8 tips to have better and more intense orgasms

By Ava English To have a better orgasm, stimulate your c-spot, p-spot, or g-spot. To have a more intense orgasm, try edging or kegel exercises. There’s no evidence that masturbating or watching porn less frequently can improve your orgasm. Regardless of what you call it — climaxing, coming, or finishing — orgasms are often considered …

5 Things Getting In The Way Of Black Women’s Sex Lives

By Ashley Townes, Ph.D., MPH Like many other aspects of our society, sexuality education in the United States often reflects majority populations—i.e., white experiences. While there’s been some research dedicated to understanding the sexual lives of Black women, much of it focuses on identifying what types of sexual behaviors they’re engaging in, messages of risk …

How to Find a Sex-Positive Therapist

Some therapists advertising kink- and polyamory-friendly treatment might not be all they seem. Here’s what to look for if you’re seeking mental healthcare that doesn’t see “sexual deviance” as deviance. by Penda N’Diaye Layla, a 30ish queer sub who enjoys domination by her partners—her name has been changed for her privacy—has been in therapy for …

Keeping Kids Curious About Their Bodies Without Shame

It’s natural and entirely harmless for young children to explore. But it’s also important for parents to set boundaries. By Jenny Marder A mother received an awkward email from her son’s kindergarten teacher last fall. Her 6-year-old and his friends had been caught unzipping their pants and flashing each other during lunch. The behavior was …

A guide to getting off to your own sexual fantasies and imagination

By Jess Joho They say the mind is the biggest, most powerful sex organ in the body. But, uh, don’t try visualizing that mental image too vividly or literally, unless you’re into that sorta thing? Instead, imagine your favorite fictional crush pressing you up against a wall, or think back to the hottest sex you …

Parents should start teaching sex ed while their children are in diapers, experts say

by Jennifer Gerson One day, your toddler will point to a pregnant woman, cock their head, and ask, “How did that baby get into that lady’s tummy?” You might think it’s too soon to start teaching your innocent preschooler about sex at that point, but it’s not. In fact, some experts say, it might even …

Transgender People on What They Wish They Had Learned in Sex Ed

From safer queer sex to less gendered language.   By Syd Stephenson Across the United States, sex education curriculum is severely lacking. Many receive abstinence-only education, which can leave out important things like the emotional aspects of sex, how to use protection, and that it is not only normal to have sex, but normal to …