Understanding These 2 Types of Sexual Desire Will Help You Feel In Control of Your Libido

Introducing: Spontaneous and responsive desire. By Gabrielle Kassel By now, you’ve probably heard a sexual health pro say—punctuated by 👏👏👏, of course—that porn is entertainment, not education. And that’s true. But there’s another type of media that shoves lies about what sex “should” (eye roll) look like down our collective throat: Romantic comedies. One of …

There’s A Link Between Gratitude & Better Sex

By Kelly Gonsalves Gratitude practices are all the rage these days, and for good reason. Research continues to unearth more and more benefits of gratitude, from relieving stress to improving sleep. The latest addition to the list? Better sex among couples. A recent study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal found that …

Stuck at home?

Now’s the time to have these important talks with your kids. By Phyllis Fagell As children witness and experience the outpouring of pain in the wake of the deaths of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor and Rayshard Brooks, they need adults to help them make sense of the unrest, says Baruti Kafele, a social …

A guide to getting off to your own sexual fantasies and imagination

By Jess Joho They say the mind is the biggest, most powerful sex organ in the body. But, uh, don’t try visualizing that mental image too vividly or literally, unless you’re into that sorta thing? Instead, imagine your favorite fictional crush pressing you up against a wall, or think back to the hottest sex you …

Dating in Captivity

Go ahead and reinstall Tinder in self-isolation. Or, if that doesn’t work, join a virtual sext bunker. By Allison P. Davis Some things about the human spirit persist, even in crisis: namely, our hunger for one another. Lauren, an editor in Austin, started seeing someone a month ago, and by date three, they’d declared their …

Why These Sexual Health Educators Took Their Activism Online

Education can be radical. by Gretchen Brown Sonalee Rashatwar believes education can be radical. “Any time we are giving someone information about their own body, we are informing them about their rights, and that’s political,” she said. “It destabilizes the structure when I tell someone they don’t have to opt into it.” Rashatwar is a …

Your Guide to Fertility and Getting Pregnant

Here’s a primer on how to conceive, whatever your sexual orientation, gender identity or relationship status. By Brooke Borel The early scenes of “Private Life,” a 2018 Netflix film about a New York City couple who are trying to conceive, present an unsettling scenario for anyone pondering their biological clock: A 40-something woman wakes up …