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Another review of my book, this time in marvelous E-zine — Oysters & Chocolate.

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Book Review

Thoughtful review of my book on the Men of Color Blog.

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Panic in Straightville

Name: Tony
Gender:
Age: 40
Location: Houston
I’ve loved several women and even married and divorced one. Over the last few years, I notice having similar feelings for men around me…longing, sweaty palms, difficulty thinking and wanting to be with them alone. Is this love? Am I bisexual? Am I a sick man better off dead? I have not crossed the line and I still have great sex with women. But there’s now a guy that I think about when I’m with her! Am I gay? Bisexual? Sick in the head?

Hey, chill out, my friend, this is not all that uncommon a phenomenon. Many people, just like you, inexplicably find themselves fantasying and even behaving in a completely unexpected sexual manner. I would, however, love to know what triggered you to veer off your comfortable and predictable sexual path?

While you learn to enjoy these new-found feelings, beware that there’s never a scarcity of sexual fascists out there. People who believe that sexual tastes and preferences are carved in stone, or that there’s only one “right” way to be sexual. They’ll persecute anyone who doesn’t conform to their strict immutable notions of sexuality and eroticism. Despite the proliferation of these hetero-fascists and homo-fascists, they are all very wrong about the indomitable human spirit and the flexibility of human sexuality.

Humans are not sexual automatons. Given a more permissive and sex-positive culture then our own, we’d all be more fluid in our eroticism and sexual expression. Are you one of the lucky few who has discovered the joy of this fluidity? Doesn’t quite sound like it to me, at least not yet. I think you’re still in the “scared shitless” stage.

For a guy who has yet to “cross the line” and actually act on your fantasy, you sure are preoccupied with your identity. Are you afraid that someone will take away your breeder card if you actually touch a dude in a sexual way? Does having same-sex feelings…sweaty palms and all…make you a gay? I certainly doubt it! Being gay entails a lot more than a sense of longing for something you’re not supposed to have. Are you bisexual? I can’t say for sure, but you’re certainly not exclusively straight either. I suppose you’ll have to come to grips with the self-identify thing when you have a bit more information about your burgeoning eroticism. What I know for sure is that you are not sick.

Who knows, your homoeroticism might very well be situational. It might not extend any farther than the guy you think about when you’re fucking chicks. I know all of this is can be pretty disconcerting and it can really mess with your head. But at least you know you are still alive sexually. So many people are sleepwalking through their erotic lives.

Will you act on your inclinations? Will you test the waters, so to speak? What harm could it do? Might just open up a whole new sexual world for you. On the other hand, if you do nothing, or try and repress these natural feelings, you’ll always know in your heart of hearts that you have the desire, if not the capacity, to express yourself sexually with a much wider range of humans than what you are currently used to. And something tells me that if you choose the path of self-denial, it will eat away at you until you satisfy your curiosity.

Good luck

The Erotic Mind of Mike’s Bliss — Podcast #294 — 08/01/11

Hey sex fans,

We travel to London England today for another amazing podcast in The Erotic Mind series. I have the pleasure of welcoming an internationally renowned artist with a signature style. My guest is none other than the man who goes by the name, Mike’s Bliss.

I’m gonna guess that if you know anything about gay erotic art, you will already recognize Mike’s work. I’ve seen his images around for years, but it was only recently that a mutual friend of ours, William Maltese, a renowned artist in his own right, turned me on to Mike himself. And I am enormously grateful for the introduction, because now I have the privilege of introducing Mike to you.

Mike and I discuss:

  • His early Life;
  • Nor formal art training;
  • His artistic “vocation”;
  • His nom de plume;
  • His relationship with his parents;
  • His artistic temperament;
  • A gay-bashing that triggered his erotic work;
  • Artist? Illustrator? Or both?
  • Words and images and their cathartic nature;
  • His chosen media;
  • His graphic novel, GodMaker: Vampires of London;
  • His erotic religious imagery;
  • His images of cultural icons.

For more of Mike, be sure to visit him on his site HERE!  Buy his book HERE!
And find him on Facebook HERE!

(Click on the thumbnails below for a slideshow of some of Mike’s beautiful work.)

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Play With It welcomes Dr Kat Van Kirk — Podcast #287 — 06/29/11

Hey sex fans, welcome back

Say, what if I could introduce you to some industry insiders in the world of adult products? What if I could bring you a series of conversations with leading retailers, educators, manufacturers and reviewers who are shaping the sex toy and pleasure product marketplace? You’d like that, wouldn’t you? Alrighty then; you’re in luck, because I’m back with another installment in this the Play With It series.

Ya know this is only the third podcast in this series and there’s a reason for that. I have to look high and low to find the best people to join me for this series. Despite being approached by lot of folks for a spot on this show, I only choose the cream of the crop. And speaking of cream, today we take an audio field trip to paradise, Hawaii to be precise, to meet the splendid Dr Kat Van Kirk. She is an esteemed therapist and educator, fellow podcaster and staff sexologist for one of the oldest brands in the industry, Adam & Eve.

Dr Kat and I discuss:

  • Being the sofa sexologist;
  • The predictable roots of most sexual concerns;
  • The dearth of sexological training for most healing and helping professionals;
  • Being on the cutting edge of sex education;
  • Her podcasts — Sex Chat with Dr. Kat and her gay boyfriend;
  • Her husband’s blog — So I Married a Sexologist;
  • Her sex toy reviews;
  • Women in sexology;
  • Becoming a conscientious, GREEN sex toy consumer.

Dr Kat invites you to visit her on her site HERE! Look for her on Facebook HERE!  And enjoy her twitter feed HERE!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Stockroom.

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