The Lesbian Bed Death could be plaguing thousands of women

By Alice Giddings It may be 2024, but one controversial term from the 1980s is coming back from the grave. Lesbian Bed Death is, simply put, the idea that lesbian couples have less sex. It’s a sweeping generalisation of the gay community, but why has it gained traction? ‘Research by Blumstein & Schwartz in 1983 …

What you should know about coming out as LGBTQ+ in your 20s and 30s

By Adam Jowett For LGBTQ+ baby boomers, coming out in your 30s was the norm. The average age to come out among Gen Z is in your teens. Greater social acceptance and more LGBTQ+ representation in culture, such as the Netflix series Heartstopper and Sex Education, are making it easier for young people to be …

33 ways to have better, stronger orgasms

— Everything to know about the 11(!) types of orgasm. By Gabrielle Kassel, Korin Miller and Addison Aloian Look, everyone wants to have a mind-blowing orgasm every time they have sex. But unfortunately, it’s not always that easy. Only about half of women consistently climax during partnered play, and nine percent have never orgasmed during …

True romance

— How to keep the love alive when sex has gone Fantasising about other people? Wishing your partner was younger or fitter? It doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship By Lizzie Cernik It’s rare for intense sexual chemistry to last. “We don’t talk about it enough,” says the relationship therapist Cate Campbell, …

Debunking Love Myths

— A New Look at Romance and Science   Summary: A new study challenges popular romance myths, debunking the Five Love Languages with evidence-based research. The work, proposes a ‘balanced diet’ metaphor for expressing love, emphasizing the need for diverse and evolving expressions of affection in relationships. The findings, including critiques of concepts like “Happy …

3 Questions To Expect When Going ‘Open’ With Your Relationship

By Mark Travers Consensual non-monogamy refers to a relationship structure in which all parties involved agree to engage in romantic, sexual or otherwise intimate relationships with multiple partners with the complete knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It encompasses various forms of non-monogamous arrangements, including but not limited to: Polyamory. Having multiple, concurrent romantic and/or …

Here’s the biggest myth about desire in long-term relationships

— It turns out every part of the narrative we’re taught about how desire works is not merely wrong, but wrongheaded By Emily Nagoski When I first began having long(ish)-term sexual relationships during my college years I believed an old-fashioned narrative about how desire works. We’re told it’s all passion and “spark” early in a …

What is a queer platonic partner?

— Not all long-term relationships require sex or romantic love. By Beth Ashley Modern relationships continually evolve. Many of us are shaping our relationships in non-traditional ways, moulding them to suit our personal preferences, desires, goals and situations rather than adapting ourselves to traditional relationship styles. For some people, this looks like polyamory or open …

A Bird Sighting Just Reaffirmed That Nature Is Queer

— The half-male half-female Green Honeycreeper joins the ranks of genderqueer lionesses, the “Leaping Lesbian Lizard,” and other “drag queens in the sky.” By Ananya Singh Hamish Spencer, zoologist and Distinguished Professor at the University of Otago, was on holiday in Colombia when ornithologist John Murillo drew his attention to a striking bird at a …

Why the Holidays Are a True Test of Your Relationship

— Making it through the festive month of December is harder than it seems. By Gina Cherelus Philip von Hahn, a 30-year-old tech investor on the Upper East Side, attended a holiday party on Sunday night to take his mind off the recent dissolution of his three-year relationship. “We’ve been weighing it for the past …