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More Sex EDGE-U-cation with Gina Hunting — Podcast #367 — 03/13/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

The remarkably talented, the oh so edgy and the deliciously pervy Gina Hunting is back for more of her signature Sex EDGE-U-cation. And I can hardly wait!IMG_6713

But wait, you didn’t miss Part 1 of this conversation, did you? Well not to worry if ya did, because you can find it and all my podcasts in the Podcast Archive right here on my site. All ya gotta do is use the search function in the header; type in Podcast #366 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Gina and I discuss:

  • Blood, Sweat and Queers;
  • The importance of queer space;
  • Women only space;
  • (cat)Fight Club and BOUND;
  • The Women in Kink Conference;
  • Transwomen and cis-women;
  • People of color;
  • Her lifestyle presentations and workshops;
  • The leather community and the BDSM community;
  • Primal play;
  • Dom/sub and Top/bottom;
  • Her inspirations and her sexual heroes.

 

You’ll find more about Gina on her on FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And be sure to check out her upcoming program, Women In Kink, HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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Tickle & Tease

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Hey sex fans!

Here it is Friday again and not only that, but it a Product Review Friday to boot. Today we welcome a new manufacturer to our review effort — Toyfriend.

And here to tell us about her new toy friend is Dr Dick Review Crew member, Jada.

Coney by Toyfriend —— $47.06

Jada
I’m back for yet another year of reviewing with the Dr Dick Review Crew. I joined this effort back in August of 2008 on a bit of a whim. I never thought that I’d continue beyond my first review, which I did as a favor to Richard.

Over the years I’ve learned so much about the adult products industry. And it’s been quite an education, let me tell you. I’ve had the dubious pleasure of reviewing some remarkably crummy stuff, but I’ve also reviewed products that I continue to use year after year. I was even lucky enough to review one of The 10 Best Products of 2012. coney

Not too long ago a woman friend from work confided in me that she was considering buying a vibrator. It was to be her first sex toy. She was absolutely flabbergasted when I launched into my spiel about what to look for and what to avoid. I guess I forgot myself for a moment, because when I stopped blabbing I could see the astonishment in her face. “How do you know so much about this?” She asked. I wasn’t about to blow my cover, so I just shrugged my shoulders a bit and told her I read a lot of women’s magazines. Afterward, I felt a little sad that I couldn’t, or more likely wouldn’t, tell her about this review gig.

Anyway, this brings me to today product, a sweet and somewhat comical vibe from a new toy company called Toyfriend. It’s name is Coney.

Had I the presence of mind, when I was talking to my friend about what to look for in a vibrator, I would have said; “You ought to take a look at the Coney. It’s a really good beginner’s vibe.” It has a lot of the features that I think are important in a personal vibrator. Chiefly among them is it’s make of high-quality, latex-free, nonporous, phthalate-free, and hypo-allergenic silicone. Second, it’s waterproof. Third, it’s moderately priced.

So let’s take a closer look at Coney, shall we? The first thing I noticed was its whimsical shape. It has two long ears that are perfect for teasing and tickling your clit and nipples. When I first open the modest packaging I thought this has got to be some kind of gag novelty toy. The marketplace is flooded with such things. But once I put it through its paces I realized my first impression was wrong. There is nothing cheap or crummy about the Coney.

The vibe is battery operated. I generally prefer a vibe that is rechargeable, but I see where sometimes that’s not a practical option. The Toyfriend people thoughtfully included the first set of two AAA batteries with the toy. Thank you, Toyfriend. That little kindness sets you apart from just about all your other competitors.

The vibrations are of moderate strength; this is not going to knock your socks off. That’s why I call it a teaser and tickler. It’ll help get your motor started, so to speak.

The Coney looks like a stylized rabbit. I already mentioned the elongated ears. The surface of the vibe is silky smooth to the touch. The toy is well constructed; I would say it has to be since it is waterproof. The battery compartment is easy to get to and easy to unscrew. No wear and tear on tired or arthritic hands. It also comes with a Lucite stand to keep it upright between uses. It is so charming!coney-2

A single button on the bottom of the toy controls the vibrations. Press it once to start the vibrations. Pressing additional times will move it through its five vibration patterns. To turn it off, hold the button down for two seconds.

Read Full Review HERE!

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Sex EDGE-U-cation with Gina Hunting — Podcast #366 — 03/06/13

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Hey sex fans, welcome back.

Holy Cow! We haven’t had a Sex EDGE-U-cation show since late October. Now that’s just not right. Luckily, I have the solutionGina to that dilemma on tap today. We welcome back this series that takes a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative lifestyles and we do so with a remarkably talented, and oh so pervy woman who lives right here in the Emerald City.

My guest today is Gina Hunting. She is an educator, activist and woman of great wisdom. And she is edgy as all get out. Just wait till you hear the litany of the things that makes her happy. I can assure you it ain’t eatin’ bon-bons and watching her favorite TV programs, if ya catch my drift.

Gina and I discuss:

  • Seattle, a hotbed of perversion;
  • BDSM not her lifestyle, but a really important hobby;
  • The intensity and intimacy of a scene;
  • Coming to it all as an adult;
  • A matter of context;
  • Genderqueer and gender exploration;
  • Coming to The Emerald City from San Francisco;
  • A thing she does; not a thing she is;
  • Coming out as a Top;
  • Misdirected power exchange;
  • The Center for Sex Positive Culture.

You’ll find more about Gina on her on FetLife page HERE! On her Facebook page HERE! And be sure to check out her upcoming program, Women In Kink, HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Stockroom.

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A Slice of Heaven!

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Hey sex fans!

Welcome to this our latest edition of Product Review Friday. Today we welcome yet another innovative company to our review effort, Ladygasm. You’ll be seeing more products from them in coming weeks, but today Dr Dick Review Crew member, Angie is here with our first review.

Let’s go see what’s on her mind, shall we?

The Ladygasm Nirvana— $79.95

Angie
Dr Dick tells me that people have been asking about me. I guess they’ve been wondering how I’m doing. Those of you, who haven’t been following my reviews, won’t know this, but I was diagnosed with lymphoma over two years ago. I mentioned this in the last review I posted on April 27th, 2012 and apparently this sparked some concern.  Well, I’m good; and I’m still alive; and I’m happy to report that my libido is nearing its pre-diagnosis levels once again. So yay for that! Actually, I think my husband is even happier than I.

Now that I’m feeling much better I was overjoyed to be invited to review a wonderful new vibe called Nirvana. And let me tell you, it is a slice of heaven.nirvana1

The Ladygasm (How fun is that name?) slogan is “Pleasure Simplified.” And I think that says just about everything that needs to be said. The Nirvana is beautifully designed, easy to use, well built and fairly priced. It is made of rose-colored medical grade silicone, which is nonporous, phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and latex-free. It is exceptionally soft and smooth. There is no texture to it. It is velvety to the touch. It is a highly stylized rabbit design. That is, it’s an insertable G-spot vibe with a thumb-shaped clit stimulator.

The control panel is in the handle. There are two easy to press silicone buttons — an on/off button and a function button. These buttons have a light behind them that flashes when charging and lights up when on. I really like the one button on/off switch feature. I hate having to cycle through all the speeds and patterns just to turn off a vibe. This on/off button doesn’t activate the vibrations, mind you. The second button, just below the first, does that. There are seven patterns and three speeds. And the Nirvana is remarkable quiet.

The Nirvana is completely waterproof and rechargeable. To my mind, these are two indispensable features of any high-end vibe these days. If someone one tries to sell you something that isn’t both, don’t bother to give it a second look. The Nirvana recharges via a resealing hole in the base of the unit. You simply insert the jack into the hole to charge. While charging the control panel light blinks, when the light stops blinking it is fully charged. Beautifully simple!

My husband loves the Nirvana too, because its stylized design makes it appropriate for couple play. He does not like insertable toys that look like a penis. And on that point, I can’t say I blame him.nirvana2

Because the Nirvana is made of 100% silicone, you can only use a water-based lubricant with it. And because it is waterproof, it cleans up and sanitizes easily making it a sharable toy. Mild soap and warm water does just fine for everyday cleaning. To sanitize, wipe it down with a lint-free towel moistened with peroxide, rubbing alcohol or a 10% bleach solution.

The packaging, a black cardboard shell in a see-through sleeve, is simple but elegant. Ladygasm also thoughtfully includes a drawstring storage pouch for your convenience and storage purposes.
Full Review HERE!

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Help! It hurts when I do this.

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Name: Dylan
Gender: Male
Age: 23
Location: Australia
Hi Dr Dick, I’ve got a painful and irritating problem that my GP wasn’t able to help with, so I’m hoping you can. After I spend time edging, or develop blueballs, I get an intense burning sensation in my urethra. It usually doesn’t happen until after I cum, then urinate, but occasionally it’ll happen while edging. If I sit on the toilet and push as though urinating, it calms down significantly, but returns when I stand up. It usually goes after about half an hour of. I had a STI check (Urethral Swab. Oww. No sounding for me thanks) and it came back all clean, and in all other respects my junk is normal. Any ideas about what’s going on, or how I can fix it? Thanks!

This reminds me of the old joke where a guy goes to see his doctor about a pain he is having. The doctor sits him down and asks him where it hurts. The guy says, “It hurts when I do this.” And he takes his hand, makes a fist and punches himself in the side of the head. The doctor nods knowingly and says, “Stop doing that, and I guarantee the pain will subside.”

give up dickListen Dylan, whatever the root cause of the burning sensation you report is — and I can honestly say you have me stumped there — I pretty much can guarantee that it will subside if you cease the edging you are doing, or at least cut way back on that.

Like I said, I’ve never encountered this particular phenomenon before, so I can’t advise you further. And if your GP couldn’t put his finger on it, so to speak, and the burning sensation only happens when you edge or practice orgasm denial, then simply stop doing that and things will get better. I promise. After all, it’s not like you can’t live without edging. If, on the other hand, you said that you had discomfort every time you had an erection, then there’d be cause for alarm. But if the owie is only associated with something self-induced, then that’s a horse of a different color. See what I mean?

And here’s a tip: if you’re doing something that is causing pain or discomfort — and that’s not your intention — then your body is sending you a message that whatever you are doing it’s too much or it’s unhealthy. I am of the mind that we all ought to listen more closely to the messages our body sends us about what it needs and what it doesn’t need.

Oh, and for those in my audience who don’t know what the fuck “edging” is, it’s a stop/start masturbation technique designed to prolong the time it takes a guy to reach his climax. An edger will begin to wank like normal, but when he gets near to cumming — he stops stroking, sometimes even squeezing his cock till the urge to shoot subsides. Once the urge to cum quiets down, he begins to stroke again. Stopping again whenever he approaches climax. He repeats this whole ‘stop and start’ cycle for as many times as he would like, so that when he finally shoots he’ll have a stronger orgasm and he’ll spew more spunk.edging

I know a lot of men who edge and they swear by it. I also know that a number of these men are doing themselves a disservice, even harm, because they are practicing an extreme version of edging. In the end, despite the stand-up nature of our dick, it is a very delicate instrument. Intense edging, especially accompanied by nasty squeezing or slapping to quell the building ejaculation can be injurious.

So maybe, Dylan, just maybe ya oughta take a break from edging for a while and see if this burning issue doesn’t resolve itself.

Good luck

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