No podcast today, Sex fans! It’s a holiday!
We’ll be back at it again come Wednesday.
No podcast today, Sex fans! It’s a holiday!
We’ll be back at it again come Wednesday.
This is Part 2 of our LELO reviews. Somehow missed Part 1? Not to worry; find it HERE!
Dr Dick Review Crew members — Denise and Hank & Glenn do the honors.
I have the pleasure of introducing you to IRIS, the beautifully designed and multifunctional silicone vibrating dildo, I mean insertable…I mean pleasure object. Sheesh! LELO is so freakin’ high-end that they’ve taken it upon themselves to euphemize their sex toys as pleasure objects. I say; “a rose by any other name…”
I’ve never been one to buy into the hype about sex toys, especially hype generated by a toy’s manufacturer about its own products. But somehow “pleasure object” fits in this case. LELO spares no expense in treating their customers like we’re someone special. I mean, everything from the stylish upscale (some would say overkill) packaging to the 1-year LELO warranty confidently states quality. Is there another toy on the market that comes with a warranty?
IRIS comes in three appealing girly colors, mine is pink. Judging just from the color palette this pleasure object is obviously part of LELO Femme line. They also have their Homme line that features guy toys in guy colors. I’m not so particular about color, but I’ll bet a man would be less inclined to buy an IRIS because of the color. And that’s too bad, because this toy could easily be enjoyed by either gender or everyone in between.
IRIS is also rechargeable, so a big hurray for that! A three-hour wall charge gives it up to five hours of power. Mmmm! And because it’s fully charged at the factory, you can start playing with the IRIS immediately. Extra points for that!
(By the way, I’m trying to be as responsible as I can with my motorized toys. Whenever possible I choose rechargeable. When that’s not and option I always use rechargeable batteries. To do less is a both expensive and decidedly un-GREEN.)
The insertable part of IRIS is made of firm high-grade silicone molded into a stylized (slightly curved) flower bud shape. Very appealing! I like a little texture to my dildos, so this is perfect for me. And get this; there two separate motors in this baby — one in the shaft and one in the tip. These can be controlled separately or together.
Despite the two motors, the level of vibration can’t compare to a couple of other vibes I own. That actually surprised me, because I was expecting the IRIS to jump out of my hand on the high speed. The sensations are pleasant enough, and I could easily distinguish between the vibrations produced in the shaft as opposed to those produced in the tip. Just don’t expect it to knock your socks off. The motors, however, are very quiet; a feature that is very important to me. I hate it when a vibe sounds like a lawnmower.
You’ll probably want to use lube with IRIS, because she’s thicker than a lot of toys. Be sure you use only a water-based lube on a beautiful silicone pleasure object like this. Using a silicone-based lube will destroy IRIS. Because of it’s length, the pleasure is deep as well as full.
The control button is lighted and it allows me to increase the intensity of vibrations as well as cycle through the five pulsation modes. However, the controls in the handle aren’t particularly easy to adjust with lubed fingers. This can be pretty frustrating.”
Full review HERE!
Next, Glenn & Hank show us BO
LELO BO $79.00
Glenn & Hank
Hank: “This is the fanciest cockring I ever did see!”
Glenn: “Pretty damned expensive too.”
Hank: “Yeah, but hardly the most expensive one I own. That honor goes to my Silver Tongue Cock Ring.”
Glenn: “Yeah, but that one doesn’t vibrate like BO does. And the BO is rechargeable; so you can’t beat that!”
Hank: “LELO calls BO a gentleman’s pleasure object. I call it a vibrating cockring. I mean, please!”
Glenn: “Ya got no class, Hank! I like the pleasure object concept; it’s so elegant.”
Hank: “You weren’t thinking about elegant the other day when I had my cock buried up to the hilt in your bung and the BO was shiverin’ your ass lips.”
Glenn: “True! I was thinking; ‘Oh sweet mystery of life at last I found you!’”
Hank: “You are such a freak!”
Glenn: “Well when it comes to my hole, you know I am.”
Hank: “Let’s get back to the review, shall we? BO actually has two parts — the ring itself and the vibrating attachment. The ring is made of a soft, flexible material. The small print on the LELO site says this material is Thermoplastic elastomers (TPE). Will this be an issue for someone who has an allergy to rubber or latex-based products? It beats the hell out of me.
The vibrating attachment is encased in a sturdy plastic material. Sliding the attachment onto the ring activates the vibe. There is no on/off switch.”
Glenn: “I thought that part was odd. Why there’s no on/off switch is like totally beyond me. Because it’s not so easy sliding the vibe attachment onto, or off of the ring. So once ya have the ring on your johnson, it’ll be thrilling the wearer till he takes it off.”
Hank: “I tried BO first in a little solo JO session. I was happy to discover that the relatively modestly sized ring stretched to fit my dick. Then I had Glenn give me some head while I was wearing BO. That was pretty mind blowing.”
Glenn: “My husband has got a really big one, ladies and gentleman! And I have no gag reflex!”
Full review HERE!
No podcast today. It’s a holiday, don’t cha know!
Hey sex fans,
As most of you know, I’ve been reviewing adult products on this site for well over two years. These reviews grew out of the frequent requests I got from visitors for additional product information and buying assistance and advice. I am delighted to learn that my opinion, as a Clinical Sexologist, carries a good deal of weight for a perspective consumer. That, and I make ‘em laugh.
Unfortunately, this site wasn’t the optimum vehicle for these reviews. I was able to post teasers on my home page well enough, and these linked back to the Product Reviews Page. But in a matter of months, the Product Reviews Page became unwieldy. One had to do endless scrolling to find the review one was looking for. And there wasn’t a search function for the Product Reviews Page.
Since this site’s update and facelift in January, I’ve wanted to spin off the reviews to their own site. Finally, after six weeks of labor intensive effort that dream has been realized. Allow me to introduce you to Dr Dick’s Sex Toy Reviews.
You’ll immediately see how much better this stand-alone site serves our purpose.
Some people in my audience have come to identify with one or another of The Dr Dick Review Crew — my fellow reviewers (women, men and couples; gay, bi and straight) who are helping me with reviews; especially for gender specific products. With this new site, you can now search the site for reviews posted by your favorite Crew member. How sweet is that?
I hope you take a moment of your precious time and take a look around. Your comments and critique are always welcome.
There is one final thing. I’ve also recently launched a stand-alone podcast site too called Sex Advice With An Edge.
The Dr Dick Review Crew is all geared up to start posting new reviews again next Friday, 05/15/09.
Hey sex fans,
I’m adding a new feature to my Q&A columns. Whenever possible, I will include in my response a link to a movie in my HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY (see the VOD tab at the top of the page) that will further educate or enrich the person who is asking the question.
Think of it as at HOMEWORK or further study on the topic at hand. I hope all of you will benefit from this terrific instructional and enriching resource.
Location: Long Island, N.Y.
Almost 20 yrs. ago I had a transexual encounter. It was different but wonderful. Now I find myself wanting to explore this experience again. I’m now married with kids and I know it’s cheating but it won’t leave my thoughts. I don’t know what to think. I love being with a woman but this hunger won’t go away and I ‘m not entirely sure if I want it to. I don’t know if this means I’m gay, bi, or what. Please, please, if you’ve any advice your help and thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Hey Bob, the question of weather this craving makes you are gay, bi or what is the least of your issues, darlin’. You got this jones about chicks with dicks and it won’t go away because you don’t want it to go away. It’s a hunger that you feed by starving it. And I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and guess that you will, in pretty short order, go out and get you some of this exotic monkey love, just like before you were married. And I also predict that you will make it a habit, risks to your comfortable life and cheating on you wife not withstanding.
Here’s the thing about sexual obsessions of any stripe. The more you starve them the more the hunger consumes you. So rather than treat the desire head on, perhaps you need to address the underlying issues that give rise to it. I’d be willing to speculate that your life has become so predictable, mundane and lethargic that you long to be startled awake from this slumber. You entertain these juicy revelries as a way of keeping yourself from completely succumbing to the boredom. Am I right, Bob? I think I am.
You see, the real issue here is not your cravings for a walk on the wild side; it’s the boredom at your core. Desperate men do desperate things. And bored men do foolish things. So I suppose you need to ask yourself, to what lengths are you willing to go to satisfy this craving? And once you answer that, the more important question remains to be answered. How many times will you have to satisfy your craving to balance out the monotony in the rest of your life?
You see, how this has virtually nothing to do with your sexual orientation, gay, bi or whatever; it has to do with your lifestyle.
Perhaps, indulging your sexual fantasy in the relatively harmless form of some video consumption might assuage your obsession. It sure beats skippin’ out on your wife and family to satisfy your jones.
Location: South Africa
I have a new lover, 10 years my junior. We meet at a play party about three weeks ago. He is very adventuresome and totally submissive. He told me he wants me to shave him from head to toe and he wants me to do this while he is restrained and gagged. I’m confident about my bondage skills, but I’ve never saved anyone. Do you have any tips?
Some gals have all the luck! You gots yourself a submissive pup; good for you! Just think, this shaving scene could be a real Samson and Delilah kinda set up, and hopefully one of biblical proportions. HOT!
The overall body shave can be a bit tricky, especially for those sensitive areas of the body not used to being shaved. You can pretty much count on some nicks and cuts and there will be a fair amount of post-shave skin irritation too. It’s just par for the course. Ya’ll can minimize a lot of this by attending to some fundamentals before the event begins.
Most us men have discovered that shaving our face later in the day, or better…at night makes shaving easier. The same is true for fetish shaving. Nighttime is the best time! Work in a clean, well-lit place. The darkened dungeon is good choice for after-shave play, but you’ll need lots of light for the shave itself. You also need ready access to lots of clean hot water. So why not strap the boy to the bathroom sink, shower head, or better yet the kitchen table.
If the pup resembles the missing link, you’ll want to start the whole business by trimming his body hair as close to the skin as possible before you employ the razor. I suggest using a high quality barber shears for this.
Choose your razors carefully. Unless you are a real connoisseur and know how to wield a straight razor, stick with safety razors. Since you’re gonna be doing his whole body, be sure to stock up on a shit-load of the quality plastic disposable kind. You will find that the blades dull really fast when they are shaving course body hair. Dull razors, as everyone knows, will nick and scrape more than a sharp razor. You’ll want to minimize the number of times you pull the razor across any given patch of skin so as to minimize razor burn.
Cover the area you are about to shave with a hot, wet towel. It’ll soften the hair and makes it easier to remove. Use lots of shaving gel. Gel is better than shaving cream for sensitive skin. Always shave with the growth of the hair, not against. Be sure to have a styptic pencil or gel handy to stop bleeding when you nick the little monkey. And depending on how fastidious you are; keep a pair tweezers handy for yanking out the stray hairs you and your razor miss. This will give your sub something to remember!
No matter how careful you are, there will always be microscopic nicks and cuts afterwards. Left untreated, this can leave the skin open to a nasty infection. To prevent this, apply a liberal amount of an astringent, like which hazel. Hydrogen peroxide is and excellent and inexpensive alternative.
Ya know those nasty little red bumps that are caused by ingrown hairs? You can cut down on these little buggers by buffing the freshly shaved area with a cosmetic buff pad. Finally, a liberal application of a moisturizer is recommended to cut down on the itching that will inevitably follow. If the sub has never done this before, he will soon find out that he will be plagued by itching as his hair starts to grow in. Too bad for him, huh?
As you can see, this is gonna be a whole lot of work for you. And there’s gonna be a lot of clean up too. Lucky for you, you’ll have a freshly shaved sub to do all the work while you relax kick your feet up and eat your bonbons.
This might be helpful too — check out my review of The Ultimate Personal Shaver Kit HERE!
Here are some video suggestions to accompany my thoughts.
My husband and I are beginning to experiment with some light bondage and discipline. We’d like to know more about this and how to play safely. Unfortunately, because of his job we are stuck here in Indianapolis for another whole year. We have yet to find even one other person around here who shares our kink. So we don’t have anyone to ask about this.
Ahhh, the joys of the heartland. I’d be willing to guess there are other kinky pervs, like you guys, right there in Indian-apollis, but they don’t know how to find you anymore than you guys know how to find them. Kinda sad, huh? Well probably ya’ll are gonna need to turn to them internet tubes for the help you’re looking for. Kink and BDSM sites abound. Almost all of them have great “how to” and “helpful tips” sections geared to the budding kinkster. Several of these sites also feature profiles, chat rooms and bulletin boards for like-minded folks to connect and play.
For something really special, check out my newest podcast series — Sex EDGE-U-cation. I’m chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.
But since you are here, darlin’, I do have some preliminary thoughts to share. First, every scene should be negotiated before play begins. Never bypass this important step even if the two of you only play with one another. Ya see, what you don’t want to have happen is to break the mood mid-scene to ask a question or seek direction. All that should be taken care of before you start the play. Get use to working out all the logistics a head of time. These important negotiation sessions will also force you to communicate with each other and give you a ready vocabulary for talking with other prospective partners should the opportunity ever arise.
Negotiating a BDSM scene is not a “I’ll do this for you if you do that for me” sort of deal, like in vanilla sex. Rather it’s an honest discussion about you and your partner’s wants, needs, expectations and limits for the scene. Regardless if you are the dominant top or a submissive bottom, you must be equal partners when negotiating each scene.
If you do this sort of play a lot, the negotiations may become perfunctory. But like I said, they ought never be skipped. The nature of these negotiations is to set parameters, ascertain boundaries and establish limits — for example the intensity and duration of the scene. You may find that you need to set a time limit for your play, or discuss the type of restraints and means of discipline to be used. Debriefing (also known as Aftercare), once the scene is ended, is also a real good idea. You’ll, of course, need to establish safewords for your play. And if you don’t know what those are; you’d best stick to vanilla.
The more experience you have, the more likely you will develop a shorthand for negotiating your play. However, the less experienced you are, the more important it will be to spell out absolutely everything. Your negotiations ought to be a frank and open discussion, no holds bared as it were. Remember, you are not in the scene yet. So no one, dom or sub, has more input than the other. Speak and question one another freely.
The first question the dom needs to ask of the sub is “What are your limits?” Be specific, direct and pointed when you ask about one’s limits. The novice sub may not know his or her limits, so the dom will have to proceed with the utmost caution. This is where the safeword will most likely come into play.
The sub ought to have unqualified trust in the dom; without this the scene isn’t play, it’s abuse. Remember, there is never room for coercion in the negotiations. Save the guilt tripping, shame-inducement and intimidation for the scene itself.
Here’s some at homework for you and your husband. Check out The Surrender Of O. This is just one of the exceptionally fine enrichment videos in my How To Video Library.
When me and my wife have sex I like to cum in her ass. Is that bad for her?
If her’s is the only ass you cum in, there’s no problem.
However, if you’re dippin’ you wick in other bung-holes, or have multiple partners of any sort, exchanging bodily fluids is not recommended.
Good luck ya’ll