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The Erotic Mind of Leanne Bell — Podcast #152 — 09/14/09

Hey sex fans,

Over the next two weeks, and in both of my podcast series on Mondays and Wednesdays, I helen_green_0027_samplewill be featuring two absolutely amazing women.  Both of these very talented women are taking a lead role in helping change our society’s perception of female sexuality and the gift of physical beauty.  And each is doing it from what might, at first glance, appear to be the polar opposite of the other.  I love my work!  You’ll just have to tune in on both days to see what I mean.

Today I have the honor of introducing you to an exquisite photographer from Ontario Canada.  We scrutinize The Erotic Mind of Leanne Bell.  She, along with her equally talented husband, Dwayne, takes the photography of women to a new level of simplicity and sophistication.  They unabashedly celebrate female physical beauty in the most extraordinary and riveting way.  It’s as if they dress their models in nudity.  You won’t want to miss a moment of this intriguing conversation.

Leanne and I discuss:

  • Her photography being both eye candy and mind candy.
  • The apparent contradiction of nudity and moral values.
  • The art of poising her models in everyday situations.
  • Nudity as an organic part of the photograph.
  • Cultural opposition to celebrating female physical beauty.
  • The gift of beauty and how it is often denigrated.

And for more of Leanne’s thoughts and vision, I encourage you to visit her website HERE.  And from there, you’ll be able to link through to her other sites, including the thought provoking: superbeauty.org

See a slideshow of some of Leanne’s work.  Click on the thumbnails below.

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Two Cute!

We have two more vibes from Synergy Erotic to tell you about.

We’ve reviewed a slew of their products since the beginning of the year.  Today we take a look at The Plasma Illuminate-Her Strobing Uber Balls and The Elite Silicone Wave.

Jack and Karen do the honors.

The Plasma Illuminate-Her Strobing Uber Balls $21.23

Jack & Karen

Karen:  “When last we had an opportunity to review some Synergy Erotic toys, we didn’t have such a good time.”
Jack:  “You can say that again!”
Karen:  “Happily, today is different.  While neither of these toys will rank among our favorites of the year they were fun novelties, for sure.”9972-83.JPG
Jack:  “First off we have The Plasma Illuminate-Her Strobing Uber Balls.  That’s a mouthful, huh?  What we have here is three hot pink plastic balls, about 3/4” in diameter attached to one another by a power cord that attaches to a pink power pack.  Got that?  Each ball contains a high-speed micro motor capable of spinning at thousands of RPM’s, which generates a high-frequency vibration.  The balls also contain a multi-color LED that flash in time with the vibration.  Can ya stand it?”
Karen:  “I know, I was like mesmerized once the  The Plasma Illuminate-Her got going.  Who thought of something like this, I wonder?
Not to get ahead of myself here, I installed 3 AAA batteries in the power pack (I had to use my own, because no batteries were included in the package). The power pack has an on/off button as well as an up button and a down button.  It has 7 various speeds”
Jack:  “The balls are waterproof and are meant, I suppose, to be inserted in one’s pussy or ass.  Please note:  the power pack is not waterproof!”
Karen:  “When cranked up to the highest level the ball are in a frenetic state.  They’re buzzin’ and flashin’, like nobody’s business.  Laying the balls astride my genitals — one at my taint, one at vagina and one on my clit blew me away.  When Jack got on top of me and ground his dick on top of the balls pushing them deeper into my skin I came in a minute.”
Jack:  “The vibration felt great on my dick too.”
Karen:  “I tried the The Plasma Illuminate-Her inside me too, but that wasn’t all that terrific.  Either the balls weren’t big enough or my vaginal walls are way too padded.  The vibration just got lost.”
Jack:  “Karen’s got the deepest and most cavernous pussy I ever did see.  It’s no wonder these little balls got lost in there.”

Full Review HERE!

Silicone Elite Wave $28.05

Jack:  “Next up is the Silicone Elite Wave.  This is a slim, stylishly designed — wavy — vibe that has 5 vibrating/pulsating functions.”
Karen:  “There’s a one-button control on the base of the vibe that turns the thing on and off as well as rotates through the pulsating functions.  I’m not a big fan of a one-button controller, but that’s just me.  The package claims the vibe is made of silicone, but one has to wonder what grade of silicone can be had for the price of this vibe?”9972-72
Jack:  “That’s true enough, but I’d rather have silicone of any grade than have something with a lot of Phthalate in it.  Wouldn’t you agree?”
Karen:  “I would agree.  And thank you for stating that.
I unscrewed the base of the vibe, installed 2 AAA batteries in the shaft (I had to use my own, because no batteries were included in the package). And switched it on.  It’s very quiet with surprisingly strong vibration for a little fella.”
Jack:  “Karen got to use it first on her own.  When we used it together, it was very effective.  Since it doesn’t have that traditional cock shape it will please more men when using it with their partner.  It’s also less obtrusive than a larger vibe.  And like Karen said, it has a nice punch to it, despite its size.”
Karen:  “My private play was wonderful.  The soft tip of the vibe was perfect for stimulating between my vaginal lips.  And it nuzzled my clit nicely too.”
Jack:  “I got to use the Silicone Elite Wave on my own too.  Since it’s waterproof, I took it in the shower with me.  I love squeezing one off in the shower, don’t you?  The vibe slipped up my ass so easily, just like when I finger myself when I’m yankin’ on my joint.  And I can tell you; even though this vibe isn’t much thicker than my finger, it does a much better job stimulating my prostate.”
Karen:  “Because we shared this toy, I’m grateful that it’s so easy to clean and disinfect.  Warm water and soap to clean, a 10% bleach solution to disinfect.”
Jack:  “I was all jazzed up about the Silicone Elite Wave, thinking I had found a mini treasure, when it was time to change out the batteries.  Apparently Karen and I ran the toy down in record time.  At any rate, I removed the base cap and discovered to my great disappointment that the batteries had become stuck in the shaft.  Dislodging the batteries meant that the thin copper wires on either side of the cylinder came out with the batteries.  DISAPPOINTED!”

Full Review HERE!

YOUNG and OLD

Hey sex fans,

More Q&A today with the bonus links to my HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY (see the VOD tab at the top of the page?) that will further educate or enrich the person who is asking the question.

Think of it as at HOMEWORK or further study on the topic at hand.  I hope all of you will benefit from this terrific instructional and enriching resource.  (Click on the images below for viewing information.)

Name: Ramish
Gender:  Male
Age: 19
Location: UK
I’m nervous about having sex?  I have been masturbating since I was 11, but I can’t work up the courage to try it with anyone else.  I don’t even know if I’m gay or straight.  How do I get over being so nervous?

Holy cow, that is nervous.  I suggest that you begin by taking stock of yourself — physically, emotionally and sexually.  I’m gonna ask you some questions and you can take all the time you need to ponder your answers.  Here’s a tip, write these down; and if you have difficulty answering any of them ask a buddy for his or her input.

What’s your best physical asset?  Do you think of yourself as attractive in a sexual sort of a122116_xlfway?  If not, what could you do to spruce things up a little?  Listen, the more comfortable you are in your own skin, the more confident you’ll be in connecting with other for sex and relationships.  If you know yourself well enough to know your best assets, you’ll be able to put your best stuff forward, right?

What do you find sexually attractive about others — both women and men?  Chances are that if you haven’t already discovered if you are straight or gay, you might be bi.

When you masturbate, what goes through your head?  What are your sexual fantasies?  Do you fantasize about sexual situations with others?  Anything in particular?  Anyone in particular?

When you say you are nervous about sex; does that have to do with possible rejection?  Or is it more to do with performance — ya know, not knowing what to do once the situation arises, so to speak?  Is there anyone you feel safe enough with, a pal perhaps, you could talk this through with?  If you feel emotionally safe, or safe from potential shame and humiliation with this person, it might be easier to open up him or her.  Just remember, everyone’s been were you are at one point in his or her life.

Are you comfortable with being nude, at least by yourself?  Lots of people aren’t.  Are you able to admire yourself in the mirror without comparing yourself to the unrealistic expectations about the human body that comes to us from the popular culture? If you are not comfortable with being naked, think about the reasons why you’re not.  Again, if it’s body image issues, maybe you need to get in better shape, or just let go of your idealized notions about physical attractiveness.

a93626_xlfDo you know about contraception and sexually transmitted infections? If you don’t, you’re not ready to have sex with anyone else.  Do your homework.  Know what you need to ask a prospective partner in terms of contraception and STIs before an encounter.

OK, so you’re familiar with pleasuring yourself.  That’s a good start.  Would you know how to pleasure a partner?  If you’re not sure, I suggest that you do some research.  There are all kinds of instructional videos out there.  In fact, you’ll find just about everything you are looking for at DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

One thing to remember, the best sex is a mutually satisfying experience. You and your potential partners are different people, with different desires, interests, personality and fantasies. Despite everything you might learn from an instructional video, there is no substitute for asking your partner what he/she likes. You’ll need to be able to respond in kind too.  Being able to communicate your needs and desires is absolutely essential for a happy, fun-filled fuck.

Are you a good kisser?  Do you know how to touch someone else without it being an invitation to sex?  Do you know how to be affectionate, to be close and playful with someone simply for joy of it?  I always suggest to my young clients that they learn how to give a good back rub or foot massage.  Nonseductive touching is as important as knowing how to touch someone sexually.  It’s also how some of the best sex play begins.

Are you making yourself available for a sexual connection?  Nowadays the opportunities for connecting with others for companionship and/or sex abound.  You don’t have to be aggressive in your pursuit, but it ain’t gonna fall in your lap either.

What would it take for you to feel comfortable initiating sex?  This is, of course, the follow-up step to putting yourself out there.  I realize this can be a bit intimidating, but you’re gonna have to push through this, pup. Think about why initiating sex or accepting an invitation to be sexual is difficult for you.

Are you able to be a good friend?  The best sex is more than bumping parts.  It’s a full human-to-human connection.  If you know how to be a good friend, you’re more than half way there to being a good lover.  There are all kinds of sexual expression — romantic to the passionate even spiritual. Sex can be a cuddly and romantic, or it can be hot monkey love.a122404_xlf It can be tender as well as intense.  You ought to have the ability direct the flow, or at least go with it.

Do you have an adventuresome side to you?  Do you like a challenge?  Are you comfortable experimenting with one thing or another?  If you are, you will find these are all valuable assets in making sex happen for you.  There are still a whole lot of sex-negative messages out there in our society.  You’ll need to be strong enough to stand against these repressive currents and pursue your heart’s desire.

In the end, a good sex life takes effort.  It takes knowledge, practice and relationship skills.  A degree of personal openness and a sense of fun and adventure are also very helpful. Learning more about yourself and what makes you tick, will give you an advantage when the time is ready for you to partner up for sex.

Name: Walter
Gender:  Male
Age: 67
Location: Padre Island
I’m a recent widower, I haven’t dated in over 40 years.  I’m still very interested in sex, but things don’t work like they used to down there.  I had a comfortable life with my wife and performance was never an issue. Now that I’m on my own now, I’m afraid I will disappoint, if you know what I mean.

Yeah, I think I do know what you mean.  Getting back into the swing of things after so many years on the shelf a daunting task.  If you layer on sexual performance issues…well the task becomes even harder, no pun intended.

a74931_xlfI know I don’t have to tell you this, but our bodies change as we age.  Our sexual response cycle changes too.  You are familiar with the four stages of the sexual response cycle, right?  In case you are not, they are — arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution.  Despite the changes that aging brings, there’s no good reason why you shouldn’t be able to enjoy a happy, healthy sex life.  Of course, having a healthy mind-set about sex will also help.

A rich and full sex life, possibly even like the one you shared with your recently departed wife, will involve some patience and understanding and possibly some reprogramming of old ways of looking at sex.  For example, performance issues are only a problem if you are expecting something of your body that it cannot deliver.  And if you date within your age group, you’ll find that all your peers will be just as familiar as you with dwindling physical capacities.

So ok, it’s gonna take considerably longer to get a hardon at your age — that’s a given.  This just means you need to take your time, increase and focus the stimulation and while your cock is taking its sweet time to point skyward, enjoy all the sensual pleasures coming your way in the meantime.  That last part is really difficult for us aging men folk.  Sometimes we concentrate so fiercely on gettin our dick hard that we miss all the great pleasuring stuff that is happening all around us.

Once you get your boner goin, I suggest that you add a little stiffy insurance.  Wear a cockring. If you don’t know what that is, check out my Sex Toy Review Site. Use the search function; type in “cockring” and presto!  You’ll find all kinds of information on these helpful little buggers.

I know a number of older men, particularly those with high blood pressure, who are unable to take erection-enhancing meds like Viagra, who are turning to penis pumps to get their wood started.  Not sure what a penis pump is or does.  Well, time to do more online research at my Sex Toy Review Site.  Again, use the search function; type in “penis pump” and presto!  Loads of information about these helpful tools will appear.

I’m hoping that when you say that you and your wife “had a comfortable life” together, where performance was never an issue that you’re telling me that your sex life wasn’t all about getting it up and getting it off.  Sexual pleasure can come through all kinds of sex play — touching, talking, and being physically close, oral sex as well as full on fucking.  I’d be willing to guess that your future partners will appreciate you being a fully sensual lover, not just a sexual performer.

Remember the proverbial cum shot is not the same thing as an orgasm. Lots of seasoned older men are able to be orgasmic without a full erection or an ejaculation.  You may even find that you are capable of several very satisfying mini orgasms instead of the one BIG-O of years past.  I encourage you not to fall into the trap of equating sexual functioning with manliness; that’s a dead end.

a113017_xlfThis challenging new phase in your life, daunting as it might be, can also be an exciting adventure of self-discovery.  You basically have permission to re-imagine and redefine what type of sexual expression suits you best at this stage in your life.  One good way of testing the waters, so to speak is to start with self-pleasuring.  This is the perfect opportunity to experiment with sexual performance enhancing toys like a cockring, vibrator or a penis pump.  If you haven’t done so already, why not discover the pleasures of your ass.  Happily, you don’t need an erection to enjoy some good old-fashioned butt play; your prostate will do all the work.

You may discover you have new or yet unexplored interests in other sexual expressions like role-playing, kink, or maybe even same-sex partners.  Just because your earlier life may have been pretty straight and vanilla, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.  The more you know about your body and what turns you on, the more information you’ll be able to share with your partners.

Unabashedly sharing your newfound sexual experiences and interests with others will be the basis for your future partnered sexual expression. Know that other women and men of your age group are also rediscovering and reawakening their sexuality.  What a great joy it would be to explore the territory together.

I invite you to rekindle your natural curiosity about the wide range of human sexual expression. Take it slow. Learn to communicate effectively: share what makes you feel good with your partners and be sure to ask them what turns them on.  Don’t take yourself too seriously, and keep it playful.  And most of all, keep an open mind about all of this, will ya?

Good luck ya’ll

DDSTR

Mixed Bag

Today we have several more products from Synergy Erotic.  We reviewed a bunch of their products back in January — Vibe-Me Massager, Squirmy Touch-Me and Luscious Thrill-Her

This week’s Review Crew:  Jack & Karen, Angie and Joy & Dixie

Angie has a bunny vibe to show us.
Elite Silicone Supple Bunny Lavender $54.45

Angie
There are a lot of things I really like about this 8 1/2 inch silicone bunny vibe. First and foremost, it’s silicone. Second, it’s waterproof. It’s modestly priced and it is attractive.

When I shop for a vibe for myself, I pretty much always choose silicone. And since I more often than not use the vibe in the tub, waterproof is at the top of my list of “must-haves”.

Bath time is my private time. And as often as possible I leisurely soak away the day’s tensions while my husband is busy preparing dinner in the kitchen. I know, I am so lucky and he’s such a treasure. I help myself to a glass of wine, fill the tub with a bubble bath and climb in. It is about the most hedonistic think I can think of, but it also keeps me sane.

See the full review HERE!

Jack and Karen have a couple of vibes to report on.
Perfect Touch Satisfy-Her, Luster Black $19.99

Jack & Karen
Karen: “I love the design of the Perfect Touch Satisfy-Her. It’s shiny, it’s sleek, and I even liked the hard plastic. Sometimes I’m in the mood for something hard, if ya know what I mean. Unfortunately, I can’t say much for its performance.”
Jack: “It’s waterproof; you got to give it that.”
Karen: “Yes, that’s what it says. It’s also supposed to have a 5-speed vibrator that is controlled by a single button in the handle. I installed 2 AAA batteries (I had to use my own, because no batteries were included in the package).
Nothing I did make the vibe go through its paces. Pushing the button once got it going all right; nice vibration too. Pushing it again stopped the blasted thing. Pushing it a third time started it up again, but I couldn’t tell if it had changed speeds. I kept pushing the button never getting the same results twice. What, is this rocket science?”

See the full review HERE!

Wavy Touch Me Penis Pink $16.15

Jack & Karen
Jack: “This must not have been our week! After our less than happy experience with the Perfect Touch Satisfy-Her, we turned our hopes and expectations to the Wavy Touch Me.”
Karen: “DISAPPOINTED!”
Jack: “Here we have an 8 1/2 inch textured (wavy) dildo with what they call an Ultra-Gelle skin. Because of the articulated plastic spine beneath the skin, the dildo bends and then holds its shape. So far, so good.”
Karen: “We remember Glenn and Hank’s review of a similar product (HERE) and we were totally looking forward to our little adventure. The bending capability really appealed to me. I love G-spot stimulation and I thought this would deliver.”
Jack: “We never got beyond installing the 2 AA batteries. (Again, no batteries were included in the package.) Once the batteries were in place, I tightened the cap on the battery compartment and pushed the button on the base of the vibe to activate the blasted thing. NOTHING!”
Karen: “I said; ‘you’ve got to be kidding! Maybe you have the batteries in wrong.’”

See the full review HERE!

Joy and Dixie have two bullet vibes to tell you about.

Excite-Her Silver Bullet, Luster Pink $11.99

Joy & Dixie
Dixie: “We have some good news and some bad news.”
Joy: “We had two bullet vibes to test — Excite-Her Silver Bullet and Perfect Touch Excite-Her Mega Silver Bullet. One was great, the other…not so much.”
Dixie: “First the good news. The Excite-Her Silver Bullet was very nice. It has two speeds; a single button control mechanism, which worked just fine; and it’s waterproof. What’s not to like, right?”
Joy: “It’s an oversized bullet that really delivers the vibration. You can use it externally, or internally — vaginally or anally. Although, I must say, I don’t know if I trust the wire that attaches to the bullet to withstand a tug past a tight anal sphincter. So you’re will want to take care in that respect, because the bullet will insert easily enough. It’s the getting it out that might be a problem.”
Dixie: “And I want to point out that the bullet itself is the only thing that is waterproof. The hand-held controller/battery case is definitely not waterproof.”

See the full review HERE!

Perfect Touch Excite-Her Mega Silver Bullet $13.99

Joy & Dixie
Dixie: “Now for the bad news.”
Joy: “As you know, we had these two bullet vibes to test — Excite-Her Silver Bullet and Perfect Touch Excite-Her Mega Silver Bullet. One was great, the other…not so much.”
Dixie: “We liked the Excite-Her Silver Bullet, it was very nice.”
Joy: “The Perfect Touch Excite-Her Mega Silver Bullet is another story. It too is an oversized bullet vibe, bigger even than the Excite-Her. I loved the size of the bullet; the bigger the better for my vaginal insertions, thank you very much!”
Dixie: “And like it’s smaller sibling, this vibe is also waterproof. But again I want to point out that the bullet itself is the only thing that is waterproof. The hand-held controller/battery case is definitely not waterproof.”
Joy: “And that gets us to the problem with this vibe. The power-pack sucks, and not in a good way.”
Dixie: “Yeppers, Joy’s right. I mean the concept is a good one — it has a varying speed dial on the side of the hand-held power-pack that is supposed to adjust the vibe speed incrementally, like a rheostat on a light switch.”

See the full review HERE!

ENJOY!

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Shanna Germain Returns — Podcast #112 — 04/06/09

Hey sex fans,

We’re back with my guest, the brilliant erotic author and gal about town, Shanna Germain. shannacouchThis is Part 2 our chat in this podcast series called The Erotic Mind.  As you know, we’ve been chatting with erotic artists of every stripe in the hope of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this perceptive and delightful discussion look for last week’s podcast, #111 on Dr Dick’s PODCAST PAGE at the top of this page.  Or use the search function; just type in podcast #111.  Don’t forget to include the # sign.

For more of Shanna and her work, be sure to visit her site HERE!

Shanna and I discuss:

  • Lust being universal and timeless.
  • The power of “dirty” words.
  • What she know about her audience’s tastes.
  • The problem with making too big a distinction between erotica and porn.
  • How what she writes changes her.
  • Arousing her audience both body and mind.
  • Her inspirations and sexual heroes.

I’m happy to report that Shanna will share with us another succulent morsel of her own erotica.

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(click on the thumbnails to get more information about these volumes)

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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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