Sex Advice With An Edge
Being exclusively attracted to people of the opposite sex is a surprisingly recent phenomenon. By Annie Hayes While heterosexual sex is certainly nothing new, heterosexuality – the quality of being sexually attracted exclusively to people of the opposite sex – is a surprisingly recent phenomenon. In 1901, Dorland’s Medical Dictionary defined heterosexuality as an ‘abnormal …
One writer looks back over the lonely reality for single people in the UK during the pandemic. By Shon Faye Being single throughout the first lockdown might not have been so hard if I hadn’t begun 2020 still very much in a couple. I still remember the Christmas card he gave me and the message …
— Why Is It So Hard To Know What To Call A Significant Other? By Olivia Harrison Because of a congenital heart defect, I have an annual checkup with a cardiologist. This yearly visit to the hospital — involving numerous tests, conversations about future surgeries, and a waiting room filled with babies who have only …
Because they *are* still hooking up By Michal Stein January is not a particularly sexy month. The sparkle of the December holiday season has faded. It’s cold and dark and, even in the best of times, going out may not be particularly inviting. But in a school setting, there was always something alluring about a …
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It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …
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Unpacking the Gut-Sex Connection by Gabrielle Kassel What’s the short answer? Yes. Yes, probiotics have the potential to improve a person’s sex life. Whether or not they have the potential to improve your sex life, however, depends on your current gut health and your sex life. When we talk about gut health, we’re typically talking …
“Kink Helped My Mental Health.” By Yasmin Lajoie Two years ago, 38-year-old Alice* suddenly went profoundly deaf. She lost her job, her boyfriend dumped her and the relentless tinnitus she experienced led her to have suicidal thoughts. “Before I went deaf, I was stable,” she tells me. “I had trauma but I could live with …
— How to Embrace Your Body’s Natural Arousal Glow by Gabrielle Smith Remember mood rings? Sex flush is kind of like that. Except it’s your body changing color because of a very specific mood: Arousal. Sex flush is a normal part of the arousal cycle. It can happen during solo or partnered sexy times to …
By Sandra Song Whether we’re talking about its reliance on fetishization, the overt pay discrepancies or the fact that it’s always been a predominantly white space, it’s no secret that porn has a race problem. But after 20 years of shared experience as performers, educators and master fetish trainers, Jet-Setting Jasmine and King Noire are …
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“All too many men still seem to believe, in a rather naive and egocentric way, that what feels good to them is automatically what feels good to women.” Such terse pronouncements made Shere Hite – a sex researcher who died this week at the age of 77 – both a feminist hero and a controversial …
For starters, know that this is a couple problem… not a you problem. By Steph Auteri My husband’s idea of a fantastic evening is to “Netflix and chill.” My idea of a fantastic evening is to pull on palazzo-style lounge pants, crawl into bed by 9 p.m., and read until I pass out. I could …
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By Jera Brown When cartoonist Sharon Rosenzweig was 45 and going through a divorce, she felt the pressure to meet someone new right away. “By the time I’m in my fifties,” she remembers thinking, “I’m going to be so old, I won’t even be interested in sex anymore.” She had this idea that menopause would …
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— How LGBTIQ+ people, and their children, become stateless By Thomas McGee No child should be denied her rights because her parents are LGBTIQ+, and no family should have to endure the indignity we did. These are the words of Roee and Adiel Kiviti, a same-sex married couple who recently won a legal challenge against …
By Julia Naftulin Sexual stereotypes often lead people to question whether their sexual experiences are normal or not. Myths that suggest penis size matters for sexual pleasure, blue balls can cause long-term problems, and men have to ejaculate to experience pleasure abound, but they’re scientifically inaccurate. When it comes to sex and sexual experiences, no …
– Examples & How To Practice By Kesiena Boom, M.S. In 2020, viewing monogamy as the only way to successfully conduct a relationship seems a little passé. Growing numbers of people are living nonmonogamous lifestyles. In fact, a 2017 study found at least one in five people have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy …
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