That’s a shame –

Live and let kink by Race Bannon Within the radical sex and relationships communities in which I navigate, there are few things that spark my anger more than shaming. Whether it’s coming from within the leather, kink, polyamory or gay men’s sex cultures, or from external sources, shaming is far too prevalent. I’m sure shaming …

Arguing With Your Partner Makes You So Damn Horny. Here’s Why.

Blame it on science. No, really. By Morgan Mandriota It’s a classic Hollywood plot: Couple starts an epic screaming match with each other, then mid-fight, one partner pushes the other up against the wall, they kiss oh-so passionately, and things escalate to hot, steamy makeup sex. (I mean, raise your hand if that scene from …

Meet the BDSM therapists treating clients with restraints, mummification and impact play

By Gillian Fisher When we say BDSM, you probably think of chains, whips, and all sorts of sexy stuff. But there’s far more to it. BDSM has long been recognised as an erotic practice, with more people than ever introducing aspects of bondage, domination, sadism and masochism into their sexual pursuits. A combination of changing …

“My full-time job is telling men they’re worthless pigs”

Inside the murky world of findomming By Dayna McAlpine Financial domination or findomming, in which men pay women to insult them and then drain their bank accounts, is reportedly on the rise. But who are the cash cows and pay pigs, and why is the dangerous practise of findomming so appealing? Stylist investigates. “I can make …

Yes, latex can be part of a healthy relationship

Busting the myths around sexual fetishism By Giselle Rees People with fetishes have a sexual attraction to inanimate, non-living objects or non-genital body parts. Any body part can become a fetish, including feet, hair, and noses. Most object fetishes tend to be clothing items, such as stockings, latex gloves, and raincoats. Although fetishism was once …

What is a BDSM test, and what do your results mean?

Are you a master, a switch, or something else? By Ana Valens Bondage and discipline, domination and submission (D/s), sadism and masochism. Over the past few decades, BDSM has become more and more popular. Blame it on 50 Shades of Grey, loosening sexual norms, or horny millennials. Regardless, kinkiness is in vogue. And it’s easier than …

5 Ridiculously Common Worries Sex Therapists Hear All the Time

For anyone asking, “Am I normal?” By Anna Borges Fun sex things to talk about: enthusiastic consent, pleasure, sex toys, kink, orgasms, positions, intimacy. Less fun sex things to talk about: insecurity, inadequacy, unwelcome pain, dysfunction, internalized stigma, embarrassment. Understandable. No one wants to sit around chatting about their deepest sexual anxieties. But when you …

There are infinite ways to have sex & there’s nothing unnatural about any of them

By Gonzalo R. Quintana Zunino  and Conall Eoghan Mac Cionnaith Humans have discovered an almost infinite amount of ways to have sex — and things to have sex with. The famous sex researcher Alfred Kinsey said: “The only unnatural sex act is that which can’t be performed.” From foot fetishes to the kinkiest outfit or …