Hey Sex Fans!
We came dangerously close to having a fantastic Sex EDGE-U-cation podcast for ya today. Unfortunately, my scheduled guest had technical difficulties and we had to put off the interview till next week. Such is life!
In lieu of a podcast, we have some swell Q&A.
Name: Brian
Gender:
Age: 40
Location: Canada
After a guy ejaculates can he have another ejaculation? Like after I cum if I put on a cock ring will it stay hard enough to continue with intercourse and achieve another orgasm? I basically want to cum twice in a row.
Yep, that’s doable. All depends on your particular refractory period and how turned on you are. Let’s take a quick look at the male sexual response cycle again, just so we understand what we’re talkin’ about. Ok?
The sexual response cycle refers to the sequence of physiological changes that occur as we become sexually aroused and move through to afterglow. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Both women and men experience these phases of course, although the timing usually is very different for each gender. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase will vary from person to person and from situation to situation. That’s why I say cuming twice in a row is doable. But is it gonna happen for you? I guess we’ll just have to wait and see, huh?
Ok, Phase 1: Excitement (or the boner stage)
- Muscle tension increases.
- Heart rate quickens and breathing accelerates.
- Our skin may become flushed particularly on our chest and back).
- Our nipples may become erect.
- Blood flow to the genitals increases, thus the boner.
- Our balls swell, our sack tightens, and we may drip precum. Mmmm, precum!
Phase 2: Plateau (or the strokin’ or pumpin’ stage)
- Everything in phase 1 intensifies.
- Our balls may pull up into body cavity.
- Our breathing, heart rate and blood pressure increase.
- Our toes curl, face contorts and hands clench.
Phase 3: Orgasm (or the “yabba dabba doo” stage)
- Involuntary muscle contractions begin.
- Blood pressure, heart rate and breathing excelerate.
- There’s a rapid intake of oxygen.
- Muscles in the feet spasm.
- There is a sudden, forceful release of sexual tension.
- Rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of our cock result in the ejaculation of spunk.
- A “sex flush” may appear all over our body.
Phase 4: Resolution (or the “I need a nappy” stage)
- During this phase, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and the parts of your body that swelled and engorged return to their previous size and color.
- This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy and, often, fatigue.
- Most women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms.
Men, on the other hand need recovery time after orgasm, this period is called the refractory period. This doesn’t have to be the end of sex. Like you suggest, a cockring may prevent your dick from going soft. But don’t count on an immediate second ejaculation, even if your dick stays hard. Don’t forget, the duration of the refractory period varies and is situational. It will also increase as we age.
Name: Ivan
Gender: Male
Age: 33
Location: Spain
I am considering the social usage of Viagra or Cialis to improve sexual performance. Which of the two would you recommend for recreational usage?
I don’t recommend recreational use of prescription drugs, particularly these vascular 
dilators. And certainly not when used in conjunction with other non-prescription drugs. Maybe you ought consider a low-tech solution like a cockring instead.
I hasten to add that I’m not averse to using some drugs recreationally. But I think that we’d do well to stick to those that are more natural. The less processing involved and fewer added chemicals the better, in my humble opinion.
Did you know that health officials in the UK and here in the US are investigating reports of blindness among men using Viagra and Cialis? Why risk that if ya don’t have to.
I’m really concerned with the alarming rise in recreational use of these drugs by younger men, men in their 20’s and 30’s. And like I said, this is even more troubling when they combine these drugs with ecstasy, cocaine, or crystal meth. If your young body is having difficulty producing an erection at this tender age, then you need medical attention ASAP.
Besides the risk of blindness, there are several other reasons why you ought not abuse Viagra or a similar drug just so you can have wood that lasts for hours. Your body will habituate itself to the substance and, in time, you won’t be able to get it up at all without ever increasing doses of these drugs. This will surely fuck up your cardiovascular system big time. In fact, you may very well be inducing the very sexual dysfunction the drug is supposed to help.
Consider the person who overuses eye drops or lip balm or any other otherwise innocuous over the counter health and beauty products. Their bodies stop making the natural substances that these products are intended to assist. It’s counterproductive and it’s ill advised. And if this is a problem with relatively harmless over the counter products, you know you are playing with fire when you abuse powerful prescription meds.
Name: Yuri
Gender: male
Age: 20
Location: Russia
I want to make love kisses on my girlfriend’s vagina. But I never did this. What can I do?
Love kisses on her vagina, huh? You Russians are so romantique!
I think you are talkin about some good old fashioned cunnilingus, right? Or as we say here in the US or A — eatin’ out at the Y, munchin’ carpet, muff divin’, pussy lappin’ and what have you.
If your girlfriend is as unfamiliar with gettin’ love kisses on her vagina as you are at givin’ 
them, you might want to give her a head’s up on what you plan to do. Ya see some of our women folk are none too keen on the idea. They have it in their head that their pussy is icky and not for oral consumption. This is very unfortunate, but it is what it is. If you think you’re gonna get a lot of resistance from your lady friend, you might start kissing her on the face and neck, then to the tops of her tits, her nipples, and her belly. This will give her an idea where you’re headin’. If you’re doin’ this right, hopefully she’ll be so busy enjoying herself she’ll not protest your trip south.
Proceed slowly. Make sure you’re you’re both comfortable. If you’re lying down, you best be on your stomach between her legs so that your string of kisses is as effortless as possible. Have a pillow ready to shove under her hips to raise her a bit if she’s willing to proceed. If, by the time you get to her pussy, she doesn’t try to stop you, you’re home free. Basically she is giving you tacit permission to proceed. Of course you could check in with her and ask if you can continue. But sometimes, in delicate situations like this, you may be better off keeping the conversation to a minimum. She might be fine with it if she doesn’t actually have to agree to it. Women are like that sometimes.
Try scooting her butt to the side of the bed while you kneel on the floor between her legs. This will give you all the access you’ll need. And hey, don’t go divin’ right in there, for heaven’s sakes. Take a moment to two to admire the beautiful spectacle before you. Lordy, lordy ain’t that a sight for sore eyes.
Gently nuzzle, kiss, and lick her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. With a little luck your gal-pal will be so aroused she’ll begin to guide your head into her snatch. Lick her outer lips. Run your tongue up and down them. Nibble them gently with your lips. Next, work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress her smaller, thinner inner lips. Circle her vaginal opening and perhaps dart your tongue inside her cunt.
I hope you know your way around a woman’s genitals, because If you don’t you’ll be bumbling around down there to no great effect. And, while you may get an “A” for effort, you might very well wreck the moment by being too aggressive on her more sensitive parts. Her clit is her magic button. If you don’t know a clit from a hole in your head, do some research before you head south.
Approach her clit very slowly and gently. Some women enjoy a tongue lashing directly on her clit. Others find direct contact too intense, even uncomfortable. Now is a good time to check in with her. Ask for direction on how she wants you to proceed. She may prefer you to circle her clit with your tongue, avoiding direct contact.
If your gal is unfamiliar with this kind of pleasure, she may not kow to direct you. If that’s 
the case, you’re gonna have to ask direct questions like: Do you want it lighter? Or would you like more pressure? More of this? Not so much of that? Soon you will be able to tell on your own by observing her pelvic movements and listening to her moan if you’re doing a good job. Sometimes the best communication is non-verbal.
While you’re down there, why not employ a couple fingers to spread things apart? Add a little massage. Use the tip of your tongue, then the flat of your tongue, then your lips as you move around her vulva. All three feel a little different and each provide subtly different sensations. Some chicks love pussy raspberries, you know…
Come up for air from time to time. Look into here eyes, caress and massage her boobs. Try slipping a finger or two into her mouth so she can suck them while you’re licking her. Or move into a 69 position and enjoy a little blowjob with you’re eating her out.
You may want to incorporate some ass play too. Insert a lubed finger into her butt hole. Just make sure that whatever goes in her ass doesn’t then come in contact with her cunt. You definitely don’t want to introduce bacteria that can cause a urinary infection.
Good luck ya’ll
Hi Dr Dick,
Happy (belated) New Year! I have two questions for you:
1. I am taking a long time to cum when I’m given a blowjob or hand job and eventually I need to stroke off on my own (for a pretty long time as well). However, I cum pretty quickly when I masturbate while watching porn. Am I masturbating to porn too much? I have also masturbated to porn for years before I started having sex recently (I’m not sure whether this could be a reason as well).
2. You mention that we shouldn’t use soup while cleaning our anus. Why is that so? I just read about douching but I have been cleaning my anus with warm water, soap, and finger. Is that ok?
Thanks in advance! — Ken
Can’t hardly say if you are masturbating to porn too much. I mean, what is too much anyway? And since you don’t go into detail; I’ll let that issue rest.
What I can tell you is that partnered sex, regardless of the activity (blowjobs, hand jobs or 
full-on fucking) is a whole lot different than solo sex (with or without porn). I can also assure you that your body has become sensitized to your particular grip and stroke over the years of you pullin your own pud. Another person’s grip and stroke (pussy or asshole) will rarely satisfy in the same efficient manner. This is not a bad thing, necessarily, but you do have to keep that in mind. And perhaps your sexual response will change with time as you enjoy more and varied partnered sex.
In terms of you taking too long (whatever that means) to cum when you are with a partner, maybe you need to quit trying so hard to get off and lay back and enjoy the sensations you’re getting from your partner. And here’s a tip; use your biggest sex organ, your brain, to replay some of that hot porn action in your head while you are gettin head. That will surely hasten things along, if ya know what I mean.
In terms of your next question about keeping your hole clean; you may have misunderstood previous comments I’ve made about anal douching. Soap and water is the preferred method of keeping the outside of your ass clean. And while you’re scrubbin’ your crack, you could use your fingertip to clean out your rosebud. But don’t force soap beyond your sphincter. You have delicate membranes in your rectum that will be irritated by the soap, even a mild soap.
If you need to douche, I suggest a solution of a few drops of lemon juice in warm water. Some men prefer the convenience of a shower bidet.
Name: Mike P
Gender: Male
Age: 25
Location: Los Angeles
My girlfriend needs to watch lesbian porn to get off and sometimes kicks me out of the bedroom to masturbate by herself. Initially I was turned on by her desire to watch porn — but now — it’s become a blockage. She always needs porn. I am frustrated and to make things worse — she has started abusing me through financial manipulation. I have to pay her rent — pay for her food, pay everything — and she never gives me nookie.
Should I leave this woman?
Time to wake up, fella! Your “girlfriend” — and I use that term very loosely — is decidedly 
not YOUR girlfriend, and possibly not any man’s girlfriend. I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and say; I think your “girlfriend” is a certifiable, died-in-the wool, muff-divin’, coochie-lovin’ lesbiterian. All that remains for her to do, to make the picture perfectly clear…even for you, is to show up one day in a mullet and a flannel shirt. Holy cow, Mike, how is it that you are missing the obvious?
Listen, bub, you’re excess baggage. Your “friend” keeps you around for comic relief…oh and to foot the bill.
Should you leave this woman; you ask. Honey, she’s beaten you to the punch on that one. She’s long gone and done left you way behind, at least emotionally and sexually. All you need to do is find the door, say good-bye to this sorry situation and make a hasty exit.
Name: Michelle
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Location: Canada
Tips to help when the man you’re sleeping with has a small penis.
Tips? No pun intended, I hope.
Ok, here goes — Tip #1, grin and bear it. Tip #2, find a guy with more pork. Tip #3, get a dildo. Tip #4, find a sexual position, like doggie style, that will make the most of every little bit of pecker the poor guy’s got. Tip #5, remember it ain’t always da meat, but it is always da motion.
Ok, seriously I do have a couple of suggestions beyond the flippant ones I just mentioned. For example, Tip #3 still stands. Find yourself a dildo, one that your partner can wield when he’s around. If you introduce the concept in a positive way, you may find that Mr. Mini-meat will go for it big time. You see, most guys with small endowments already know they may have a problem satisfying some women (or men for that matter). But most guys, regardless of cock size, are always interested in pleasuring their partner, even when it’s not with their own magic wand.
May I suggest that you check out the swell array of dildos available at Dr Dick’s Stockroom? You’ll find a link to this treasure trove on the top of this page. Hey, you may even want to shop online together. You may be surprised at the one your guy picks out for you.
While you lovebirds are checking out the dildo section at Dr Dick’s Stockroom, take a moment to search for a Cyberskin Penis Extension.
You’re gonna love this. The new Cyberskin line of products represents a significant advance in pecker extensions that feel like the real thing. The rubber on the surface of this extension feels hauntingly like human skin. But the inside part of the (1.5″ or 3″) extension is much firmer. It is soft and supple on the surface, but hard and rigid inside. Mmmm, hard and rigid!
Visually, the shape, texture, and coloration of these extensions are designed to create a 
realistic effect as well. They look realistic and they feel realistic.
There’s a trick to putting on one of these puppies, don’t ‘cha know. You roll up the sleeve until it’s all the way up around the extension. Then place it against the head of your guy’s stiff dick. Roll the bugger down snugly around his unit, sealing his peanut inside the sleeve. A partial seal will form, helping keep the extension on during the fuck-fest.
Wearing this extension will add both length and thickness to his precious willie. It will of course reduce the sensation in his cock, but that’s not always bad thing. Guys with a short fuse may find the decrease in stimulation an aid to controlling his ejaculation, while he’s giving more and longer pleasure to his partner. And a lot of guys love the feeling of having their cock sealed inside the rubbery sleeve. Mmmm, sealed inside rubbery sleeve!
Name: Jack
Gender: Male
Age: 42
Location: Milwaukee
I’ve been dating this guy for over a year. He is the love of my life. I love him so much, but he treats me like shit. I met him on vacation in Florida. He’s 26 a stunning, 6’3” 200lbs, blond surfer Adonis. And excuse me for being so graphic; he has the biggest dick I’d ever seen. The first time we had sex I saw stars. He filled me up like no other person has.
When I got home we exchanged emails nearly every day and even had some hot phone sex a couple of times. He was down on his luck, because he lost his barista job for coming to work stoned too many times. I know I shouldn’t have, but I invited him to come live with me. I flew him up, but I told him that this wouldn’t be a free ride, he’d have to stop smoking so much dope and get a job and he agreed.
The sex was fantastic for the first couple of months, but once he established himself as a star at the gym he found his own friends and now I don’t see too much of him. He eats my food and drinks my liquor and drives my car. I pay for his cloths and gym membership. He has yet to find a job.
I know I should just end it, but I love him and I would really miss the sex. My friends ridicule me for thinking he loves me as much as I love him. They tell me they know he sees other guys. I’m so turned around I don’t know what to do.
Like my momma always used to say: if it’s got wheels or a dick, you know you’re gonna have problems with it. And I would add, if it’s got big wheels or a big dick you know you’re gonna have BIG problems with it.
Before we turn our attention to your no good boyfriend, let me make a few quick 
observations about you. You’re a freakin’ mess, girlfriend! I mean really, you’ve broken all the cardinal rules about dating a hustler. I know, I can hear you now…oh no Dr Dick, he’s not a hustler; he’s a good kid who’s just down on his luck and I’m just trying to help. Bullshit!
Ya see, that’s the first cardinal rule of dating a hustler is never lose sight of the fact that he’s a hustler and you’re his john. Don’t get me wrong; I have the deepest admiration for hustlers and their johns. It’s just that this arrangement only works if everyone is clear about the ground rules. And here are the ground rules — rich older gentleman connects with needy younger hunky stud for mutual benefit. Rich older gentleman keeps needy younger hunky stud in room and board, booze, cloths, car, gym membership and the like; and needy younger hunky stud buggers rich older gentleman senseless with his big blond surfer-boy dick. Get it? Got it? Good!
Second cardinal rule — what happens on vacation should stay on vacation. Vacation sex, as wonderful and delicious as it may be, does not transplant very well to your non-vacation life. You’re more likely to have success transplanting a delicate tropical orchid to your Milwaukee backyard than transplanting a vacation hustler fuck to your work-a-day world back home.
Third cardinal rule —don’t try to gloss a perfectly fine, fully functional and even an affectionate hustler/john relationship with talk of love. It’s unnecessary, unseemly and untrue. It’s lust, it’s limerence, it’s love sickness, whatever…it’s just not love. Because LOVE don’t ever make you feel as bad as you’re feelin’. Probably your friends would have less difficulty with your mooning over this guy if you were more honest about the nature of this relationship. They wouldn’t be rubbing your face in the evidence that surfer-boy is pluggin’ other dudes.
Fourth cardinal rule — a size queen, like you Jack, should admit that you are enamored with the guy hose and how it fills you up plain and simple. To pretend that you would string yourself out like this for a guy with tiny meat is just that — pretense. Listen, there’s nothin’ wrong with bein’ a size queen, it’s the dishonesty I object to.
How is this young fella ever supposed to respect you when you don’t respect for yourself? He probably had you pegged (no pun intended) back on the beach in the sunshine state. He knows you will tolerate his misbehavior, which of course gives him permission to do whatever he feels like doing whenever he feel like doing it. And now he don’t even have to give up the occasional mercy fuck any more, even though that was surely part of the deal at the get go, right?
So the waif has yet to find a job after a year, huh? Why is that not surprising? But even a hustler needs his mad money, besides what is doled out to him by his long-suffering john. I’d be willing to guess Mr. surfer dude is turning tricks to keep himself in weed and other essentials.
Thing is, this fellow probably would have treated you better if you would have just stuck to the hustler/john script. Ya see, kids like this need structure. He may have looked to you for this at one time, but when he realized that he had you cock-whipped, the teachable moment evaporated. This lad is probably like most other boys with big dicks. They learn early on that their cock gives them enormous power, because it is the object of desire for so many. He soon discovered that you were no different than all the other men (and some women) in his life — only interested in owning a piece of his sizeable endowment. And so he turned the tables on you. You can hardly fault the guy. You try to manipulate him with your money. He outwits you and manipulates you with his johnson.
If you’re really serious about reining in the little monkey, you’d better come up with a clear, unambiguous message about what you will and will not tolerate. And it better be something more than “I expect you to bone my scrawny middle-aged ass on occasion.” Because, until you do, he will roam wherever and whenever he wants.
There are many root causes for his behavior, just like there are many root causes for your behavior. But since I’m talking to you, not him, I suggest that you get to the bottom of all of this by investing a good deal of time and energy with a competent sex-positive therapist. There’s one thing I can say for certain, if the status quo continues your resentment will boil over one day and there will be violence, the kind of violence that you may not think yourself capable of now. But violence there will be; you can bank on it!
Is there enough goodwill between the two of you to resolve this unfortunate situation amicably? Who knows! If I had to guess, I’d say there was a slim to no chance for that. If that’s the case, I advise you pack him up and put him on the next plane south. And no more relationships for you, particularly with unemployed young men with massive schlongs, till you get your head screwed on tighter.
Good Luck ya’ll
Hey sex fans,
This is our special end of the year show. We’ll be taking two weeks off for our well-deserved annual holiday break. Today we have a bunch of Q&A, a little sexual enrichment programming and my 2009 tribute to all the wonderful guests that have graced this year’s podcasts in The Erotic Mind series and the Sex EDGE-U-cation series.
Among today’s correspondents are:
- Bottom Wannabe is a dirty fuck.
- Alvaro only dribbles; he does not shoot.
- Marcus is freaked out by his own dick!
- We also have a bunch of cock and ball questions.
- I’m asked my thoughts on circumcision.
- And what I think are the key ingredients for a healthy, happy sex life.
See a slideshow of all my wonderful guests for 2009.
Click on the thumbnails below.
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: The Holiday Sale at Eden Fantasys.
Because The Dr Dick Review Crew has been inundated with loads of swell adult products to review, we will be presenting several different toys each week till we relieve the backlog.
Despite it not even being Halloween yet, I know from my forays into the land of retail that holiday gift giving is not far from the minds of a lot of people. Perish the thought! So expediting our reviews will also give you loads of gift-giving ideas. And that, my friends, is all I’m gonna say about that till at least the middle of next month when we launch our annual Holiday Gift Giving Guide.
Today we will hear from Review Crew Members: Madora, Joy & Dixie, Brad and Glenn & Hank. So without further ado…
There’s something brand-spankin new goin on at Fleshlight. Here’s Brad to tell us all about it.
Sex In A Can: Spread Eagle Brew —— $39.95
The Fleshlight company has been around for a lone time. They make the legendary Fleshlight and Fleshjack. I’m the proud owner of my very own Fleshlight; it is my go-to toy for spankin the monkey. I never get tired of my Fleshlight and I wouldn’t give it up for the world. That’s way I wanted to review their new product: Sex In A Can.
I am of the mind that foolin’ around with or trying to improve on a great product, an icon even, will sure enough just fuck things up. I just couldn’t see why the Fleshlight people were tempting fate by bring outSex In A Can. But I promised Dr Dick that I would set aside my preconceived ideas and approach this new product with an open mind.
Damn! I’ll be the first to admit, I was totally off base in thinking the iconic Fleshlight couldn’t be improved upon. Wait, improved is not the word I’m looking for, because Sex In A Can doesn’t really improve on the original design, it just gives the consumer yet another option.
Those of you familiar with Fleshlight will know that every customer can pretty much customize every aspect of the unit he wants to buy. They have several “orifice” options: pussy, mouth, asshole or “neutral”. The plastic case comes in silver, black or clear. The insert comes in different colors, and there are several different internal contours for the insert itself.
Sex In A Can is basically just another option in terms of size and shape. Here’s what I mean. Sex In A Can is shaped like a tallboy beer, instead of the traditional oversized Fleshlight shape. It is lighter, more compact, less expensive, yet it has all the features of its big brothers.
There are three brand new “orifice” options — two different pussies (Mmmm, pussies!) and a mouth. Three new insert contours too. Everything else — including the patented Superskin insert remains the same. The plastic case, the thing that looks like a tallboy beer, has removable caps at both ends, as does the Fleshlight. The top cap covers the head of the insert and keeps it clean when your dick’s not in it. The end cap can also be removed for easy cleaning.
Just like the Fleshlight, ya gotta loosen the end cap a bit before you attempt to stick in your dick. Sex In A Can is a whole lot tighter than my stalwart Fleshlight. In fact, bein the hefty-cock brother I am, it was a very tight squeeze. I had to use a shitload of lube just to get me started. Oh, and by the way, you can only use water-based lube with all the Fleshlight Superskin products. Here’s a tip: you adjust the suction created inside Sex In A Can by either loosening or tightening the base cap.
Clean up is a super-easy. A little soap and water will do the trick. But once the insert is dry, you have to dust it, inside and out, with a little cornstarch, or body powder. This will help keep things as fresh as the day you got it.
MySex In A Can: Spread Eagle Brew, came with the Pink Spread Lady orifice; (Mmmm, pussies!) mini vortex insert; the cleverly designed beer can case; and sample packet of lube.
FULL REVIEW HERE
Sex furniture? You betcha! Glenn & Hank walk you around this offering from the amazing folks at Liberator.
Liberator Ramp —— $200.00
Glenn: “Check this out! This is the best thing that’s happened to butt fuckin since the invention of the sling. The Ramp is just one of Liberator’s many sex furniture shapes that are designed to add more fun and lessen bodily stress for whatever kind of sex you have up your sleeve.”
Hank: “Or down your pant leg, as the case may be. We got us a plus sized Ramp and it is covered in black pleather. But you can choose from a bunch of sizes and fabric options.”
Glenn: “Pleather is great, because it cleans up fast. And that’s a big plus because our sessions can get pretty messy.”
Hank: “Ok, so what is the Liberator Ramp exactly and why is even better than a sling, or a swing for that matter? Good questions. The Liberator Ramp is a big triangular shaped, sturdy, comfy and solidly made cushion. Ours is 29” X 35” X 12”. And it can be used in a multitude of ways.”
Glenn: “It’s better than a sling or swing, because it’s portable, storable and you don’t have to suspend it from the ceiling, or set it up every time you want to shag. It does stow easily under the bed. It’s perfect for butt fuckin, because regardless of what position you like the Liberator Ramp is gonna make the sex a whole lot better for the top as well as the bottom.”
Hank: “Glenn likes it doggie style. I just bend him over the Ramp and plow away at his ass. It’s easier on me, because his ass is elevated to just the right position for the ass-ult. I can go as deep as possible, because his pelvis is supported by the Ramp. Oh, and ya can’t really do doggie style in a sling or swing!”
Glenn: “Hank is right! I don’t have to arch my back or strain my arms and wrists pressing back against his manly thrusts. But he can still grab my hair and pull.”
Hank: “You joke, but I know you love it deep and heavy. You’re just a dirty little piggy bottom, aren’t you?”
Glenn: “Oink, oink! I do enjoy a furious ride, that’s for damn sure. Ok, so if you want to do another position, all you do is reposition yourself on the Ramp for a little face-to-face action. Like I lay down on the Ramp, with my head at the lowest part of the incline. I scoot my butt to the highest edge of the incline.”
Hank: “Again, his ass is perfectly positioned for me to fuck him silly. With Glenn already angled down, I can lift and open his legs with ease.”
Glenn: “My toes are pointed to Jesus, and I’m in fuckin’ heaven.”
Hank: “Oh, the Ramp is great for cocksucking too. I just lay back on the Ramp, in the position Glenn just described, which elevates my hips 12” off the floor. Glenn has all the access he needs to my dick, balls and rosebud. He can service me till his heart’s content.”
Glenn: “Again, there no stress or strain on my neck or back while I blow him. And in this position Hank can grab his knees and pull open his own legs. PERFECT!”
FULL REVIEW HERE
Joy & Dixie have the pleasure of introducing you to a new kid on the block, Duncan Charles Designs. They specialize in unique, handcrafted ceramic adult toys.
Signature —— $55.00
Dixie: “Here’s something refreshing, this ceramic textured dildo is handmade! I’m so tired of mass-produced sex toys, aren’t you? Oh to have something unique, something that is crafted not manufactured.”
Joy: “Dixie is so right; I love knowing that no one else on the planet had precisely the same toy as we have. Each Duncan Charles Designs piece is unlike any other. In fact, it’s beautiful art. And it is GREEN!”
Dixie: “Signature has a food grade high-gloss coating that makes it as smooth as glass. But it is also textured, just the way we like it. Despite it being ceramic, there is nothing fussy about this beauty.”
Joy: “However, you will want to treat Signature with loving care, not because it’s fragile, but because it is a fine-looking sculpture.”
Dixie: “Signature comes wrapped in a lovely lined ultrasuede pouch. Ours is jet black, but it also comes in red. It’s just under 8″ long and weighs in at just over 8 ounces.”
Joy: “It has a rounded head on top of its scalloped shaft. The ridges add immeasurable fun. Because of the super high-gloss finish, we only had to use a little bit of lube. And you can use any type of lube you want with this ceramic baby.”
Dixie: “This dildo is designed for g-spot, clitoral or prostate massage. Unlike most of the other G-spot stimulators that have a curve to them Signature is straight as an arrow. And yet it is just as effective as the curved ones.”
Joy: “I also really like the fact that I can warm and chill the Signature to suit my mood. You can chill it in the refrigerator for a few minutes or warm it by placing it under running hot water.”
FULL REVIEW HERE
Finally, Madora, has something fun from Big Teaze Toys to show you.
Super Flower Power: 2 Piece Bouquet —— $29.99
When I saw the Super Flower Power, two-piece bouquet at Dr. Dick’s I had to have it! It’s the cutest thing ever; a vibrator cleverly disguised as a daisy, complete with stem and soft removable petals, even a ladybug button that controls the 8 (EIGHT!) different “play modes”. It’s from Big Teaze Toys, the people that brought us the “Rub My Duckie“, rubber duck vibrator bathtub toy. Clearly it was adorable, but was it functional? I brought it home to find out.
Home; batteries included (triple A), YES! I love it when that happens. Inside there’s a bonus Flower Power keychain, a mini version of the vibe that looks like a little daisy without the stem, this one even comes with bonus extra batteries (the little watch kind), EXCELLENT!
My first impression is that the vibrating part, the center of the flower, is a little hard for me. At least for direct contact with my “flower”. The center of the flower is hard plastic. But I like the soft petals which spread the vibes out from its petals to yours. It’s like a gentle labia massage, which is cool and rare in a vibrator. These are especially nice if you use a little lube on the petals.
I’m starting to get used to the texture and hardness. I actually like it and like the strength of the vibe when I’m using it through my clothes, the barrier makes it not seem so hard and yet it’s still able to convey strong enough vibes right through to where they’re needed. I was thinking it could be fun for when you want to tease your partner right through her clothes. Did I mention these toys are waterproof?
All in all it definitely did the trick but when I really start to get into it, either with the vibe or the little keychain, the soft petal ring pops right off the vibrator. I either hafta kinda hold it on, or stop and put it back on, if I wanna keep playing with that part. So that’s a bummer.
The keychain has been a godsend. I’m on a trip right now and brought it with me and wasn’t concerned about security seeing it, It just looks like a toy. I ended up having cramps and everyone knows an orgasm is the best thing for cramps so I put it to use, you know, for medicinal purposes.
FULL REVIEW HERE
ENJOY
Hey sex fans!
We have a whole bunch of new Pjur products to introduce you to, so many new ones, in fact, that it will take us two weeks.
Everyone who reads our reviews regularly will already know we’re in the tank for Pjur. Just take a look at some of our previous reviews HERE and HERE!
Or just use the site’s search function, to your right. Type in Pjur; and presto!
For those of you who are new to Dr Dick Sex Toy Reviews, here’s the lowdown on Pjur (pronounced “pure”). It’s a German company that has been serving the US market since 1995. We think they are, hands down, the world’s best personal lubricants, sexual enhancers, and hygiene aids. To make sure you’re getting the real deal, look for the yellow dot on the package.
We have four products to tell you about today. But since they fall neatly into two categories we’ll review them that way. Review crew members, Angie and Carlos are here with their respective assessments.
Pjur Backdoor Anal Comfort Spray $22.95
An exceptional anal spray designed for men. Key ingredient, lauromacrogol*, lightly 
desensitizes the anal sphincter to increase his anal pleasure. No lydocaine or benzocaine. Only a few sprays needed per application.
Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide $22.95
Long-lasting silicone anal lube designed for men specifically to enhance the pleasure of anal intercourse. Like Pjur AnalyseMe!, but with a higher concentration of ingredients. Jojoba extracts help relax the anal sphincter enhancing the experience. Perfect for use in combination with Pjur Backdoor Anal Comfort Spray.
Carlos:
I’ve wanted to try these products since I began seeing them online. What. it must be a year ago by now. I’m pretty much still learning to explore my ass and so these products have helped me a lot by boosting my confidence.
My situation is different from a lot of guys I know. I’m married to a great woman who I love deeply. I’m also bisexual. My wife has been very supportive of me investigating my queer identity, so I’m thankful for that. She has no interest in pegging me. She thinks the whole idea of a strap-on is ridiculous. So that leaves me with the option of getting into my ass only with a male partner. It always has to be safe sex, of course.
However, the opportunities to play with a man are few and far between. Thus the 
need for a confidence building measure likes the Backdoor products. I have to use a lot of lube for anal play of any sort, so why not use one that will desensitizes my butt in the process. Makes perfectly good sense to me.
I used both products — Backdoor Anal Comfort Spray and Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide separately as well as together. For me the ideal is using them together. Although I can safely say that if I had to choose just one, I’d go with the lube, Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide.
Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide is very slick compared to a lot of the other water-based lubes I’ve tried. And you have to have a water-based lube when you’re using a latex condom.
I have the greatest confidence in the Pjur product line to bring me the highest quality lubes without all the chemical additives found in other similar products. Pjur products are dermatologist tested.
The promotional materials for the Backdoor line of products says it’s more concentrated, thus more powerful I guess, than the Pjur AnalyseMe! product. I can’t testify to that, because I haven’t had an opportunity to test them side-by-side. But you can read Mick and Chuck’s review HERE.
Full review HERE!
Pjur MyGlide Stimulating & Warming Lubricant $22.95
Water based personal lubricant and sexual enhancement product designed for women who desire more pleasure. Ginseng provides a natural stimulating and warming effect 
thus maximizing her sexual experience. Perfect for use in combination with Pjur MyGlide Stimulation Spray.
Pjur MySpray Stimulation Spray $22.95
A refreshingly different intimacy spray for women. This new formulation contains a unique blend of ingredients designed to stimulate vaginal blood circulation for ultimate arousal, enhancing the sexual experience. Only a few sprays needed per application.
Angie:
I turned 48 this past May. For the last year or so, I’ve been looking into a variety of things that I hoped would assist me in regaining my libido. I’m chalking this libido loss to growing older and the onset of menopause. I realize that I’m experiencing menopause somewhat earlier than most of my friends, which make the event all the more worrisome.
My husband is kind and generous and will often treat me to a backrub when I’m not in the mood. But I know he would rather be more intimate than that. I often feel bad putting him off as frequently as I do; that’s why I’ve been engaged in this search for libido enhancing products.
Like Carlos, I too used both products — MyGlide Stimulating & Warming 
Lubricant and MySpray Stimulation Spray separately as well as together. For me the ideal is using them together. Although I too will say that if I had to choose just one, I’d go with the MyGlide Stimulating & Warming Lubricant. The spray is an added and appreciated bonus.
The lubricant has a double effect; it both arouses and warms. And it does so with out harsh chemicals that would irritate sensitive skin like mine. I’ve tried other “warming” lubes and gels, but couldn’t tolerate any of them. MyGlide Stimulating & Warming Lubricant is water-based, which is my lubricant of choice. It’s so much easier to clean up than silicone-based lubes.
Like all the Pjur products, MyGlide Stimulating & Warming Lubricant is dermatologically tested and extremely gentle to your skin.
Using a personal lubricant is all the more important now that I’m menopausal. I never used to have to worry about dryness all that much in the past. So I figure, why not use a stimulating lube since I have to use a lube anyway. MyGlide Stimulating & Warming Lubricant provides just that, a wonderful tingly and warming sensation throughout my genitals.
The MySpray Stimulation Spray works in a different way than does the lubricant. It also provides a tingly sensation that feel like champagne bubbles on my skin. It’s really fun, I must confess. The combination of the lubricant and spray improves blood flow and circulation in my genitals and assists me with sexual arousal.
Full review HERE!
Tune in next week for more new Pjur products.
Three lucky members of the Dr Dick Review Crew have been having a gay old time with the new signature line of personal lubricants.
These particular lubes come from the good folks at Fleshlight and FleshJack.
We’re all pretty ga-ga about the fleshlight products here at Dr Dick’s Sex Toy Reviews. (Check out my review of the granddaddy of male masturbation toys HERE!)
So it comes as no surprise that these wizards have developed their own line of water-based lubes to go with their fine products, or that can be used on their own.
Today we welcome a new Review Crew Member, Madora. She joins Ken and Dixie, who introduce us to the new lubes.
Fleshlube Elements Pack $24.95
This Package Includes:
- 1 4oz. Bottle of Fleshlube Water
- 1 4oz. Bottle of Fleshlube Fire
- 1 4oz. Bottle of Fleshlube Ice
Fleshlube WATER
Madora
What can I say? There’s nothing I don’t love about Fleshlube WATER by the makers of the Fleshlight. It’s super smooth, weightless, light, it’s water based so it’s safe to use with my favorite silicone vibe (The PAPAYA Toy (“I call him Papi”) Rainbow silicone vibe, oh my). One of my favorite parts about it is that you use a little and then you just completely forget you’re using lube, it’s so natural feeling.
I’m not into putting tons of chemicals on my private parts so the fact that it’s got only five ingredients makes me terribly happy. The main ingredient is Purified water and it actually contains honeysuckle extract. Is it just me, or is honeysuckle an incredibly sexy word? Either way it fits right in.
So far I’ve only used it solo cause, well, I’m single right now and I’m the only one I love enough to get that close to my honeypot. It’s like a ménage trois with just me, my PAPAYA Toy, Rainbow (I will be posting my review of this gem in the weeks to come) and our close personal friend, Fleshlube WATER. Feel the love.
Fleshlube WATER is also hypoallergenic so it’s great for people with sensitive skin and it comes in a recyclable plastic bottle with a simple sleek design. If Fleshlube WATER Lubricant were the only lube I ever used for the rest of my life, I’d be totally fine with that.
Full review HERE!
Now here’s Dixie!
Fleshlube ICE
Dixie
Thanks Madora, and welcome to the Review Crew!
I have to agree with Madora about the attributes of Fleshlube ICE Lubricant; like the WATER lube that she used, mine is also silky smooth and lightweight. And of course, it’s water based so it’s safe to use with my silicone toys and latex condoms. So hurray for that! The “ice” or cooling effect is very nice too. Nothing overpowering, it’s more of a gentle sensation.
I took a slightly different tact with my review. I decided to dig deeper into the ingredients of this product. Madora mentioned honeysuckle extract. My lube also has honeysuckle extract. I had never heard of this additive before, so I thought I’d look that up on the interweb tubes. I discovered that in traditional Chinese medicine, honeysuckle is used to clear heat and toxins from the body. Recent studies in China found honeysuckle to be effective in reducing inflammation, fever, and infection. I think that’s really interesting.
Fleshlube ICE also contains glycerin. This might be a concern to some. Even though the vast majority of skin care, hair care and other products marketed as “moisturizing”, “hydrating” or “replenishing” use glycerin as one of their main active ingredients. Glycerin draws moisture from the lower layers of the skin and holds it on the surface. So some claim that basically you rob Peter to pay Paul, as it were
The ICE or cooling agent is: Menthyl Lactate, which is a cooling agent derived from an ester of menthol and lactic acid. An ester, I discovered, is a compound formed from alcohol and an acid by eliminating the water. I’m like getting this chemistry lesson along with my pleasuring.
Full review HERE!
Now here’s Ken!
Fleshlube FIRE
Ken
I have the Fleshlube FIRE lube. I think it’s great. It does have a nice warming component to it that kicked up my jerk-off session a notch. It felt really good on my dick and balls, but also on my butthole. I’m not big on insertions of any sort. I know, I know, I’m missing out…maybe one of these days. But still I do like a nice rim job. And since I can’t rim myself, this Fleshlube FIRE lubricant is the next best thing when I’m by myself.
I was all excited about turning my partner, Denise, on to Fleshlube FIRE, but she wasn’t nearly as enthusiastic as I was. She has really sensitive skin. I mean you can just look at her crooked and she breaks out with the heebee jeebees.
Once she had a look at the ingredients she nixed the idea of use on or with her. She was happy to see the lube was paraben-free. Apparently parabens can be found in shampoos, commercial moisturizers, shaving gels, cleansing gels, personal lubricants, topical pharmaceuticals and toothpaste. They are also used as food additives in some products.
Denise said that parabens can mimic the hormone estrogen, which is known to play a role in the development of breast cancers. It can also adversely affect the secretion of testosterone and the function of the male reproductive system. That pretty much sold me on avoiding parabens in the future, that’s for damn sure.
The next thing that concerned Denise was the additive: Propylene Glycol. I guess this is something like Glycerin, because it works as a hydrating factor, but it too draws moisture from the lower part of the skin to the surface giving only the impression of moisturizing (rather than actually doing it!).
Full review HERE!
Hey sex fans,
More Q&A today with the bonus links to my HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY (see the VOD tab at the top of the page?) that will further educate or enrich the person who is asking the question.
Think of it as at HOMEWORK or further study on the topic at hand. I hope all of you will benefit from this terrific instructional and enriching resource. (Click on the images below for viewing information.)
Name: Ramish
Gender: Male
Age: 19
Location: UK
I’m nervous about having sex? I have been masturbating since I was 11, but I can’t work up the courage to try it with anyone else. I don’t even know if I’m gay or straight. How do I get over being so nervous?
Holy cow, that is nervous. I suggest that you begin by taking stock of yourself — physically, emotionally and sexually. I’m gonna ask you some questions and you can take all the time you need to ponder your answers. Here’s a tip, write these down; and if you have difficulty answering any of them ask a buddy for his or her input.
What’s your best physical asset? Do you think of yourself as attractive in a sexual sort of 
way? If not, what could you do to spruce things up a little? Listen, the more comfortable you are in your own skin, the more confident you’ll be in connecting with other for sex and relationships. If you know yourself well enough to know your best assets, you’ll be able to put your best stuff forward, right?
What do you find sexually attractive about others — both women and men? Chances are that if you haven’t already discovered if you are straight or gay, you might be bi.
When you masturbate, what goes through your head? What are your sexual fantasies? Do you fantasize about sexual situations with others? Anything in particular? Anyone in particular?
When you say you are nervous about sex; does that have to do with possible rejection? Or is it more to do with performance — ya know, not knowing what to do once the situation arises, so to speak? Is there anyone you feel safe enough with, a pal perhaps, you could talk this through with? If you feel emotionally safe, or safe from potential shame and humiliation with this person, it might be easier to open up him or her. Just remember, everyone’s been were you are at one point in his or her life.
Are you comfortable with being nude, at least by yourself? Lots of people aren’t. Are you able to admire yourself in the mirror without comparing yourself to the unrealistic expectations about the human body that comes to us from the popular culture? If you are not comfortable with being naked, think about the reasons why you’re not. Again, if it’s body image issues, maybe you need to get in better shape, or just let go of your idealized notions about physical attractiveness.
Do you know about contraception and sexually transmitted infections? If you don’t, you’re not ready to have sex with anyone else. Do your homework. Know what you need to ask a prospective partner in terms of contraception and STIs before an encounter.
OK, so you’re familiar with pleasuring yourself. That’s a good start. Would you know how to pleasure a partner? If you’re not sure, I suggest that you do some research. There are all kinds of instructional videos out there. In fact, you’ll find just about everything you are looking for at DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.
One thing to remember, the best sex is a mutually satisfying experience. You and your potential partners are different people, with different desires, interests, personality and fantasies. Despite everything you might learn from an instructional video, there is no substitute for asking your partner what he/she likes. You’ll need to be able to respond in kind too. Being able to communicate your needs and desires is absolutely essential for a happy, fun-filled fuck.
Are you a good kisser? Do you know how to touch someone else without it being an invitation to sex? Do you know how to be affectionate, to be close and playful with someone simply for joy of it? I always suggest to my young clients that they learn how to give a good back rub or foot massage. Nonseductive touching is as important as knowing how to touch someone sexually. It’s also how some of the best sex play begins.
Are you making yourself available for a sexual connection? Nowadays the opportunities for connecting with others for companionship and/or sex abound. You don’t have to be aggressive in your pursuit, but it ain’t gonna fall in your lap either.
What would it take for you to feel comfortable initiating sex? This is, of course, the follow-up step to putting yourself out there. I realize this can be a bit intimidating, but you’re gonna have to push through this, pup. Think about why initiating sex or accepting an invitation to be sexual is difficult for you.
Are you able to be a good friend? The best sex is more than bumping parts. It’s a full human-to-human connection. If you know how to be a good friend, you’re more than half way there to being a good lover. There are all kinds of sexual expression — romantic to the passionate even spiritual. Sex can be a cuddly and romantic, or it can be hot monkey love.
It can be tender as well as intense. You ought to have the ability direct the flow, or at least go with it.
Do you have an adventuresome side to you? Do you like a challenge? Are you comfortable experimenting with one thing or another? If you are, you will find these are all valuable assets in making sex happen for you. There are still a whole lot of sex-negative messages out there in our society. You’ll need to be strong enough to stand against these repressive currents and pursue your heart’s desire.
In the end, a good sex life takes effort. It takes knowledge, practice and relationship skills. A degree of personal openness and a sense of fun and adventure are also very helpful. Learning more about yourself and what makes you tick, will give you an advantage when the time is ready for you to partner up for sex.
Name: Walter
Gender: Male
Age: 67
Location: Padre Island
I’m a recent widower, I haven’t dated in over 40 years. I’m still very interested in sex, but things don’t work like they used to down there. I had a comfortable life with my wife and performance was never an issue. Now that I’m on my own now, I’m afraid I will disappoint, if you know what I mean.
Yeah, I think I do know what you mean. Getting back into the swing of things after so many years on the shelf a daunting task. If you layer on sexual performance issues…well the task becomes even harder, no pun intended.
I know I don’t have to tell you this, but our bodies change as we age. Our sexual response cycle changes too. You are familiar with the four stages of the sexual response cycle, right? In case you are not, they are — arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Despite the changes that aging brings, there’s no good reason why you shouldn’t be able to enjoy a happy, healthy sex life. Of course, having a healthy mind-set about sex will also help.
A rich and full sex life, possibly even like the one you shared with your recently departed wife, will involve some patience and understanding and possibly some reprogramming of old ways of looking at sex. For example, performance issues are only a problem if you are expecting something of your body that it cannot deliver. And if you date within your age group, you’ll find that all your peers will be just as familiar as you with dwindling physical capacities.
So ok, it’s gonna take considerably longer to get a hardon at your age — that’s a given. This just means you need to take your time, increase and focus the stimulation and while your cock is taking its sweet time to point skyward, enjoy all the sensual pleasures coming your way in the meantime. That last part is really difficult for us aging men folk. Sometimes we concentrate so fiercely on gettin our dick hard that we miss all the great pleasuring stuff that is happening all around us.
Once you get your boner goin, I suggest that you add a little stiffy insurance. Wear a cockring. If you don’t know what that is, check out my Sex Toy Review Site. Use the search function; type in “cockring” and presto! You’ll find all kinds of information on these helpful little buggers.
I know a number of older men, particularly those with high blood pressure, who are unable to take erection-enhancing meds like Viagra, who are turning to penis pumps to get their wood started. Not sure what a penis pump is or does. Well, time to do more online research at my Sex Toy Review Site. Again, use the search function; type in “penis pump” and presto! Loads of information about these helpful tools will appear.
I’m hoping that when you say that you and your wife “had a comfortable life” together, where performance was never an issue that you’re telling me that your sex life wasn’t all about getting it up and getting it off. Sexual pleasure can come through all kinds of sex play — touching, talking, and being physically close, oral sex as well as full on fucking. I’d be willing to guess that your future partners will appreciate you being a fully sensual lover, not just a sexual performer.
Remember the proverbial cum shot is not the same thing as an orgasm. Lots of seasoned older men are able to be orgasmic without a full erection or an ejaculation. You may even find that you are capable of several very satisfying mini orgasms instead of the one BIG-O of years past. I encourage you not to fall into the trap of equating sexual functioning with manliness; that’s a dead end.
This challenging new phase in your life, daunting as it might be, can also be an exciting adventure of self-discovery. You basically have permission to re-imagine and redefine what type of sexual expression suits you best at this stage in your life. One good way of testing the waters, so to speak is to start with self-pleasuring. This is the perfect opportunity to experiment with sexual performance enhancing toys like a cockring, vibrator or a penis pump. If you haven’t done so already, why not discover the pleasures of your ass. Happily, you don’t need an erection to enjoy some good old-fashioned butt play; your prostate will do all the work.
You may discover you have new or yet unexplored interests in other sexual expressions like role-playing, kink, or maybe even same-sex partners. Just because your earlier life may have been pretty straight and vanilla, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The more you know about your body and what turns you on, the more information you’ll be able to share with your partners.
Unabashedly sharing your newfound sexual experiences and interests with others will be the basis for your future partnered sexual expression. Know that other women and men of your age group are also rediscovering and reawakening their sexuality. What a great joy it would be to explore the territory together.
I invite you to rekindle your natural curiosity about the wide range of human sexual expression. Take it slow. Learn to communicate effectively: share what makes you feel good with your partners and be sure to ask them what turns them on. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and keep it playful. And most of all, keep an open mind about all of this, will ya?
Good luck ya’ll
Name: Jackye
Gender: Female
Age: 32
Location: London.
Do you have a suggestion regarding sexual positions for easier anal sex?
I sure do, doll! Try it doggy style. It’s the most popular position for gettin’ it in the bum. It’s a very basic sex position, where the bottom bends over a bed, a couch, a chair, the whatnot shelf, and the top nails him or her in ass from behind. For obvious reasons, this position is also called as the rear entry position. And just so you know that we ain’t completely uncultured slobs here at Dr Dick’s Sex Advice, the Latin name for doggy style is coitus ferarum, which literally means ‘fucking in the manner of the beasts’.
Doggie style is a preferred position for most people of the female persuasion, because it allows the top to directly stimulate the chick’s G spot for that really yummy feeling. This position also allows for a hands-free fuck. The top can busy his/her hands fondling the bottom’s tits and all his/her junk in the trunk. Similarly, the bottom’s hands are also free to diddle him or herself and or grab somethin of the top’s, like his nuts or her taint.
There is no major exertion of limb muscles, just as long as the top bends his/her bottom over something high enough so that he/she won’t have to strain his/her knees while gettin that hot monkey love.
Politically correct folks think this sexual position is too submissive for a woman in straight sex. She being pretty much locked position, and under the control of the male top. But I say, fuck political correctness. If you like this position, use it. Better yet, once you get nailed, strap one on and give as good as you get.
Like everything in life, the doggie position has some drawbacks. An inexperienced bottom may encounter discomfort, because the top can penetrate very deep in this position. For the romantics among us, they’ll be unable to maintain eye contact or kiss during the fuck. And of course, there is also no frontal visual stimulation, unless you’re bumping in front of a mirror. Which is never a bad idea.
I suggest you try “the woman-on-top” — cowgirl position too. See the photo below. This position will provide you more control over the depth and speed of your partner’s thrusts.
Another swell position is the spoon position. Here the top lies on his/her side with knees bent slightly forward. The bottom lies in front, facing the other way and positions him/herself in such a way so that his/her butt lines up with the top’s dick or strap-on. This allows for a pretty much effortless fuck for both top and bottom. Folks have been known to fall asleep mid fuck in this position. Don’t let this happen to you. Hey, and it’s real easy for the couple to switch sides too.
The advantages of the spoon position are pretty clear, huh? Both the top and bottom are reclining. There is little to no exertion and it’s an ideal position for us older folk, or the truly jumbo among us. After the fuck is finished the couple can remain in this position for a very long time extending the afterglow.
The bottom can do the old reach around and grab somethin’ of the top’s to play with. The top can also reach around for easy access to tits and pussy or tits and cock. (Do you see how I’m going out of my way to be inclusive with instructions? I hope so.) And the lucky bottom gets the joy of being plugged and cuddled all at the same time. This might be a better option than doggie style for the inexperienced bottom, because he/she will have some control over the depth of the penetration.
While some folks think this position is downright boring, because it doesn’t involve much activity on the part of either top or bottom. The spoon position does get the politically correct seal of approval. It’s one of those egalitarian sexual positions, don’t cha know. Neither the top nor the bottom is in a superior position. Isn’t that special?
Name: Chad
Gender: male
Age: 25
Location: Alaska
My new girlfriend is 5 years older than me and she is a total freak. She has purple hair, 5 tattoos and a 7 piercings, including her labia. She wants me to get my dick pierced. I said I’d think about it, but she says I’m a pussy for putting it off. I know lots of guys have piercings, but is it safe?
I firmly believe in the right of every adult to augment, adorn and embellish, or in any other way customize his or her body. However, I draw the line at someone goading or harassing another person to do so. And it sounds to me like your freaky-deaky GF is badgering you to do just that. So if I were you, I’d tell her to back off till you can sanely make up your mind. It’s a good thing you’re being so thoughtful about this, because even though a piercing is not permanent, like a tattoo, there still are risks involved…more even than getting inked.
As body piercing becomes trendier in the popular culture, many people try to outdo each 
other with unusual piercings. However, all the most common piercings have their roots in the traditions of tribal peoples throughout the world.
The first thing you should know is that body piercing is an art form. It is best practiced by well-trained, highly qualified and seasoned professionals. If you entrust your body to an amateur you’re asking for trouble. Do your homework. As piercing establishments proliferate, some will be better than others. In most jurisdictions piercers and their salons are required to be registered and licensed. You might want to check your local health department for a information and recommendations.
Before you decide to proceed, visit the piercer in his/her shop. Ask questions. Ask them how they sterilize their instruments and jewelry (autoclaving is the only safe method). Nowadays, all needles should be single use instruments. They should be opened just prior to the piercing, and then disposed of immediately thereafter. If the shop offers other adornments, like tattooing, make sure the piercing is done in a separate room (for privacy as well as hygiene).
Most people are initially concerned with the pain involved in getting pierced. Depending on what you’re getting pierced, there will be moderate to a whole lot of pain. And that’s just the beginning. Once the jewelry is in place there will be at least 2-3 days when the piercing area is very sensitive to the touch. Because some areas of the body have more blood vessels than others, like your dick for example, expect some blood loss and a lot of swelling post-piercing. Trust me, gettin’ a boner afterwards will be your worst nightmare.
That being said, you will be amazed at how resilient your body’s is. It has a phenomenal ability to heal itself. Of course, the practitioner should provide you with detailed aftercare instructions. These will outline all the procedures and aftercare products you’ll need to attend to yourself while you heal. A word of caution, if your general health is compromised in anyway; if you are sick, run- down or over-worked, or immune-compromised in any way, your body’s ability to heal will be decreased and there will be an increase in the risk of infection.
As you heal, any pressure on a piercing has the potential to aggravate and inflame the site. You’d best refrain from contact sports, manual labor, or anything else that irritate your new piercing. Most piercings take a minimum of 6 weeks to heal. Wearing tight clothes, touching the piercing with dirty hands, contact with bodily fluids, rough treatment, and using inappropriate cleaning agents will diminish your body’s ability to heal and increase the risk of infection. Hey, and don’t skimp on the quality of jewelry you choose either. Poor grade jewelry can fuck up the piercing big time.
Given all the pain and risks, you might ask, why do people bother getting pierced at all? Well, that’s pretty easy to answer. Piercings aficionados agree; a piercing enhances sex by providing a greater degree of stimulation to one’s self and one’s partner.
The most popular cock piercings is the Prince Albert. It has the fastest healing time and is considered the most sexually appealing of cock piercings. It enters the urethra and exits immediately behind the glans on the underside of the cock. There is a variation called the reverse Prince Albert, which enters the urethra and exits on the top of the dick head. This piercing requires less cleaning than most since urine aids in the healing process. However afterwards, most men find that they have to sit down to pee or they dribble all over themselves. You’ll need to allow one week of sexual abstinence post piercing and 2-4 months for it to heal completely. In the interim always use a condom until you’re fully healed.
Good luck ya’ll
Don’t forget the Seattle Fetish & Fantasy Festival!
Lookin’ for a little somethin’ that will perk up that ho-hum sex life of yours? I thought so. Well then, here’s your opportunity to learn a few new tricks. (Along with a slew of other sex-positive adults of every persuasion.)
I’ll be there, so you know it’s gonna be good. Hell, if you’re lucky, and register early, you can even take one of my workshops. YOU CAN REGISTER ONLINE!
April 10-11, 2009
2 Days of Classes,
Music & Food
Be there or be square!
Name: ??
Gender: Male
Age: 33
Location: Miami
I have two unrelated questions: 1. I love anal sex but am concerned that as I age I run the risk of eventually becoming incontinent due to the sexual activity down there. Is 
this a valid concern or will my sphincter remain tight enough to hold everything in? I’ve read conflicting opinions. 2. My boyfriend likes the twinks. We’ve been together for about four years and even though I’m only a year younger (he‚s 35), part of the reason he’s attracted to me is my youthful appearance. We have a wonderful relationship — supportive and loving and the sex is great! We even have a semi-open relationship, which is working fine for us so far. However, I’m concerned that at some point he may try something with someone under 18. He enjoys visiting those Barely Legal type porn sites (which hold no interest for me and look illegal). I’ve discussed my concerns with him, and he says I have nothing to worry about because he’d never do anything. But on the other hand, he’s not the most disciplined person in the world. I’m worried that if the opportunity presented itself he wouldn’t be able to resist. If that happened, it would then present emotional and moral problems not to mention legal issues not just for him but (I’m assuming) for me as well. I guess
I’m not sure what my question is. I know the gay community (and really the world) is obsessed with youth, but does this sound like more than that? Do I have a legitimate concern, or am I being a prude? Obviously you don’t know my boyfriend, but I can’t discern if he just enjoys the fantasy of a younger man/boy or if this could become a problem. If it’s just a fantasy then I have no problem letting him have his fun. Heck, he can fuck all the 20 year olds he wants as far as I’m concerned. (Maybe this stems from my insecurity of growing older even though he insists he will love me even when I’m old and grey). But, if this is more than a fantasy then what do I do?
Thanks, Dr. Dick! Your faithful reader
Let’s address your two concerns in turn. First, regarding your ass sex question. Your typical butt-pirate has nothing to worry about in terms of becoming incontinent. However, you oughta do what every power bottom does to stay in tip-top shape down there — Kegel exercises.
Don’t know kegel exercises from a hole in your head? Not to worry. I’ve written and spoken so much about this timely topic, whicht applies to both men and women, I barely have the energy to repeat myself. So I won’t!
All ya gotta do is use the SEARCH function in the sidebar to your right. Simply type in the keyword “kegels” and PRESTO! Just like magic, all my posting and podcasts that include that topic are displayed. You can read and listen till your heart’s content.
To your other concern, the one about your BF’s interest in the barely-legal crowd; there’s not much you can do about this one way or another. Most of the adult people I know who have a thing for the young ones keep it on a purely fantasy level. Those who stray off the daydream path and onto a course of actual pursuit find themselves in all kinds of jeopardy. Not lest of which is the ridiculous nature of the quest. Sounds to me like your BF already knows all of this. But if he doesn’t, it’ll be he who pays, not you.
My advice to you is; take him at his word and worry not.
Name: james
Gender: Male
Age: 48
Location: sutton in ashfield
I have large veins that stick out on my testicles are these anything to worry about
Some guys have smooth balls; some guys have hairy balls; some guys have veiny balls and some guy’s balls are all shriveled up. That’s all 
there is to it.
As we age some of us develop varicose veins in our lower extremities. It’s the force of gravity, don’t cha know. Varicose veins can occur in our nut sack too. Sometimes this is associated with wearing a too tight cockring for too long a time. But it is just as likely to be an issue of genetics. Not much you can do about it and there is no real danger.
If you aren’t experiencing any discomfort in your family jewels, things are probably ok and I wouldn’t worry. However, if you are anxious about this, or there is soreness or tenderness or you have other concerns; take your huevos to an MD and have ‘em checked out. Simple as all that!
Name: Marcus
Gender: Male
Age: 47
Location: Southeast US
I am intrigued by nipple suction pumps, but cannot find much information about their effectiveness on guys. How long do your nipples stay enlarged? Is there any risk or danger in using one of these contraptions? Thanks for any help/direction you can give!
Nipple play is fun for both women and men. There are several ways of enlarging one’s nipples. There are low-tech suction devices, metal stretchers and the more high-tech vacuum devices. All of these systems are very popular. Have a look in My Stockroom for some examples. Just search the site using the key word “nipple”.
Wireless Vibrating Nipple Clamps (D120) $32.00
Tit Tuggers (C656) $125.00
The Titilizer (A237) $16.50
10-Piece Cupping Set (B264) $57.00
Snake Bite Kit (A300) $8.00
Nipple Suction Device (B092) $18.00
If you are a casual tit-torturer your nipples will stay enlarged for a few hours. If you are a hardcore tit-torturer you can completely and permanently alter the look of your nipples. Is there a risk or is there danger? Not unless you overdo it.
Name: Tara
Gender: Female
Age: 25
Location: Hoboken, NJ
I got this cute guy friend who’s asked if he can come on my vacation to Bangor, Maine (Stephen King’s home!). So I asked this guy, who’s single, if he wants one bed or two. He said it didn’t matter, so I booked one bed at the hotel. Does this mean he wants to have sex with me? I’m dumping down a ton of money, so I hope so!
How the hell should I know? He could be hot to get in your pants, or he might simply need an all expense paid holiday.
Why not just ask him. What’s with the coy routine? Of course, you could do like the hippies used to do and tell your cute guy friend — “Ass, gas or grass! No one rides for free.”
Hi, I have a question that I can not ask anyone else so I found your web site and would really appreciate your advice. Ok, so when I have sex sometimes instead of cuming when I have an orgasm, I pee. Sometimes I do cum though. But when it feels really good and I release, I release pee instead of cum. I just want to know if this happens to other people, and why this happens. And can I fix this. What can I do to make this not happen? I don’t like it happening. I feel bad for my boyfriend who has to have pee on his penis. Please, please, please take the time to reply to me. Thank you for your time. Have a great day.
— Anonymous.
Are you sure that what you are experiencing is pee? Could it possibly be that you are ejaculating? For a good deal of information on this, check out the site called The Clitoris.
Of course, lots of women feel like they have to pee when they cum. In fact, lots of women actually do pee as they cum.
If indeed you are peeing when you cum, I’d say you are experiencing what we in the business call — stress incontinence.
Stress incontinence can happen just about any time. Anxiety, stress, working out, jogging, fucking 
can all trigger this type of incontinence.
Curiously enough, research shows that younger women actually have more stress incontinence during sex than do older women. While only 3% of women over age 65 reported incontinence during sexual activity, 29% of women under age 60 did.
Regardless of the cause of the stress incontinence — nervousness, exercise or sex there is one common denominator. It’s always related to the strength of a woman’s pelvic floor muscles. The weaker those muscles are, the more likely a woman will leak pee during physical exercise, fucking, sneezing or even laughing.
While many women experience stress incontinence from time to time, there’s a relatively simple solution to the problem. Your pelvic muscles and the tissues surrounding them get stretched out and damaged with time. Pregnancies will also do a number on these muscles. They also weaken with age. And if you are overweight, well that will weaken pelvic floor muscles too as well as add to the likelihood of stress incontinence.
So you might be asking right about now, what IS this simple solution? Why, it’s Kegel exercises, of course. (See my response to the first correspondent above.)
Good luck ya’ll
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