How To Discuss Your Deepest, Darkest Desires and Kinks With Your Partner

Discussing our innermost fantasies can be scary. But they can also help unlock a whole new world of pleasure. By Shamani Joshi It’s easy to rant about some of the more mundane parts of life – hectic work schedules, disappointing travel experiences and failed diet fads. It’s the deeper, darker crevices of our consciousness that …

How to Explore Bisexuality If You’ve Only Ever Been in Gay Relationships

From one queer to another, it’s a minefield out there. by Daisy Jones There are some wild misconceptions about bisexual people. The first is that you’re either secretly gay or just experimenting. The second is that you are always the sexuality of your current relationship. (If someone’s partner was ginger, you wouldn’t assume they only …

Why do men search for gym buddies on Grindr? An investigation

Grindr has both defined itself by and come to define the language of queer men. One of the most recent trends to be seen across people’s profiles is the rise of the hunt for ‘gym buddies’. By Louis Staples Downloading Grindr – then deleting it, before re-downloading it, only to delete it again – has …

Everything You Need to Know About BDSM Tests and Kink Levels

It’s basically like a ~sexy~ Myers-Briggs personality test. By Morgan Mandriota Hello, my friends: Welcome to the safe space where kinksters, rookies, and all those in between unite. If you’re looking to explore a new fetish, maybe dabble in a few new kinks, or find out what exactly a brat is (…among other things), you’ve …

Leather and Aging

by Steve Lenius Let me begin this column with what some might consider a five-letter word that’s taboo: A-G-I-N-G. I’ve been thinking a fair amount about aging lately, especially as it relates to the leather/BDSM/fetish community. I have written in this column about leather and aging before (in 2001, 2002, and 2007). But two things …

Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

By magictr The way we think about sexuality is changing. Where once there was a single, well-known rainbow flag, a symbol of pride, today a wide range flies to show the diversity of sexual orientations. People seem increasingly open to discussing their sexuality, and less conventional identities, even previously “invisible”, have become part of an …

How To Explore Your Sexuality In A Personal And Fulfilling Way

Hint: Labels don’t matter. By Gabrielle Kassel Maybe you got a tingle down there during Portrait of a Lady on Fire (#relatable). Perhaps you’ve only been attracted to women your whole life, but now you’re having wild sex dreams feat. your swoony male Peloton instructor. Or maybe you’ve been smooching people across the gender spectrum …

The 9 Best Polyamorous Dating Apps You Can Download Right Now

Plus, what to put on your profile if you’re on a more traditionally “monogamous” app. By Madeline Howard ICYMI, there are *so* many dating apps out there nowadays. From Hinge to Bumble to Tinder, if you’re out there in the ~dating world~ odds are that you’ve tried them all. But what about people who identify …

Sexually Frustrated?

How To Deal, Whether You’re Single Or In A Relationship by Farrah Daniel Anyone can experience sexual frustration from time to time, but it’s important to learn how to cope with the tension when sex is inaccessible, you’re not having the kind you want, or otherwise. What is sexual frustration? “Sexual frustration is dissatisfaction with …