Sex Advice With An Edge
By Charlotte Moore When I think back to my first same-sex relationship, there are a few stereotypes about lesbians which I realised early on are pretty much baseless. Firstly, even if you own a vulva, everyone is pretty much inept when first faced with someone else’s. This is only cemented by the brutal lack of …
Some therapists advertising kink- and polyamory-friendly treatment might not be all they seem. Here’s what to look for if you’re seeking mental healthcare that doesn’t see “sexual deviance” as deviance. by Penda N’Diaye Layla, a 30ish queer sub who enjoys domination by her partners—her name has been changed for her privacy—has been in therapy for …
ByAlexandra Roxo Once I was riding in a car back from Joshua Tree with a few progressive people whom I love. It was a long car ride, and the conversation turned to sex. A friend mentioned that the man she was dating loved blow jobs. Then I said something about having a mind-blowing orgasm when …
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Introducing: Spontaneous and responsive desire. By Gabrielle Kassel By now, you’ve probably heard a sexual health pro say—punctuated by 👏👏👏, of course—that porn is entertainment, not education. And that’s true. But there’s another type of media that shoves lies about what sex “should” (eye roll) look like down our collective throat: Romantic comedies. One of …
By Tracy Clelland The hugely successful “Keep It Real Online” video aimed at getting parents to talk to their children about pornography has gone viral and been praised around the world. But my 16-year-old son asked an interesting question when he looked at the campaign website: Why does it say talk “to” your child? Shouldn’t …
It’s natural and entirely harmless for young children to explore. But it’s also important for parents to set boundaries. By Jenny Marder A mother received an awkward email from her son’s kindergarten teacher last fall. Her 6-year-old and his friends had been caught unzipping their pants and flashing each other during lunch. The behavior was …
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– A Definition of Polyamory, How It Works And Why It’s Not All About Sex Polyamory is also known as ‘consensual non-monogamy’ By Becky Burgum Storybooks, fairytales and the media have hardwired many of us into believing we will eventually meet ‘The One’ – the person we’re supposed to spend the rest of our lives. …
Don’t try to set them up with the only other queer person you know, who they have absolutely nothing in common with. by Rachel Miller At the end of a Pride month in which a lot of people are newly thinking about how to be a good ally, it’s a great occasion to think about …
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By Gabrielle Kassel Thanks to the novel coronavirus pandemic, pretty much everything you used to do in person—work, happy hour, doc appointments, weddings—have all moved to Zoom, Google Hangouts, and Facetime. But sex? Yep. That too. Katie, 29, a New York-based publicist is one of the unlucky lovebirds who has unexpectedly found herself in a …
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By Ashley Laderer You can increase your sex drive by reducing stress levels, gaining a better understanding of what turns you on, letting go of performance anxiety, and reducing negative anticipation among other methods. Getting enough sleep could also increase your desire for sex since sleep quality can influence libido. You could also try talking …
By April Dembosky Ina Park has been in a monogamous marriage for more than 15 years, but she feels like she’s been having one safe sex conversation after another these days. Like, after she and some close friends spent time together without masks on, forcing her to later ask: “Are you seeing other people?” Then, …
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By Hannah Coates We take our supplements, meditate religiously and practise yoga to still our busy minds – but how many of us will admit to masturbating in our efforts to maintain good mental health? It’s certainly an effective method of self-care – 78 per cent of us (that’s four in five people), say we …
– Especially if you’re struggling with body image By Kellie Scott Sexual confidence is not about being “good” in bed. It’s not about having ripped abs or big boobs. And it doesn’t come from having a lot of sex. While it can mean different things to different people, at its core sexual confidence is feeling …
You’re not alone. By Nona Willis Aronowitz Q: My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex and we have been struggling. We have tried three times. I have never had sex before and we haven’t been able to get penetration, it’s very painful. I believe I have PTSD because I associate sex with …
By Hannah Coates Has your sex life taken something of a nosedive in recent months? It’s likely, at this point in lockdown, that the answer is yes, since the majority of us fall into one of two camps: those who have been unable to see (or meet new) sexual partners; and those who have now …
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