Aftercare Conversations Might Be the BDSM Practice You Need to Try

It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …

Contraception, consent, kinks – welcome to the sex-ed you wish you’d had in school

Your questions answered by sex-positive pros. By Ali Pantony For most millennials, the words ‘sex education’ probably conjure up images of clinical vulva diagrams, scaremongering STI leaflets, entirely heteronormative textbooks and absolutely tons of bananas encased in condoms. Basically, you know that bit in Mean Girls when the PE teacher tells the class that if …

How Quarantine Helped Me Overcome Stigmas Surrounding Queer Dating

By Meggie Gates I’ve been out since I was 19, and insecure since the day I was born. I’ve shied away from intimacy my entire life, something psychologists label “avoidant attachment” and my mother calls “frustrating.” I am 26, I do not like to be touched, and incidences of sexual assault have only heightened that …

How female sexuality is finding its voice

By Remy Rippon After centuries of secrecy, female sexuality is finally finding a voice, with women entering a new era of enlightenment and fulfilment thanks in part to the booming wellness industry. Considering how long females have graced this earth, it’s astounding to think it was only 21 years ago that scientific research discovered something …

A queer user’s guide to the wild and terrifying world of LGBTQ dating apps

By Jon Shadel What’s the best queer dating app today? Many people, tired of swiping through profiles with discriminatory language and frustrated with safety and privacy concerns, say it isn’t a dating app at all. It’s Instagram. This is hardly a queer seal of approval for the social media platform. Instead, it’s a sign that, …

How to Have Sex if You’re Queer

What to Know About Protection, Consent, and What Queer Sex Means By Yana Tallon-Hicks Happy Pride! Rarely does traditional sex education tackle pleasure for pleasure’s sake, how to have sex for non-reproductive purposes, or the wide spectrums of sexualities, bodies, and genders that exist. Instead it tends to cover penis-in-vagina penetration only, pregnancy risks, and …