How To Maintain Desire In A Long-Term Relationship

In her debut story collection, Watching Women & Girls, Riposte founder Danielle Pender examines the pillars of female life – love, duty, ambition, friendship, and sex – from every angle. Ahead of publication on 23 June, she considers what it takes to sustain sexual attraction with a long-term partner. By Danielle Pender Desire, what an …

How polyamorous people are marking commitment to multiple partners

By Suzannah Weiss Sarah Brylinsky, a 34-year-old working in higher education in Ithaca, N.Y., is legally married to 36-year-old farm manager Brandon Brylinsky. Two years ago, on a camping trip a decade into their relationship, they met 35-year-old Matte Namer, the founder of a real estate firm. The Brylinskys and Namer are polyamorous, which means …

‘There’s Not Just One Type of Porn’

— Erika Lust’s Alternative Vision The Swedish moviemaker thinks pornography can create a society that sees sexuality as myriad and joyful, and where women’s pleasure matters. By Mary Katharine Tramontana When Billie Eilish called pornography “a disgrace” in a recent radio interview, the quote made headlines. The Grammy-winning musician said she had started watching at …

Here’s How To Be Submissive In Bed If You’re New To BDSM

“Power play” is your new BFF. By Emma Glassman-Hughes It seems you could hardly crack a whip in the last decade without hitting a mainstream depiction of BDSM. Fifty Shades Of Grey eviscerated book sales and box office records; Rihanna’s ode to “chains and whips” peaked at number two on Billboard’s 2011 charts; Netflix’s Bonding …

New ways to think about sex

An enjoyable sexual relationship can happen without traditional intercourse. By Matthew Solan People’s bodies change over time. Probably nowhere is this most telling than with their sex lives. For men, sexual drive can slow as hormone production naturally drops, and it’s common to experience erectile dysfunction or health issues that can interfere with sexual performance. …