Sex Advice With An Edge
By Gigi Engle Have you ever looked at something you know is objectively “gross” and found that you’re a little … turned on? Read on if this sounds familiar to you. Because, you know what? It’s a lot more common than you think. When we’re turned on, the part of our brain that registers disgust …
By Gigi Engle We are all experiencing pandemic fatigue. Whether you’re coping well or poorly, you’re still coping. And because the world is drenched in stress, developing effective coping mechanisms has never been more important. Enter BDSM. While I hate to bring up the most obvious examples, Fifty Shades of Grey and Netflix’s 365 Days …
By Mark Hay Bringing sex toys into partnered sex can open up entirely new realms of pleasure for everyone involved. Toys do things our bodies just cannot, like pulse and vibrate. These novel sensations can help many people have more consistent and frequent — or complex and intense — orgasmic experiences. And the sheer variety …
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Many sex drive myths are based on out-dated gender norms. Sex drive varies from person to person regardless of their gender. A person’s sex drive might change over the course of their life. By Carla Delgado Sex drive (or libido) is the instinct, desire, or energy to engage in sexual behavior. There’s no right …
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By Katy Waldman “I’ve been kneeling here about ten minutes in the sheer black blouse, the crotchless panties. I don’t dare get up long enough to check my makeup. My back is straight, and my palms and cunt are trembly. The motion-sensor light outside the house blinks on, and then the door swings open.” So …
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The brave new world of virtual reality porn has a lot of legitimate draws — but how will it affect sex and relationships with people IRL? Here, experts discuss. By Jillian Dara It was only a matter of time before tech entered the bedroom. We’re not talking about the latest sex toys or sex-improving apps …
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It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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With all its stress and uncertainty, this year hasn’t exactly been a banner year for intimacy. But that can change. By Meaghan O’Connell Melissa Petro is a 40-year-old writer who lives in New York with her husband of four years and two children. She and her husband switch off between working and kid duty. According …
– And It’s Made Me Completely Rethink My Concept Of Pleasure By Kayla Jacobs I haven’t had sex in a year. Just over a year, to be precise. And when it’s been 365 days and counting, every single second matters. When you’re in the prime of your life, you’re supposed to be having a lot …
Cultural stereotypes around mothering have a detrimental effect on many moms’ sex lives. Time to rewrite the script By Gail Cornwall San Francisco mother Sara Lopes didn’t even realize she’d lost a part of herself until she got it back. “I had been so consumed with both children and starting to work again that we …
– whether on your own or with a partner How to have a better orgasm is easier than you think, all you need to do is follow our simple, expert rules… By Faye M Smith Want to know how to have a better orgasm? Course you do. There’s nothing worse than having an orgasm that …
Cardi B’s song WAP and the Netflix show Sex Education place female orgasms on centre stage in popular culture. By Jane Chalmers But female orgasms are also the subject of serious academic research. Here’s a snapshot of what research tells us about female orgasms, what we don’t know, and what researchers want to find out. …
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“Kink Helped My Mental Health.” By Yasmin Lajoie Two years ago, 38-year-old Alice* suddenly went profoundly deaf. She lost her job, her boyfriend dumped her and the relentless tinnitus she experienced led her to have suicidal thoughts. “Before I went deaf, I was stable,” she tells me. “I had trauma but I could live with …
By Marcos Benhamu When Oliver* and his wife opened their 20-year marriage in 2017, a few things had changed since he was last on the dating scene. “I am older, I am a bit tubby around the edges. I can look back at my old pictures and think, ‘Oh my God! I used to be …
Here’s how. By Kellie Scott Many people with a penis see an erection as an important part of giving and receiving pleasure. That puts a lot of pressure on sexual encounters, given 40 per cent of Aussie men will experience erectile dysfunction. “People typically overlook the fact that a person’s erection waxes and wanes throughout …
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