Sex Advice With An Edge
By Rose Wilby [W]hen I embarked on the seven-year journey that would result in a trilogy of comedy shows and my first book, I had no idea what a huge part sexual orientation would play. Yes, I’m a lesbian and that has influenced much of how I’ve socialised and dated for the 20 years or …
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The new App Launches Globally [A] New Dating App for Gay Men into BDSM, Fetish & Kinks, has been launched globally through the App Store. It’s the first Tinder-style app for gay men who are into the kink lifestyle. It’s no secret that dating in the gay world is hard. Gay people are still discriminated …
By Susan Deitz [R]elax your body before you start this questionnaire. It’s important you start this with shoulders loose and mind clear. Don’t rush through the following questions, because chances are they’ll lead to still more probing. (For now, jot down those additional questions on a separate sheet of paper for future reference.) The best …
Polyamory isn’t monogamy and it isn’t swinging, it’s being open to having loving relationships with different people of different sexes at the same time, and in that way learning to love yourself, too By Elf Lyons [I] have never enjoyed typical monogamy. It makes me think of dowries and possessive prairie voles who mate for …
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Because there are no fifty shades of grey, just black and white. By Gigi Engle [W]e can say “Consent is sexy” all we want and wear it on every crop top we own, but with a rising interest in kink and BDSM, and the ever-prevalent rape culture, understanding the intricacies of consent can become more …
By Lisa Gutierrez [I]f you’ve ever given a second thought to furries – largely known to the public as people who dress up in giant animal costumes – you might have thought of them as freaks or wondered whether their costumes are some kind of kinky, freaky, fetish thing. Perhaps the media put those thoughts …
It’s a win-win all around. By Tanya Basu [H]istorically, polyamory has been seen as a surefire sign of a failing relationship: If your partner is sleeping with others, even with your permission, your relationship is fizzling towards its demise. If you couldn’t satisfy your partner, your relationship was doomed. But as of late, polyamorous relationships …
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Rope play is a great way to be a bondage top when you’re five-foot-five. By Jorge Vieto Consensual rope bondage, specifically as a top, is one of the most intimate types of play I’ve engaged in with other human beings in the realm of kink and BDSM. The instant shift in power is a turn-on …
By Kathi Wolfe “I assessed the toys/and took my pick/a brand new bike,” poet Grace Cavalieri writes in her poem “Language Lesson.” “My new playmate ran crying/…Me wants the bike.” “I felt the sweet pleasure of/superiority, the first ache/of it, age three,” Cavalieri continues. “There would be no contest/I/could play as long as I liked./I …
Everything you need to know about adding a bit of kink to your bedroom By Holly Von Bock [F]irst things first, let’s clear up exactly what BDSM means: bondage and discipline (B&D); dominance and submission (D&S); sadism and masochism (S&M). It’s split up this way because BDSM means a lot of different things to the …
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Name: Cade Gender: Male Age: 23 Location: Alabama Awhile back you responded to an Iraq vet who was having trouble in his marriage because he couldn’t get it up due to his PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I want to thank you for discussing that. It was helpful to me too. I’m an Iraq vet. …
By Alia E. Dastagir [M]illions of Americans identify as LGBTQ, and like any group, they have their own language to talk about both who they are and the challenges they face in a society that doesn’t fully accept or protect them. If you want to be an ally, these terms might help — but be …
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Happy Gay Pride Month! It’s time, once again, to post my annual pride posting. In my lifetime I’ve witnessed a most remarkable change in societal attitudes toward those of us on the sexual fringe. One only needs to go back 50 years in time. I was 17 years old then and I knew I was …
Why BDSM Couples Like Having Rough Sex By Lizette Borreli [M]any couples will admit sex can become predictable over the course of a relationship. We all know the routine: we go to the bedroom, turn off the lights, and have sex (almost) always in the missionary position until we’re done. Although there’s nothing wrong with …
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These men explain the appeal By Violet Fenn [E]veryone recognizes the popular image of the dominatrix standing over a cowering man, usually with a whip in her hand. ‘S&M’ has been a popular theme in art and films for a very long time, although it’s now generally referred to as BDSM (a surprisingly recent term which …
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