 — 05/03/10

Hey sex fans,

We’re back today with The Erotic Mind of a true original, the charming and smutty Heidi Champa. This is Part 2 of our chat and we pick up precisely where we left off last week.

And here’s fantastic news! Part 1 of my chat with Heidi, which appeared last week at this time, is officially the most popular interview podcast to date. It broke all download records for a podcast in a single week. So yay for that!

If you somehow missed last week’s show, don’t worry. You can find it and all my podcasts in my Podcast Archive. Look for the search function in the sidebar to your right, type in Podcast #202 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you search.

Heidi will read another provocative selection from the fruit of her Erotic Mind. And here’s a tip, if you have a shoe fetish or a spanking fetish; this reading will make you wet.

Heidi and I discuss:

  • Writing for different audiences.
  • Responding to calls for submission.
  • Writing gay themed fiction.
  • Her writing rituals and routines.
  • How she gets warmed up to write.
  • Is erotica empowering?
  • The therapeutic role of erotica.
  • Her inspirations and her sexual heroes.
  • Advice for novice writers.

Heidi invites you to visit her on her website HERE! Or find her on Facebook HERE!

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll fine me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

I wanna take a moment to remind you to check out another great website in the Dr Dick family of sites. It’s my new PRODUCT REVIEW site — drdicksextoyreviews.com

That’s right, sex fans, now it’s so easy to see what hot and what’s not in the world of adult products. I review of all kinds of adult related goodies — sex toys for sure, but also condoms, lubes, herbal products, fetish gear as well as educational and enrichment videos. DON’T MISS A SINGLE ONE!

Look for the drdicksextoyreviews.com. You’ll be so glad you did.


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