Is Outercourse the Same Thing as Abstinence?

— And 5 Other Questions, Answered By Maisha Johnson What is it? Outercourse is an option for sexual activity without intercourse. When you get down to the details, that means different things to different people. For some, it’s everything except penis-in-vagina (PIV) penetration. For others, outercourse means no penetration of any kind, including fingers, sex …

4 tips to try virtual sex and add some sizzle to your relationship

— If you frequently travel for work, then virtual sex is a way to keep that intimate connection with your partner(s). by Rebecca Strong Virtual sex includes things like steamy texts, nude pics, or mutual masturbation via phone or video. Swapping sexy photos and messages can add novelty and intimacy to any type of relationship. …

6 reasons why you could have performance anxiety during sex

— And how to overcome it By Willa Hart Feeling anxious during sex is incredibly common and valid. This can be a result of poor body image, a hyperfocus on your partner, or prior bad experiences. Fortunately, this anxiety can often be overcome through mindfulness, movement, or therapy. When you think of performance anxiety, you …

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex After 50

— Research shows that regular sexual activity comes with some unexpected health benefits By Michelle Crouch A quick romp in the hay doesn’t just feel good. It turns out that sex has advantages that go way beyond simple pleasure. In fact, sexual activity with or without a partner is linked to some impressive, research-backed health …

How To Maintain Rules And Boundaries In An Open Relationship

By Josee Ng Monogamy, the practice of being in romantic relationships with one partner at a time, is the most accepted form of relationship in most modern societies. It wasn’t the norm with our ancestors, but monogamy is an ordained foundation of marriage in most parts of the world today. However, just as polyamory or …

Sex After Cancer

— The Midlife Woman’s Edition The impact of cancer treatment on women’s sexual health, and how to mitigate it, was highlighted at the 2022 North American Menopause Society annual meeting. By Becky Upham When it comes to sexual dysfunction caused by cancer treatment, most women suffer in silence. With significant advances in oncology care, the …

Has Ethical Non-Monogamy Lost Its Way?

By Alexandra Jones “This language was supposed to be about trust, honesty, communication, and commitment— defining commitment in a different kind of way.” Across a staticky Zoom call, Emily Witt and I are comparing notes on non-monogamy. “It was supposed to prevent lying and concealment,” continues the journalist and author of the seminal 2017 book …

Our culture isn’t sex positive just because kink is trending

Even “vanilla” people feel sex shamed. By Tracey Anne Duncan As a person who writes about sex and pleasure, I meet a lot of pleasure activists — people working to reclaim pleasure and sexuality as radical domains. Many are kinksters, queers, or both; all on a mission to return some dignity back to folks who …

What’s The Difference Between Polyamory And Open Relationships?

By Lauren Ash If you’ve been active in the dating scene, you’ve probably spotted the phrase ‘ethically non-monogamous’ in a few Bumble bios lately. Ethical non-monogamy is a popular dating and relationship term that encompasses a number of “non-traditional” styles of relationship and approaches to dating, including polyamory, swingers, relationship anarchy, as well as open …

3 Things to Do When the Sex Was Mind-Blowingly…Bad

It doesn’t mean it can’t get so much better. By Cathryne Keller Apologies to Bridgerton, but first-time sex isn’t always the mind-blowing, corset-busting stuff of historical romance novels. In real life, hooking up with a new partner—even one you’re super into—can be awkward, uncomfortable, or otherwise…not good. But that doesn’t necessarily mean it can’t get …