Are you getting any closer? A pocket-sized primer on female sexuality

By Clarissa Fortin Stay curious between the sheets, friends. Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality by Sarah Barmak (Coach House Books, 2016; $14.95) If it weren’t for Sarah Barmak’s Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality I might have gone for years of my life without ever finding out what my …

A handy history

Condemned, celebrated, shunned: masturbation has long been an uncomfortable fact of life. Why? by Barry Reay The anonymous author of the pamphlet Onania (1716) was very worried about masturbation. The ‘shameful vice’, the ‘solitary act of pleasure’, was something too terrible to even be described. The writer agreed with those ‘who are of the opinion, …

The Role and Value of the Friend with Benefits for Gay Men

By Ken Howard, LCSW Recently, some clients in my psychotherapy practice, which for 22 years has focused on the mental health and well-being of adult gay men, have been discussing the role and value of a “fuck buddy” in their lives.  While all sexual topics (even in our “modern” age) seem to come fraught with …