25 Best Couples Therapy Techniques, Exercises, and Activities to Try in 2021

by Jillian Goltzman Online resources and telehealth has made couples therapy more accessible than ever. If you’re looking to engage in self-improvement and enhance your relationship, there’s a multitude of techniques and exercises at your fingertips. Couples therapy techniques Reflective listening “Reflective listening is a highly beneficial exercise where the couple take turns being active …

Grinding Is the Most Underrated Sex Act

Don’t leave this steamy sex act in high school. It’s worth your adult attention. By Gabrielle Kassel Last week during a Zoom birthday celebration, I was mid-professing my love for bump-and-grind hookup action when I noticed some nose-turning happening on the screen. My friends weren’t being judgmental, exactly, but many had taken on the kind …

Aftercare Conversations Might Be the BDSM Practice You Need to Try

It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF previously reported, BDSM, which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, is a term that describes a wide swath of sexual behaviors that …

Trans people deserve healthy, happy sex lives – and that starts with better health care

By Rory Finn Understanding my body in a sexual way has been something that’s taken time. I am a transgender man who identifies as queer, and since I began my transition more than 12 years ago, I found I didn’t fit into the boxes outlined in mainstream sexual health information – if I was able …

10 Tips For Exploring Your Sexuality While You’re in a Monogamous Relationship

By Gabrielle Kassel I’m bisexual and very outspoken about it on social media. As such, a lot of bicurious and bisexual folks slide into my DMs to ask for advice. The most common question I receive? “I think I might be bi…but I’m in a monogamous relationship. What should I do?” The implication being that …

What Does Bi-Curious Mean, and How Is It Different From Bisexuality?

These two terms mean very different things. By Jessica Migala Bisexuality is a sexual identity most people are at least a little familiar with. But what about the term bi-curious—is this a separate identity as well, or is it part of being bisexual? How do you know if you’re bi-curious, anyway? Because the word can …